been seeing a guy for a month now and we are pretty serious and i asked him to come back to my home town to meet my family but he didnt want too. should i be offended? i have met a few of his family members but hes relucant to meet mine, says he doesnt have the confidence and they will think he is a bogan.
2007-01-24 19:56:30 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sounds straightfoward to me... don't pressure him... he is obviously nervous around others...
when i met my wife's family i was nervous as hell, and ended up making a complete muppet of myself...
2007-01-24 20:02:28 · answer #1 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I'm not scared of anything except poverty, but I can tell you: meeting a girl's family is fraught with danger!
If you really like the girl, they can make it impossible for you to live up to the ideal they set for her; or they can make her think you're the best thing since the wheel. They can make you feel like you're 2 feet tall or like another family member. The problem is, they only get a first impression from the initial meeting and if it doesn't go as planned, you're at a disadvantage from that moment on! It's tough on a guy; try and be empathetic and wait until he feels the time is right. If it never happens, at least you had him all to yourself and none of your family ever has to know you even dated him!
2007-01-24 20:07:07 · answer #2 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
meeting mom and dad = commitment. In a guys mind, once they've met the family, they have committed. Give him some time. Holidays are a perfect time for the guy to be introduced. If after a couple more months he is still is balking, then tell him he needs to let you know if you can count on a commitment in other terms. In other words, you can wait until he is ready to meet "the family"..if he can commit to you. You say you are serious, then he has to prove it. Not by meeting the family, but by reassuring you. Mom and Dad will understand.
2007-01-24 20:06:43 · answer #3 · answered by chatterella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL i WOULD SAY THAT IT IS EITHER HIS SELF CONFIDENCE OR HE IS NOT AS SERIOUS AS YOU IN THIS RELATIONSHIP---think about it and be honest with yourself. You know him better than anyone--is it all sex and fun??? or is it truly a serious relationship?? Why are you nagging after only a month??? Are you going to be that way all your life??? Let this guy have some more time and if you have to--dump him for someone who will meet your family if it is that important. Lesson in life--do what is right for you---get it???
2007-01-24 20:03:56 · answer #4 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some people meeting their significant other's family members is a big deal. My boyfriend refused to meet my family for a long time because he felt like it was a step toward marriage. He explained to me, in the movie meet the parents with Ben Stiller, he never met his girlfriend's parents until after he proposed to her. That's just how it is in some families. Your boyfriend may not be to that extreme, but it clearly is a bigger deal to him than it is to you, and you'll just have to wait it out.
2007-01-24 20:04:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him some time and also see where this relationship is going before insisting on taking him to meet your family. If he really cares for you and is doing all he can to have a good relationship with you, then he will become confident. Don't rush him at this time.
2007-01-24 20:02:43 · answer #6 · answered by Jan C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all a month isn't long enough time to be SO serious. you might be scaring him a little with the family thing. slow down alittle. After a year if he doesn't want to meet then he might not ever be serious.
2007-01-24 20:49:27 · answer #7 · answered by hthammond 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A month is not enough for aguy to get to courageous enough to meet your parents.It seems you want things to happen so fast.Take it easy the time will come when he himself will ask you to take him to your parents.Seeing your parents means you have been in avery serious relationship and that he is ready to marry you something that may not be ready in his mind though he may not tell you.
many times you meet aman know that he has been or he is in another relationship and so you.
2007-01-24 20:15:43 · answer #8 · answered by moe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
meetting the family is a seriouce step and am not sure that one month is enough for beeing real seriouce and meetting the family means the next level so maby he is not ready for the next level yet could it be ???
2007-01-24 20:14:58 · answer #9 · answered by Reasonable 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be nervous, he might not be ready to take a step that he views as a commitment, or he might not be serious about you. Can't tell; only you can. Or you could ask him.
2007-01-24 20:18:47 · answer #10 · answered by daveowenville 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a friend once told me that one sign that a guy is serious with you is if he knows how to face your parents.. it means that he has no bad intentions with you..
well, tell that guy how you feel.. and maybe after quite sometime, he will realize that he should be confident enough..
2007-01-24 20:04:33 · answer #11 · answered by bonjing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋