Why do I feel under-pressure all the time?

Question

im homeschooled and latly I've been feeling weird, Like Im under-pressure, i get nervous alot, i dose off constantly, i cant focus, i shake for no reason, i get depressed, and i dont know how to talk to people, i drink alot, and dont know who i am as a person.



im not how i used to be or how i thought i used to be, is this weird? My friends also think im "different"

i need help/advice/whatever

thanks

;)

Answer 1

I think a lot of people are going through this "depression". And I apologize that I can't give you a good answer, but right now I'm stressed out myself (work, girlfriend, and job) but this is how I answered a question similar to this a little while ago. I hope it helps or maybe you can expand on it and help me out too.

Also check out my answers. A girl asked a question about her boyfriend and she was going through a kind of "depression" too. See if that can help you. I'm gonna keep working on a "solution" to this and hopefully I'll be able to find an answer for everyone soon. Either way, I hope things get better for you and stay strong.
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I KNOW EXACTLY WHAT YOU'RE GOING THROUGH...

But I don't have a solution yet.

I think I know what's causing it but I don't believe it's one thing or even a couple of things... In fact, my solution may be different from the solution you need... more in a minute (gf calling).

I have never talked about depression before. And I have only known a couple of people well enough to admit that they were depressed but they were depressed for different reasons. One was depressed because of lack of money and the other was depressed because her boyfriend wasn't taking the relationship seriously enough for her - she was ready to get married and he was still bouncing between her and his Ex.

But I think for a lot of people, they are depressed because they are wondering "who they are", or what their "calling in life" is, or what should they be doing to be successful, etc. But this isn't a bad thing. The problem is being able to CONCENTRATE and FOCUS on what you really need to do to be "successful" and to find INNER PEACE....

Maybe "counseling" can help some people but it's what happens afterwards that I think a lot of people worry about. We don't want to have "mental health problems" putting a black mark on our lives or reputation. We don't want to have to pop pills that might make us crazier or "worse off" than we already are. We don't want to be stereotyped or labeled as "nuts" or "looney". And so on and so forth.

Again, I don't have a solution, but I think some of the reasons for not feeling good about yourself could be:

Not being assertive enough
Feeling helpless (or broke)
Not knowing how to communicate your feelings effectively
Not having the right motivators in your life
Not being able to get organized
Trying to be Perfect
Not having a mentor or mentors
Not having the kind of money or lifestyle you would like to have
People not taking you seriously
Unable to focus on one project or idea at a time (maybe ADD)
Constantly worrying about how crazy the World is
Inconsiderate or Irresponsible people (and idiots) in your life
Not having a close friend or someone you can trust or depend on
A boring job that you don't hate enough to leave

A lot of things can cause depression. It really depends on what you want out of life. It also depend on what you want but what's hard for you to get... And you have to be honest with yourself about it.

When you know what you want, then you can establish some goals or a route to get whatever you want. You can create a "masterplan" to improve your life. You may even be able to "catch up" with the rest of the World before too much time passes you by.

I've been depressed over half of my life and I've gotten to the point where I really don't like being bothered with people because the people in my life aren't "on the same page" I'm on. We don't really "click". Even my girlfriend doesn't really understand me. She loves me to death - and I don't know why. (She fusses at me all the time, debates almost every opinion I have, and doesn't follow-through on her words most of the time). Yet I have visitors and people calling me all the time - every single day - and I hate it to be honest. I just need time to myself so that I can think and work on my life without any distractions or intrusions. But this really isn't a good thing...

You should interact with people and network and learn new things relating to what you want to do. Or, new things that can help you in your personal life. Just like I read what you wrote about you being depressed... I thought I was the only one!

And I don't care anymore. I don't care if people know I'm depressed or think I'm crazy. I'm learning what life is really all about. I know what I want, I have a good job, I have the best girlfriend I've ever had in my life (maybe with the exception of her "big mouth" - which I have to tell her about it every week), and I have plenty of books, gadgets, friends, CDs, DVDs, websites, and what-nots, to keep me busy.

But find out what you want to do in life, what kind of relationship you want, and how you can improve yourself (communication skills, being more assertive, being more entertaining, whatever.) Just take your time and be cool about it. If you feel like you need a new style - switch your style up. If you hate your job, save so that you can make a "power-move" and quit. If you're lonely, reach out to more people and in the bunch, you may find a good friend.

Whatever you do, don't waste your time worrying about your past and your future. Work on whatever it is you need to work on, today! This is one of main reasons people get "future shock" - it's because of procrastination! Don't dream about it. Be about it!

You can get over it, but it will take time and you can't give up.

I hope this can put on a good path that'll help you out and I'm glad you wrote about it, because you've helped me too.

take it easy...

Brother DzL (AsP)
"The Player's Lifestyle"

Answer 2

When A Person Waits Until Marriage To Have Sex, It Feels Like Much More Of A Reward. If You Lose Your Virginity Before You Get Married, Then It's Not Going To Feel The Same. I Guarantee You Will Regret It. And What Happens If You Lose Your Virginity At 15? The Rest Of The Guys Start To Think That If It Was So Easy For That Guy, Then It'll Be Easy For Me To. So You Basically Become An Object And A Tool. From That Point On, Guys Wont See Your Personality, They Will Only See Your Body. My Sister Got Pregnant At About Your Age Because She Made The Same Mistake You're Thinking About Making. Later She Started Having "Fun" With Another Guy. A Year Later, She Died From An STD. Is A Few Minutes Of Fun Really Worth Your One And Only Life? And Yes She Did Use A Condom. A Condom Is Not Protection Hunny. Don't Be Fooled About That For A Second. Please Be Smart And Don't Throw Your Life Away. Just Because Everybody Else Is Throwing Theirs Away Doesn't Mean You Have To Be Stupid. And This Is Coming From A 14 Year Old. Have Some Common Sense, Please. Unless, Of Course, You Want To Die From An STD, Or Get Pregnant At 15 Years Old And Try To Support A Family On Your Own, Because You Can Believe Me When I Say That Guy Who Did That To You Is Not Gonna Stick Around And Help You. Please Be Smart. Don't Be Like My Sister.

Answer 3

alcoholism,do some research on it.or a phobia of some kind? do some research on it to.you also sound depressed from people pressuring you all the time.you may have to be put on some kind of antidepressant medication.you may WANT to see a psychiatrist in your area.i would help you if i was there! it's my job and dedication to help the mentally ill ^_^

Answer 4

hmm
think I had this situation few months ago. If you're stressed try to relax and eat more vegetables and reduce meat consumption. Check your blood pressure to see if it's high because mine was high back then. Hope it helps you.

Answer 5

hullo
it seems that you are suffering a lot,you did not specify your age,if you are teen,it might be an adolescent crisis,who knows?
anyhow if you have problems in your own life ,then you should seek some help,alcohol and drugs will solve nothing.
if you choose contact me at [e-mail] and i will see what i can do .


dr.solo