I have just broken up with my girlfriend but I have strong feelings for my friend. She has been comforting me during the break up, staying over and being supportive etc. I have been flirting with her only slightly, but I catch myself looking into her eyes and stuff. She seems to really care but I dont know if she feels the same way. Oh, and she has a boyfriend too...
2007-01-24 18:17:47 · 12 answers · asked by tim 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
from personal experience:
My best friend (a guy) told me recently that he loved me (I had a boyfriend at the time). we'd been friends for bout 7 years!!! He just said that if he hadnt taken the chance and told me he would have to live with "what if???" for the rest of his life.
It was hard for me cos I love him as a friend but not more - so I had to tell him that. I have since broken up with my boyfriend and my friend has been great to me during it all - but still no feelings from my side.
But him telling me didnt affect our friendship - we're still great friends!! And he's glad he told me, cos he wont have regrets, so I say go for it- but dont do it in a pressuring her to break up with her bfriend way, but say it / write it in a : I want you to know - but this doesnt mean I'm gonna act on my feelings cos I respect you - kind of way
2007-01-24 18:25:13 · answer #1 · answered by supagrrrl84 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there many times amigo. I'm 27, and in the past I have had a few girls I considered best friends steal my heart. This is also one of the best ways to really know that the feelings are genuine, since they have grown without sex altering your perception of things... My advice to you, is not to say a thing. I would recommend showing her with your actions, and not telling her how you feel. Every time I have spilled the beans in the past, it broke up the friendship one way or another. I have learned each time, and do not regret a single experience. The truth of the matter is, feelings are difficult to express through words, and words rarely turn a friend into a lover. If she really is your best friend, you will know a way to show her how you feel. Steal her heart with actions. I would be a man, don't let your thoughts of what may be get in the way. Don't ask her questions about if she likes you or feels the same way. Do something you know will make her realize you care deeply for her, and then grab her, and kiss her. Take her by surprise and then she may realize she feels the same way, or doesn't. Be confident, you said yourself she keeps dating guys that aren't worth her time, show her one that is. You. If it wasn't meant to be then move on my friend. There are many opportunities in your future if this wasn't meant to be, learn from each. The ones that turn you down always realize they made a mistake when you move on, but then it's too late. Story of life. Good luck
2016-05-24 06:42:42 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay your running into alot of problems here. As much as I want to tell you to just 'go for it'. I wouldnt be honest with you. Right now your in the break up stage. Your emotions are going crazy and someone that cares is by your side. That makes you feel loved and appreciated but at the same time your wanting that because of your fresh break up. You need to stay clear from hopping into another relationship to fast. You need to pace yourself and take things slow. Sometimes hopping into a new relationship fast can cause new problems you really dont need.
Second of all she has a boyfriend. You really dont want to cause tension between your friendship because your emotions are in overload. Take a break, if your feels are still there and she gives you signs in the future and possibly single jump on it. Hope i was helpful and sorry about your situation.
2007-01-24 18:31:49 · answer #3 · answered by babi_gurl513 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, back up--you are only looking for a rebound girl---you need to stay away from girls for a while to catch your breath and start over with a whole new fresh outlook and approach. She has been helpful but I think her staying over while she has a boyfriend is silly and wrong. You are unconsciously taking advantage of her emotions. Break it up ---cooloff and give yourself a break--then belly up to the world and find a nice new girl. The pity routine is getting old and it is not an adult, mature way to handle your loss. Good luck
2007-01-24 18:26:27 · answer #4 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, So first of all try to find out if she has a boyfriend. Just ask her randomly when oyu guys are talking. If she doesnt, dude, go for it, let her know that you have feelings for her, but dont bring your ex into the convesation, like you made it easier for me, and blabalbalba NO...Tell her something like you your doing fine or even better with out ur gf, you meet this special someone, and Thats you, I care for you, do you feel the same, .... Something like that....she will give you a honest answer.. Take it slow..dont rush into things,,,,,,girls like guys to be romantic in my opinion.
2007-01-24 18:30:20 · answer #5 · answered by Juanchy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has a boyfriend, respect that!
DO NOT use your good friend as a rebound girl for your recent breakup.
If your breakup was so bad you needed to be comforted, how can you possibly be thinking of someone else without time to recover?
Anyway, just see what happens to your friend and her boyfriend, but by all means, don't be a "crowbar" in their relationship.
2007-01-24 18:37:48 · answer #6 · answered by EsteeIsFrench 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in a perfect world you would tell her ,kiss, hug and run of into the sunset happily ever after.but realistically that prob wont happen.if she does have feelings for you she will automatically be torn between you both as soon as you tell her.timing is everything.if its meant to be ,the time will present itself for you to be together and if not,you will always have a great friend.and don't forget that you have just ended a relationship-go enjoy being single for a while.you never know who is around the next corner!!
2007-01-24 18:53:06 · answer #7 · answered by Jane Doe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then do not risk it. respect that fact that she has a boyfriend and that you just broke up with your girlfriend and move on with life. Seriously, nothing good could come from this situation you just described if you continue pursuing this.
2007-01-24 18:22:09 · answer #8 · answered by melloncollieromance 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feel her out first. See if she finds you datable. Don't play all of your cards just yet. This just might be the rebound effect. Continue to joke with her but pay close attention to her and how she responds
2007-01-24 18:23:27 · answer #9 · answered by Antman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she wants to be good friends to u mabye make a move after she broke with her gf
2007-01-24 18:22:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋