what is the better option? is it arrange marriage or love marriage?

Answer 1

I have thought about this question a lot, and have come to the conclusion that any marriage that puts Christ in the center of it will succeed. Any marriage that does not will eventually fail. God bless!

Answer 2

If "love marriage" were such a good thing, how do you explain the soaring divorce rate?

For the most part, people who marry for "love" think they see something in the other partner that may or may not be there. As they live together, they frequently grow apart - they become different; they look for different things out of marriage, and out of life in general.

If the ones who arrange your marriage have your best wishes at heart, they will find someone with similar background, similar values, and similar beliefs. Even if you had met only once, after the broker introduces you, the two of you will grow more alike - you will grow together instead of apart.

It is not a popular opinion among Americans, but an arranged marriage will almost always be more successful than a so-called love marriage.

What is amusing, is that those who scorn arranged marriages pay marriage brokers on the internet to find them someone. They call it a "dating service," but if you listen to the ads, they are selling you on the chance to find marriage. Do the internet dating services care about you - or your money? What about your parents, or your clergy? do they care about you? I sure hope the answer is yes.

So, that is why arranged marriages are better. People who love and care about you try to find someone with whom you will be compatible. You meet, and get to know something about the other person. If the choice was made wisely, you will both be happy -- not ecstatic, for ecstacy passes quickly. Just happy, and comfortable. That is the feeling you want to have in marriage, also.

Remember, love is not something you "fall into," it something you grow into.

How truly blessed you are to have a family that cares enough for you to help you find the right spouse.

Answer 3

I have seen a lot of arranged marriages that have been complete disasters, mainly from the wife's point of view. I am sorry, but I see the men having all the benefits in those kind of arraignments and have listened to many women pouring out their heartaches to me.
Even though the women may have financial security there is a lot of insecurity emotionally.
In love marriages there is the factor of affection, and agreement that is not present in an arranged marriage.
Love doesn't always grow in arranged marriages, and in-fact they seem to be more co-dependant than loving.
The better option is a love marriage most definitely.

Answer 4

Each marriage has its own place in history. In the past, an arranged marriage was the accepted norm for most cultures. These days, its the marriage for love that is most common. While at different times either was more prevalent, no matter that case...its still perfectly okay to choose either one. The key point being that you can choose to have a marriage arranged. If you don't have a choice then it isn't really an arranged marriage is it? It's a forced one!

Answer 5

This is one question which can keep on going even in the many more years to come.

I choose Love Marriage.

And i dont understand why people think marriage is a means of owning someone forever or surrendering???

But iam not against arranged marriage as long as i get to choose.

You marry either way.... one thing we all must remember is... give up ur pride, selfishness... and be willing to enter a new world.

Success of every marriage is based on communication, openness, loyality and trust.

Answer 6

I believe that love marriage is the better option. Cause if you love someone then you get married. But arranged marriage is having to marry someone you don't love.

Answer 7

I used to think it was horrible to arrange a marriage but that is because in America it is rarely done. People in India are often happy in arranged marriages and they will tell you so. Sometimes the wisdom of parents cannot be overlooked. Too often the love fades away and was merely a physical attraction so therefore divorce..I think it can work either way because you can learn to love most people.

Answer 8

You don't know until you try. Love is like a virus -- love either stays with you, goes away or it kills you. You can make gushy promises that you'll love someone forever but when the honeymoon is over and the wife gets fat and smelly and hairy and bored and bossy and hostile she's no longer the same person you made those promised to.

If I could do it over again I'd stay single.
If I could get divorced without losing my home I'd do it in a heartbeat.

Answer 9

I say that all marriage really is, is a fancy ceremony and a piece of paper. If you really love someone and want to be with them marriage shouldn't matter.So I guess what I'm saying is it should be for love.I hope this helped, probably not but oh well ;)

Answer 10

I wish someone had arranged mine, then maybe I would not have had to raise 3 kids alone with no gifts, clothes, often food and a few times heat and electricity.Daddy ran away with a girl and
was never found,no support,work , struggle and cry that my children had nothing,I do not even have pictures of them,could never afford camera
they ask what did I look like, SAD

Answer 11

I am of a rare case being an American; my marriage was arranged, very rarely so it developed into love.