Am I obsessed with my crush?

Question

I have dated many others, but he is all I think about. Ever since the first time I met him, something about him is different. I compare other men to him and none of them seem to even come close to him. I got it in my mind im not going to be happy unless I have him. We are friends but I am nervous about telling him my feelings. If he rejects me I will have to move on but it will crush me. It's been a few years of crushing and neither of us have the balls to make a move. I am growing impatient and I have to get this off my chest before I can move on. Just seems werid that I like this guy after all this time, and to shy to make a move and the thought of him with another girl all but kills me. I doubt we can remain friends if he doesn't want to be with me. Its to much pain..

Answer 1

Well, from your description, I think it's perfectly obvious that you are in no way obsessed with your crush.

Um, yeah. And Tom Cruise is in no way insane.

Answer 2

Before you approach him, you need to stop and take a realistic look at everything. Idealizing a person can be damaging to the possible relationship at best and dangerous at worst. Take some time to be sure what it is you want. Without comparing him to anyone, think of the things you find appealing about him and the reasons you want to be with him. Every successful relationship needs to have a foundation of friendship and common ground to work. If he is still what you want, then go for it. Ask him to a lunch date and talk with him about how you feel. If the feelings are mutual, then go from there.

Answer 3

its quite an adrenalin rush to have a crush of this sort.just ask him 'what if i were to tell you -i really like you'(say it with some attitude and dont show him your head over heels about him)
-see how he responds .you will just get the signals whether he's into you or not. that way you guys can still be friends.it doesn't have to be all extremes and heartbreak..
don't directly tell him. you mite either scare him off or even hurt your feelings if he does not feel the same way as you do. you don't have to go through that. just do this whole thing subtly.
- good luck - go for it-

Answer 4

My goodness girl...HURRY UP! Tell him all of this...and show him this question on Y!Answers...he will understand you anguish and he should be polite enough to tell you nicely that he is not interested in you that way, or he will rip of all of your clothess and you will both have the hottest sex ever and live happily ever after. Anyhow, say something and do it NOW. Just one word of caution...make sure he is worth your troubles and don't put him on such a high pedestal unless he deserves it.

Answer 5

I loved an same guy for 3 yrs. the first 2 yrs i become an same way as u are--couldn't concentration on college artwork. properly I quickly were given sufficient guts to ask him out. He stated he might want to bypass out with me yet he had to get to understand me extra effective. So we became maximum acceptable acquaintances and all started putting out extra. We tried relationship yet we chanced on out we were extra effective acquaintances because when we were given right into a relationship it made each and every thing extraordinary. So now we are only like brother and sister and performance a extra effective relationship then me and my boyfriend do. So attempt putting out consisting of her and get to understand her and substances her tricks that you want her and perchance she'll ask you out.

Answer 6

in my own opinion, i think that is not obssession, that is love. observe yourself.goodluck.

Answer 7

if you dont tell him you wont know... maybe its love???