The person I am refering to has been widowed now for 3 and a half years. She's a bit worried about her late husbands family as she is still very close to them.
2007-01-24 19:54:14 · 13 answers · asked by EsteeIsFrench 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was widowed 2 years ago this coming May. I started dating a little one year after my husband of 24 years committed suicide.
There is a rule of thumb that says 2 months for every year of marriage. I find this stupid and insensitive.
I think it is totally up to the woman and situation. She has waiting quite long enough to be decent, I should say. If she feels ready to begin to be social with men then I would say she is.
Advise her to begin slowly with proper introductions from friends and family.
If her late husband's family loves her they will certainly not want her to mourn forever. We all want to be in the company of the opposite sex. Not a thing wrong socially or morally with the time she has waited as far as I'm concerned but she would be the best judge.
2007-01-24 20:03:55 · answer #1 · answered by Ande 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That relies upon on the guy! each and every individual is distinctive i do no longer think of a individual ought to start up relationship each and every week later or a month later yet it particularly is me! i could ask your self what's up in case you comprehend what I mean yet some circumstances after six months or so a individual with out any toddlers may well be feeling very lonely. i think of 6 months to a 365 days is powerful. If a individual is waiting if no longer then it is as much as them i do no longer comprehend how long i could opt to attend i'm in no hurry to ascertain the two
2016-11-01 05:42:04 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should wait until she's ready. That's up to her, and her alone; everyone is different. She shouldn't be worried about what her late husband's family will think, but if she is, she should ask them -- literally say that she's so lonely, and thinking about going on a few dates, but doesn't want to be disrespectful to the memory of her late husband. If she brings them in on the plan, they'll likely support her, and even if they don't, it's her decision rather than theirs.
Of course, it might take them longer to grieve, so she should be respectful and avoid doing things like bringing new boyfriends to family events and whatnot -- that's the right way to handle it, and eventually (when they're done grieving) they'll ask her "why don't you bring your boyfriend over to meet us?"
2007-01-24 20:27:59 · answer #3 · answered by daveowenville 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on many circunstances which may include:
if you have younger children, if you had accepted the fact that your spouse is dead, and are conciouss that you want to date someone because you feel is the right thing for you and not because you feel alone and would rather be someone ( EVEN IF ITS NOT THE BEST OUT THERE) just because you are afraid of being alone or your economical situation.
due to experience ( my dad died and my mom is "dating someone" ) from a daughter point of view, I believe it is fine to date someone after you have healed, and are concious about dating ( you really want to get to know someone, and not some stupid reason as afraid to being alone for the rest of your life, etc) .
it is also kind of important the fact that if you met the person you are dating (or want to date) while your spouse was alive or if you just met him/her recently.
2007-01-24 20:24:09 · answer #4 · answered by butterfly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This certainly has no time frame. Coz we all differ. Some ppl can move on within months. Some may take years. And some will never to be able to move on at all. So it really depends on a person's mentality.
2007-01-24 19:58:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no right answer, but I think that is long enough. She shouldn't have to get the permission of her late husband's family, but maybe she should take it gently at first - as much for herself as for them. They are probably special to her, as nobody else will be able to understand how she feels at times.
2007-01-24 20:02:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately there is no time frame for this to happen. when she or he is ready to move on after losing there soul mate they will know when the time is right. as far as her being very close to his side of the family. one would think they would want her to be happy and not be lonely we were not put here for that . she will know when the time is right , I wish her luck.
2007-01-24 20:00:36 · answer #7 · answered by â?¥Annieâ?¥ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's depends on a individual whether they are opitimistic or pessimistic. Families and friends play a important role in this part.
2007-01-24 20:10:51 · answer #8 · answered by the milky way 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has had plenty of time to get thru losing her husband, but the choice is hers. There is nothing wrong with her dating now if that is what she wants to do.
2007-01-24 19:59:01 · answer #9 · answered by Jan C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is love. if your friend finds somebody that she is attracted to, sometimes the best way to gain closure on a loved one's death is to start a new chapter.
2007-01-24 19:59:43 · answer #10 · answered by holyitsacar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋