I was born in Havana Cuba along with my other brothers and sisters my parents were both doing drugs at the time so was sent to America to start a new life. I was 5 yeas old at tha time i am now 20, my step parents wasnt wat you would call nice at all they beat us everyday and locked us in a basement. my other brothers and sisters got out but a few of us, they didnt like us because we had brown skin and they was white. my step father raped us gurls and i ran away when i was 11 i fell in love with someone much older than me and i got pregnant. i wasnt ready to be a mother so my oldest sister helped me, my step parents found me and made me come back everyone i told they told them i was lying but i wasnt. my whole life i was beatin and to make everything worse my uncle killed his self in front of me. at this time in my life im so stressed and depressed and my gurlfriend couldnt give a **** about any of this she wont even help me.. idk what to do im having the worst nightmares of my life...
2007-01-24 21:39:30 · 7 answers · asked by kat velez 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I sympathize with the hurts and pain you are going through. From age 5 to 20 is suppose to be your development and best time of your life. No self help answer can solve this pain that you are going through because you can't solve it your self.
To start, you first have to love your self. You don't know what "real" love is, if you don't know how to love you. Both girl friends can be supportive but neither can help you. You have to solve this of you.
You need a professional councilor. The sooner you start getting your pain fix, the sooner will be your recovery. Get yourself help first and later you will be able to deal with all the other issues in your life. Look for a contact in the church or school nearest you, as early as you can.
Hoping for your recovery Good Luck.
2007-01-24 22:23:35 · answer #1 · answered by . 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry you have had such a rotten life so far. You are only 20 and must feel much older. What to do. Hon, you need professional help. If you cannot afford it go to your local mental health agency and they will help you find a therapist that will be free or will only charge you what you can afford to pay. Next go to the police and tell them about the sexual abuse. your step father needs to pay for what he did to you. You could tell the police about the physical abuse too but I don't know if they can do anything about that at this point. How old is your child? How is he or she being cared for? You do not want your child to have a life like you had and if your sister is caring for the child she may have only those kind of esperiences to guide her. Too often children who are abused become abusive parents. If this is the case I would see that your child is with you or perhaps you could put him or her in foster care. Not too many good solutions. As to your girlfriend if she does not care about your depression and the reasons for it I think I would find a new girlfriend. Still the first thing is to get yourself help. You will be a better mother, friend, and lover if you can learn to love yourself. These experiences will shape you but you are the one who says what that shape will be. You did not do anything wrong but many wrongs were done to you. I will say a prayer for you and wish you many good things for the rest of your life you have earned them.
2007-01-24 22:25:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have my sympathy and consolations and so have your siblings. From what I hear, people don't let go of their past until they face or confront the source of their anger. Is it because your "so-called" parents are still lurking around? I'd suggest that you find a lawyer online and email to ask if there's no statution of limits on such crime. They should be in prison, not in the house of horror. What happened to you guys is very, very wrong and you didn't deserve it. IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT. It's hard not to have nightmares even if they get caught. You can receive some therapy to control stress level or lessen depression. Your sister can watch your kid for a while. A mother needs to be strong and she protects her child from that kind of thing and that means you are looking out for the best interest of your child. Remember that you're not only one survivor out there and people like us work together to bring justice to this. The best thing you can do is to fight. Fight for your life and for your kid.
2007-01-24 23:59:09 · answer #3 · answered by azngurl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all i am so sorry to hear this and it brought tears to my eyes. Your gf isnt your gf unless she cares for you endlessly, i know its hard but i would suggest leaving her and finding someone who cares for you and loves you and can help you through your past. The last thing you need in your life is to be treated without respect all over again.
I would suggest professional help and if that is too hard try a phone service where it is annonimus and therefor you can talk to someone and get advice on what to do.
I commend you on pulling through all of this and i think you are an extremely strong person. You have done so well to be able to even repeat this and i think that if you repeated that story to a councilor, you will feel so much more releaved, i did. And dont feel weird about it, you are one of many people that go into places like that, they have had all kinds of people in with all kinds of problems, and again if you want to remain annon, i would reccomend a phone service, try typing phone councilling into google search engine
Good luck sweetie xoxoxoxo
Please email me and let me know how you go. Stay strong and enjoy the rest of your life
2007-01-24 23:00:24 · answer #4 · answered by fi_beans90 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When thou liest down thou shalt not be afriad, yea thou shalt lie down and thy sleep shall be sweet. Romans 3:24 I beleive is where it is found.
this is a scripture that I live by. My whole life has been like yours, a living Hell at times. I am sorry that you are going through this. You really need counseling to help you, but if you beleive in the Bible and in Gods word, the scriptures come alive and they will help you to heal.
If you don't beleive in God, it is OK I am not here to preach at you, I am here to let you know I feel your pain. I know some of the tourment that you deal with. Happiness is a choice, and you are going to have to dig real deep for it at this point but it is there.
Again seek out counseling, it is ok to cry.
2007-01-25 10:06:34 · answer #5 · answered by trhwsh 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Too heavy to deal with on your own - dont even try. Begin by finding professional help. These people are objective and can guide you where to begin in your journey of healing the wounds of the past.
2007-01-24 21:53:51 · answer #6 · answered by kelstar 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a difficulty letting bypass of any of my previous boyfriends. Then i found David. We broke up and actually couldn't stay without eachother so now we are jointly lmao and about to get married. in case you could stay without him you only go with to be his chum of say hello from time to time, do not. only ignore about it and genuinely ultimately it is going away.
2016-10-16 02:08:07 · answer #7 · answered by debbie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋