I am 32 years old and recently moved back with my parents, OUCH! The kicker is that I am romantically involved with someone from my dad's work. Does anyone have any ideas of ways that we can be alone without my dad finding out. His place is NOT an option and my parents are home ALL of the time. If he as much as calls or pulls up to our house they will know something is up. I know that I am old enough to do what I want. But, trust me, them finding out now is not a good idea.
2007-01-24 18:51:26 · 14 answers · asked by lustful TR 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No this quy is not married! And yes, I do work with him as well, that is part of the problem
2007-01-24 19:10:45 · update #1
MY problem is that I have been in a 9 year relationship and the guy I am with is in jail for 3 1/2 years. Call me whatever you want, I have never cheated before, but I don't want my dad to find out because he doesn't want me to be with my guy and this is just icing on the cake for him. I want to decide how far I want my relationship to go with the new guy without him involved. I totally value his opinions and imput. But, he has a totally bias point of view on this topic.
2007-01-24 19:15:08 · update #2
If there is a future with the guy who is not incarcerated, then write the guy whose in jail and say, "I am working and my new friend is good to me and I want out."
Start over with your life, it's your life.
Get rid of the dead weight. What can an incarcerated man do for you? The man that you're seeing is the right dude for right now and if you didn't think so, you wouldn't be seeing him at all.
And yes, his place not being an option is a bit suspicious.
By the way, your dad is right to want better for you than an incarcerated man. The recidivism rate is so high, why bother when you can have a working man who cares for you?
2007-01-24 19:47:32 · answer #1 · answered by TygerLily 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the guy is married. So your living with your parents at 32 and having an affair with a married man? Sounds like you need to take an inventory of your life. You're screwed up and need to do some soul searching before you screw up the people around you. You need to get your Sh*t together.
2007-01-24 18:58:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
An affair sounds like you are dating a married man. No wonder you are afraid your dad's reaction. If that is the case, it is a no win situation. some one will find out. They always do and every one will be hurt including your dad. If he is single, why don't you go to his place? Or a hotel.
2007-01-24 19:01:05 · answer #3 · answered by starflower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've heard it said that if you need to hide your involvement with another person then it shouldn't be happening.
your parents should have raised you well enough to trust your discretion as an adult........yeah? then what makes you think that they won't? aren't your values the ones taught to you by your parents? and what kind of a relationship eludes honesty?! by the time you become an adult, your relationship with your parents should have developed enough to withstand anything. and if you only see them as authority figures....wow.....you really missed the boat!
from what i hear in your words, you can't trust your parents. and they're your family. family is the warmest common courtesy you can have in your life if your relationships are positive. it's up to you how much improvement is needed. these people brought you to life and nurtured and cared for you to be what you are today and asked for nothing in return. and you don't trust them?
2007-01-24 19:10:45 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, then you're going to have to meet up with him somewhere away from home and away from his place... You can just tell your parent's you're going out to meet some friends or something, or just going "out" (I say that a lot when I'm home for the summer from school, they don't question me anymore, lol.. usually I'm just getting away from the house though). Can you maybe get a cell so he can call you there? Or your own home phone for your room? Basically, you're just going to have to be a little sneaky and creative to get away without your parents thinking something's up...
2007-01-24 18:57:29 · answer #5 · answered by yogastar02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Setting aside a little from both of your paychecks and getting your own place as soon as you can. That way you can boss your residence. Perhaps your fella could also be looking for a job somewhere else, thus eliminating another sore spot.
2007-01-24 19:02:03 · answer #6 · answered by 21FRANK D 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I didn't understand your worry..not really...if u are already a grown up person like ur bf...and both of ur not married...and not committed any thing with anybody...................why dont u talk to ur parents openly or find a job and move to the new place with ur bf....I know things are not easy but how long u will go like this...be practical.
2007-01-24 21:12:53 · answer #7 · answered by 2bros 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1: you shouldn't be dating people you work with.
#2: if you're living under your parent's roof, at any age, you should be respectful and not have an affair with your dad's coworker.
You have a job (obviously); get an apartment, then do whatever you want.
2007-01-24 19:59:10 · answer #8 · answered by daveowenville 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe get a Hotel Room? or why cant you go to her house ?at any rate like you said you are 32 and old enough what is the big deal then really ? It does not effect your dad or mom for that matter ....
2007-01-24 18:57:21 · answer #9 · answered by c d 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's all depend if the guy is married or not. If so...try not to. If you couldn't help, try outdoor...far out!! If he is single, it would be easier. A cafe' across towne would be a good place to start.
2007-01-24 18:59:26 · answer #10 · answered by Mr. R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋