My husband is a volenter(SP?) fire fighter in a small town. He is in two dertments. He hardly home. His work, his dad's ranch, and the two fire dertments to keep him busy. We barely see each other on the weekdays. He works at a mill and the swing shift, Like 3 PM to 1 AM. His family is in one of the departments, and he will never leave. He keeps saying that he will quit the other fire department and he never does. I kept asking when he is going to do it but that only annoyed him.So, quit asking him if he was going to quit. A couple weeks ago, he had a game to go to and he was sick. I said I think you should stay home and just rest. He said that he was still going. I felt that the fire department is more importane then me. Last year, I wanted to do something for my b-day but he just schaled a meeting that weekend. I was really hurt and sad. What do I do. I just want more of his time. When ever I ask more of his time, he gets pissed at me and says "Don't start." then walks off. HELP!!!!!
2007-01-24 19:54:27 · 5 answers · asked by Kia F 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well as they say if you can't beat them then join them . i know you might not like the same things as he does but why not take a little interest in what he likes seems to me he enjoys their company then yours . try it out .. maybe you might make a few new friends.. otherwise go out and enjoy yourself with your friends and he may see that you being happy will make him think twice about his precious fire bridge and be with you instead
2007-01-24 23:43:27 · answer #1 · answered by kerrielee m 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take a look at yourself is there something you could do to improve the situation. Do you work, are there children involved in this marriage. Has something about you changed since you've been married? How did he act before you were married, how much time did he spend with you, how many jobs did he have before. Find some interests of your own, a hobby, girls day out with friends and the gym, volunteer at a women's shelter, nursing home, church group etc. Go to the community college and take a few classes. Run his bath water, and have him a meal ready when he comes home if you aren't already doing this. All the drill sergeant interrogations aren't going to solve the problem. And most importantly of all pray for a change first in yourself and then on insight on how to restore you marriage.
2007-01-25 04:42:35 · answer #2 · answered by cassandr.l@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st make the whole house clean esp the bath room and bed then ur self bath every time n have a parlor some time then cook the fav of ur husband then , dance in his front if he is watching tv , now if this is not work find if he is playing fire then move to another solution ,
2007-01-25 06:41:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like its more then the fire house
2007-01-25 08:44:22 · answer #4 · answered by peg42857 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe, there must be a female Sagittarius in his fire department... Is he realizing, that he is playing with fire???
2007-01-25 04:29:57 · answer #5 · answered by curious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋