My daughter went through a stage where she had to cry herself to sleep a few times before she accepted that 'hey I have to sleep at bedtime'. She would scream and cry for a couple of hours, having a tantrum. Can I do that in an apartment?
2007-01-24 20:13:31 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
not newborn, but when he is older.. if he tries to have a tantrum at bedtime
2007-01-24 20:14:35 · update #1
It's great that you are a caring and considerate neighbor, but there is a limit to what you can do about kiddie noise.
I lived in an apartment for 8 years, and for that entire time I was SUPER careful not to inconvenience my neighbors. My kids were not allowed to make noise before 8 AM, after 8 PM, or between 2-4 PM when the neighbors might be napping. I did not allow my kids to ride the toy cars they got from grandma. I was strict with my kids about any type of noise.
But you know what? One day my kids were simply playing, and the neighbor below me came up to say that we were a noisy family and she had kept silent for all those years, but today her husband is sick, and could we TRY to be quiet for a change?
At that point I realized: no matter how much you try to be considerate of you neighbors, and no matter how many sacrifices you and your kids make, you will never be able to please everyone.
So here is what I suggest: on the one hand, try not to make life difficult for your neighbors. On the other hand, do whatever you need to do to be a good parent to your kids, even if it might disturb your neighbors (for example, letting your kids cry himself to sleep). They have a right to live in peace, but YOU have a right to raise your kids as you see fit, and YOUR KIDS have a right to live, breathe, move, talk, and cry!
2007-01-24 22:42:26 · answer #1 · answered by Victoria 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well a car ride is a good idea... but doesn't really give you a long term solution. The point to make to the baby is that 'no. it is time to sleep.' Luring him into that won't give you a long term solution. I would let him cry, but make it early, like 7 or so depending on how late the neighbors make noise.. try to have the crying done before they all go to bed. But hey, you will probably have a happy easy going baby!
2007-01-25 04:26:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I live in an apartment and while I always tried to get the kids to sleep with no crying it never worked. Just do the best you can and thats all you can do. The apartment management cant really say anything much to you. The only way they can is if the apartments are adult only.
2007-01-25 04:21:31 · answer #3 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some little one s go thru this but as a mother of 3 i cannot believe people suggest a car ride, u r establishing a pattern that u will have to change again, all the usual things, warm pleasant environment etc will work instead of driving the streets in the cold and dark-how bizarre, close contact and gentle rocking will soothe, you've been here before and handled it, you'll manage again, its cool u think of the neighbours but they will understand, babies cry, fact of life, good luck
2007-01-25 04:49:10 · answer #4 · answered by ♠ Merlin ♠ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother's baby did this also. What they did as a solution was they put him in the car for a short ride around with some soft music playing in the card while they got ice cream at a drive through McDonald's. The baby fell asleep immediately and the parents had a pleasant event before bed. You might try this because it worked amazingly fast for them. Good luck to you.
2007-01-25 04:22:27 · answer #5 · answered by . 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you can do it. Your neighbors won't be happy with you, but assuming that bedtime is early in the day and you get it established as quickly as possible, they'll understand. One or two nights of crying they'll live with. Every night will be a problem. Be firm, mom.
2007-01-25 04:23:20 · answer #6 · answered by tony1athome 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have enough on your plate & don't need the extra worry about the neighbours as well. Leaving your baby to cry is essential to develop independent sleeping habits. Just forewarn your neighbours if you feel that your babys screaming may interupt them too much. If they don't understand then don't worry about them & go ahead & do it. You have to do what you have to do with kids if you want your sanity.
2007-01-25 05:08:44 · answer #7 · answered by Mishell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i live in a 3 story building and i my baby cries and cries i was reported to the housing association due to unruly noise pollution as my baby was crying. my neighbors was told it was a family building and was not aimed at adults and do you really think the parents like the baby crying? we never heard out again. dint worry do what you have to do
good luck
2007-01-25 08:08:05 · answer #8 · answered by kinkyk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋