Mum Problem?

Question

hey,

my mum keeps on being really really mean to me!! n i have been balling my eyes out for hours n ages!!

She keep saying im pathetic and not as good as my older brother n sister n that she wishes that i was never born n that im a cruel piece of work n then today she called my ugly n had no fashion sence(when lots of ppl say they like my clothes) all she has been doing today is putting me down!! and i cant handle it!! i havnt said anything to her..at all!!! i dont know why she does this to me!!! she doesnt do it to the other siblings!!! And she keeps putting me down in heaps of ways! and i try so hard in school and i get really good grades n awards and get offered to things!! and i try to do it to impresse her...but i cant!! nothing works! i try so hard..yet she just seems to think im worthless!! it is getting me really depressed, and i dont want to be depressed..but i cant help it, she is so horrible..n my sister doesnt believe me...coz she is alllott older!! plz help,im hurt!

also..she has wrecked every confindence i had in myself..how do i get it back???

HELPPPPPP!!! =(

its my holidays at the moment..they were 8 weeks long, n i had fun, but every day she was putting me down and saying how boring i was, n that she cant wait for me to go back to school!=(

i tried talking to her...all the time, but all she says is that she wishes i would never talk to her! so know i am not allowed to talk to her...

n i have tried talking to my sister, but she never understands, she is the favourite...

i dont know what else to do..im starting to hate my life..

Answer 1

Unfortuantely, you are in an abusive relationship. Your mother is abusing you psychologically and emotionally, and this isn't really the place for you to get the help you need. All I can suggest is that you seek help from a counsellor. In the mean time though, don't take on board her lies. YOU are important and worthwhile. Realise too, that nothing you can do will impress her. Love is supposed to be unconditional, but your mother is unable to show that love. Perhaps that stems from how she was brought up.

And know too that she will keep at you until she gets a response. This is just plain cruel. I'm guessing the real reason she is doing this is because she feels threatened by you, because she realises that you are better than her. I hope you can take some comfort in knowing that this problem is hers, not yours.

Unfortuantely this is a problem you will have to come to terms with throughout the course of your life. Just remember that this isn't your fault.

If you ever need someone to talk to, email me, and I'll reply. Just keep a warm centre inside yourself that keeps telling you that this isn't your fault, and that you are a wonderful human being.

Answer 2

I somewhat know how you feel, and I won't say you should love your mom cause all moms aren't that nice. My mom is annoying as whatever too. The worst part is that my parents are married and I live with her. I've got no other option. She kept calling me for dumb reazons like to get her some water when she's right next to the water and she constantly yells at me and calls me names for not cleaning 24/7 when I've got a gazillion hw to do. But If I don't do my hw and fail, she yells at me even worse or hits me. My dad is sooo much sweeter and nicer. I ended up not talking to her since January this year. I feel great, my life runs smother, and I don't really care if I never have to talk to her again or 'til I'm 18. I suggest that you: *stop talking to her too. *ignore her *Tell her in a firm, clear voice that you want her out of your life or to stop bothering you. *talk to your dad about this

Answer 3

I am so sorry that you are going through such a bad time. Talk to your doctor or school counsellor and get some help to help you understand what is going on with your mother.. I'm sure she doesn't mean to be so cruel to you. She is obviously under some kind of stress herself. Maybe she is going through pre menopause symptoms which does make women do and say things that they wouldn't under normal circumstances. You must continue, for yourself, to look for some kind of help until you find it. If you have any Aunts or grandmothers or even older female members or friends of the family that might be able to help you, seek them out.

Answer 4

I am sorry for you!!I feel the hurt coming through your words. Find someone that you can speak to, maybe a school councilor or a family member, you need someone that will listen to you now!! You know that you are a good person and that is what counts.. I am again so sorry that you are going through this, you do have a purpose in this life of yours and it is going to be good, god bless you, I'll be thinking of you in my prayers.

Answer 5

Well...odviously you mom has issues but it depends on how old you are cuz if you a kid by means i mean 17 and under then you have to put up with it until your 18 then move out. But i think you should talk to a school councelor and tell her how you feel and everything that going on.

Answer 6

is there a aunt or grandmother you can live with? sounds like your mom need counseling ! where is your dad ? and why can`t he help you ? if he does not know this is going on by all means tell him if they are divorce
then see about moving in with him. This is called mental abuse! and it can and should be reported, talk to someone at school and see if there is help your you some where ! good luck

Answer 7

stand up for yourself.tell her you wont put up with her speaking to you like that.she may be your mum but nobody has the right to make someone else feel so sad.then ask her what her problem REALLY is.you might find she is lashing out at you cause you are closest and that the problem has nothing really to do with you.finally,do not ever believe those things she says.always try your best at everything you do and you will succeed.

Answer 8

i know she is your mother and sometimes its hard to explain to her face to face what she is doing to your personal development and to the bond between you and her. why dont you write her a letter. write all that you want to say - in a clam loving way. tell her you love her and that all you want is for her to love you and respect you.

its obvious your mother is taking out her hurt and anger she has about someone or something else on you - because you remind her of it. i dont know what it is - its best to ask her - in the letter. tell her - that no matter what - what she is doing to you - is only making you a better person - and not to be mean like her. tell her your hurt and whats in your heart. be honest and forgiving in your words.

hopefully she will understand and learn to forgive herself.

no matter what - be there for her! one day she will realise and so will you - that she and you both need to love each other - cos your all you have

good luck and god bless ya family

Answer 9

tell your mum politely that this is the way I am and I thank God for making me like this - unique and special not like my brother or sister... if i was like them there would be nothing special about me... tell this to your mum and stop taking all she says so seriously... she will realise herself one day how unfair she is... just concentrate on ur studies... be an independent person and progress in life so that evrybody admires u and dare not say anything about u... just be confident... gd luck dear

Answer 10

baybee be steady and don"t let this situation hurt your feeling.You must be strong and keep on going great in school and life.Don"t hate your mother for what damaged she had done to you cause this just a "chemistry conflict" between you and her, by time it will be over and you will be her dearest.Pray to GOD to soften her heart and ease your feeling.Best of the best for you, Ameen.