how do i let go?

Question

i have the biggest problem with letting go of the past. mainly: my boyfriends ex girlfriends and crushes. i seriously need some advice on LETTING IT ALL GO. i love him so much and i know that he loves me, still i cant seem to get over it. i really hate being like this because i know it upsets him and i feel terrible about it. i hate being this way. please can someone help me to let go of his past? i don't need people telling me to just "get over it" or that im being insecure and stupid, because i already know. thats why i want some help getting over things. i know that hes not with them, hes with me and allll of that. but i still keep letting it get to me. any ways to make these feelings go away?

Answer 1

Sweet Jennifer,

these situations are always hard to let go. Unfortunately, this takes time to heal. Only time can give you the strenght to let go. The transition period is always hard to adapt. Thats why I always recommend going out with friends again. Join the gym to get your self esteem up and get your body out of a mental runt by exerting physical force against something. Meet new people and make friends. Expand your social circle and take a day at a time.

If you need someone to talk to, email me at gundam_clan15@yahoo dot com and i'll be glad to listen to you.

Cheers

Answer 2

If you do not want to look back--look forward. Better find some hobbies or a job to occupy your mind and find new friends. You do all the negative stuff to yourself--and you are the only one who can get past it--so get going, stop the drama, and find something to do---eventually the pity routine is going to nauseate everyone and your perdicament will only get worse. Somehow you get a lot from saddness and self pity---almost seems immature--only the fact that you are looking to get past it says you are not immature---just in need of a boot in the butt to get going. NOW MOVE

Answer 3

u don't ever keep any of his photo as well as gift or his present in ur room,if it's throw away or give him back.try to make urself tired by playing games or exercises till u sweat a lot.broaden ur life boundary by visiting n helping charity activities like old folk homes,leprosy n orphanage,these social works w'd give u feel better more meaningful in life.sooner or later u w'd definitely forget about him.of course u can't contact him in between these few months.

best wishes.

Answer 4

well it's obvious that you don't trust him... you should take a look at that, if you trusted him then there would be no reason for the constant doubt that you have... I think that you should either trust him to know that you wont end up the same as one of his exs or get out of the relationship :) :) :)

Answer 5

Remember things did not happen for a reason and good things will happen to you again for a reason BUT you will have to be proactive and tell yourself again and again that your future without your past crushes is going to be good though different.GOOD LUCK

Answer 6

Find other hobbies and interests..Be into your own thing,not obsessing about his "old" stuff.If you nag him,you will becaome a pain and a bore,so share only w/ a trusted g-friend or keep it to yourself,or he'll get sick of hearing it.

Answer 7

stop being selfish and start helping people, you obviously have a loving heart - go share it with people who need it. Share your love girl and the world might share it back.

all I hear from this comment is, "I seriously", "I love", "I don't", "I can't", "I still", "I have", "I really", "I know", "I feel", "I hate", "I already", "I want"

Answer 8

time will give you that trust tell him to be patiant and try not to nag are fight about it i know its hard and if he makes comments ask him not to it feeds that insecurity and if he cares he will not do

Answer 9

brain wash .. works wonders

tell you the truth ... nobody can make you do it .. you are the only one who can

Answer 10

Do nothing. Time will take it from there.