is there a difference between taking a break and breaking up ?

Question

my bf and i of over 2 years just agreed to take a break til how ever long he feels like. i view takign a break as only temporary where as breaking up it permanent? am i right? he doesnt see a difference

we both agreed to it although im not happy with it. he says theirs a good chance at gettign back together.. we are takign a break to focus on work and school for a while. he is just overwhelmed with alot of stuff right now. and please dont say its cause he wants other women!


so whats your view between takign a break and breakign up ?

he says there a good chance about gettign back together.. hes just overwhelmed with alot of things. im going to miss him alot we talked every day and now we agreed tot alk on sundays only... he is really my only frined. i have a really hard time making friends... =[ we are both sophmores in college and he works around 40 hours a week.. i miss him alto already, but he says theres a good chance at gettign back together. he says it only "permanent till we get back together"

the break is for us to focus on ourselves and schol for a while. our relationship is really good though. we got into our occassional arguements btu hes just REALLY stressed and afraid of schoo. he is taking very high level classes liek math and physics (the highest ones almost) and i understand. he hasnt been doing that great in school lately so i agred. i hope it will make our relationship stronger.

we love and care for eachother alot.. . i think this will make us stronger. we have had a great relationsip. and hes not interested in other girls since we are stil in love. just spending time to ourselves for a while.

we do have trust. plenty of it. and great communication skills.. things arent gettign serious we have always talked abotu marrieage possibly someday btu that wouldnt be till like 4 more years... so we arent worried about it now.. he is eveyrthign ive ever wanted in a guy .

Answer 1

Taking a break or so call break OFF is to give each other a period to time to refresh and rethink about the whole situation and relationship.

Sometime this is needed to be done when things turn bad or over-stressed.. result vary ...

Break UP is the word to end a relationship once and for all

Answer 2

My bf and I have been together the same amount of time, there were a few times he wanted a break but we decided against it. To be honest most couples that take a "break" never end up getting back together at least not for the long haul. Once you do it once the next time will be ok and then the next and each time will be longer till you just eventually drift apart. If I were you i'd try to talk to him and try to see if you can come to an agreeable medium, also breaks dont really have guidelines which means you can both pretty much do what you want and IM not sure how you feel about him being with another girl and then taking him back. Try to talk and work things out GOOD LUCK im sorry i know it's not what you wanted to hear.

Answer 3

It is said that breaking up is permenant while taking a break means just that: taking a break and then returning to the reletionship. Personally I view "taking a break" as unclear and an easier way of letting someone down then saying were over. Taking a break is negative in that it often means that the two people go out and try to find someone else to be with. If they dont find anyone better they go back with who they were with and are no longer 'on a break.'

Answer 4

in the long run, no, not really. i don't know anyone who is taken a "break" then ultimately stayed with his/her partner. you guys might take a break, get back together, take another break, but eventually, it will probably be a break-up, though there ARE still chances of you staying together. and as the reason FOR the break? i don't really think it's another girl if he's busy. he might just need some room to breathe or maybe he's been evaluating the relationship and wondering if this is really what he wants right now.

Answer 5

If you're not happy, find someone who has time for you and a relationship if that's what you want! Don't just wait around until he's ready. Maybe if he sees you out with someone else, he'll take the relationship more seriously. Yes, there is a difference. Taking a break is just that- you will resume eventually. Breaking up is when the relationship is over.. Good luck!

Answer 6

well, you are right. taking a break, means you are just cooling off to concentrate on a much bigger phase.

maybe he cannot handle the situation or even your relationship, is it getting serious? that is why he wanted a break cause he is not ready yet. but usually it will ended up between the two cause he must be contemplating of getting serious with you and does not want to hurt your feelings. there are plenty of possibility why suddenly he change his mind. how is the relationship with the family? who started the changing? any newcomer in the picture? if you guys are young, it is for the best to mingle with others, need to explore and experience new people, new friendship and who knows, maybe you ended up with a better one.

Answer 7

wow the exact same thing happened to me about a year ago. I'm back with my boyfriend now, but it was a really weird time period. anyways. what he meant by "taking a break" means that you both are not allowed to date anyone else during this "break," however, if someone comes along (either for you or him), the "break" may become permanent. Or if the break just kind of make the feelings you have toward each other fade, then it will be permanent also. what i mean by this is that if he finds that he is better off single, he prabably wouldn't come back to you, unless you are really really special to him. the fact that you said he is asking for a break and you are not happy with it tells me that he is thinking more about himself than you. this may not be a bad sign but just being aware of the fact may be helpful.
I say try to have fun with this, don't act like his girlfriend anymore. i don't know if you guys will still talk to each other and just be regular friends, but just act cool no matter what. show him and you don't need him. be independent.
i'm back with my boyfriend after like 1 month. we didn't stop seeing each other during that month, but we did maitain like a regular friendship kind of thing during that time. then I flirted with a guy or he thinks that I flirted with a guy and somehow he came back to me. its not that i recommend u doing this. but just try to have fun on your own that's what i'm trying to say.
good luck

Answer 8

Well from a guy's point of view.... a break means that you get to see other people... you till talk when yoru on a brake and possibly hang out but you still get to explore with other people!

Answer 9

Every has their own definitions. You might want to get a ruling from the booth on this one. talk it out so there are no misunderstandings. I got in trouble for misinterpreting "Seeing each other" once.

Answer 10

as the way i see it, you two both understand the difference between breakin up and takin a break... you agreed with it so you have to live up with it... dont you trust him enough? trust is the foundation of a relationship so if you dont trust each other, you wont last that long...