Last night I was at my house with my best friends little sister, watching a movie, when she decides to go to the restroom. Amelia’s twenty-three and I’m twenty-seven, her brother and I go back to elementary school. I’ve known Amelia since the day she was born. We never really got along too well, she was always arguing about something and I was always telling her to shut up.
Anyway when she went to the bathroom I though I would pull a prank on her and scare her… I know stupid and a childish idea, but I didn’t think any harm would be done! Everyone’s done it before, hide in a dark corner and scares the hell out of the unexpected person.
Well let me get to the point. My house is very big and can be pretty creepy at night. I waited until she was done in the bathroom and walking out down the dark hall, then I jump out and scared the crap out of her!
I guess I thought she would have laughed it off or try to punch me like always. Well she screamed really loud and punched me in the chest, and stormed off. I was laughing because I thought it was funny at the time. When I went back to the living room where we were watching a movie her back was turned towards me, and her shoulders were shacking really badly. She had this very frightened look in her eyes,
I was kind of shocked because she NEVER cries!
I don’t know what came over me but the next thing I knew I was on the sofa with Amelia in my lap while she sobbed, as I stroked her hair and back, telling her I was sooo sorry. It was like an hour later and she was still holding on to me crying hysterically. She cried until she was physically exhausted.
I don’t get it we do dumb crap like that all the time and she has NEVER cried before. I know it was a stupid, stupid thing to do. I think she was crying for some other reason but I don’t know what.
Could she be crying for another reason? Is this a normal reaction? What should I do?
2007-01-24 19:54:47 · 20 answers · asked by amesB 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You never know what causes anxiety in another person; often you don't know what causes your OWN anxiety.
It's entirely possible that something happened to her when she was younger, possibly something horrible that started with someone jumping out and surprising her -- an attack, for instance, or a robbery, or an accident that caused someone to die -- and you brought the memory of it all crashing down on her.
It's also possible that she's usually a tough girl because stuff like this DOES get to her, and so she puts on a tough front -- but this time you broke through her facade, and so she completely lost it.
Finally, it's possible that she is under some severe stress, and this was just a catalyst for her to release all of her tension. In other words, your scare knocked her for a loop, and in the resulting loss of composure, everything came rushing out and she had an anxiety attack.
Whatever the reason, you did the right thing; you supported her, took care of her, and helped her through it. That's what you needed to do (especially since you triggered it, but even if you hadn't) and there's nothing else you need to do -- except avoid doing stupid stuff like that in the future.
Oh, and "is this a normal reaction?" No, but it's not abnormal -- just unusual unless someone's under a lot of stress and/or has been through a traumatic experience at some point in the past. Cut her some slack, don't ask her about it, and for goodness' sake, you're twenty-seven years old...it's time to stop scaring people who are coming back from the bathroom.
2007-01-24 20:24:45 · answer #1 · answered by daveowenville 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have cried after having the crap scared out of me by a prank but then I start laughing. For her to carry on like that maybe she has some underlying issues or some trauma she has gone through that is haunting her, or maybe she just wanted to be "close" to you and wasn't sure how to approach it, this was an easy way out...who knows, but you should definitely talk to her about it
2007-01-24 20:02:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously she's upset or sad about something else. It's always good to be persistent in asking what's wrong even if she's giving the impression that you are annoying her. It shows that you really care and she'll eventually speak up. I pull that one all the time when I'm upset and want to tell someone but act like I don't. Stupid yes, but I think we all do it. If her problem is about you maybe she wont tell you and your out of luck on that one, but it's obvious she's not crying cause you scared her.
2007-01-24 20:06:25 · answer #3 · answered by NOTW70X7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I think both of you like each other...and maybe thats why she is crying becuase she likes you but it would be kinda wierd to tell you. Second of all girls are emotional even though you don't see her cry doesn't mean she doesn't she probably waits till noone is around and then balls like a baby...every girl does it. Thirdly she could of had something bad happen to her and so she was upset and then you scaring the crap out of her just made it seem 1000 times worse. But really i think she likes you and you like her...think about it.
2007-01-24 20:02:45 · answer #4 · answered by THE 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Haha, wait 'till you get to my level, no more answer limits, I've been here since Monday!, eyes are starting to hurt a bit
2016-03-29 01:37:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she had a very bad day and your little scare was just the icing on the cake.
Did you ever stop and think she might likes you more than just her "brother's best friend"? Just something to think about...!
2007-01-24 20:04:40 · answer #6 · answered by EsteeIsFrench 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is another reason, and until she feels comfortable in telling you what it is, I suggest you not play anymore pranks, that would scare her, and if possible none at all, until this matter is resolved. In the meanwhile just be a friend.
2007-01-24 20:04:28 · answer #7 · answered by cassandr.l@sbcglobal.net 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
mistaken!the bathroom is the house of devils.when you frightened her, a devil entered her body in this moment.this case will last for a long tim, may be for years. the symptoms of this case will appear in crying fits, repeated nightmars,feeling that someone strangles her,etc...the doctor will not help her as he will not know how to deal with the satan that entered her body.i advise you to read the first ten verses of Safaat chapter in the Holly Quran on her many times , along with the verse no:255 in Baqraa(cow)chapter on her many times too and she will soon get recovered. please brief me on the latest developmants of the case. contact me on muhammad_elian22@yahoo.com
2007-01-24 20:36:25 · answer #8 · answered by muhammad elian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could have cried coz she was terribly frightened.. Or there can be some other reason as well. Some ppl when they start to cry over something, they will think of other sad stuff and cry for that as well. Hmmmm
2007-01-24 20:01:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
It seems like there might have been alot more then what it seems on her plate. Who knows that might have brought up old memories that are hard for her especially when thats really not in her nature to cry. I would still check up on her.
2007-01-24 20:06:02 · answer #10 · answered by babi_gurl513 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋