What does it mean when a guy says that you are "too good for them"?

Question

The guy I am trying to date sent me a message saying this:

" u just dont get it
its to good to be true
a very
beautiufl girl such as ur self talking to
a boi lik me
who's slowly dieing


i mean i can treat u the way u would love to
but its just to good to be true..

i never can find a sweet girl "

Yes, he is slowly dying because there is a hole in his heart, which is too close to a nerve to do anything about it, so he will die in a few years, or so doctors predict.

What does it mean when a guy says this?
I've heard before I'm 'too good' for someone, and I'm really not. I just don't get it..

Answer 1

he probably says that because he really likes you and he adores you for how kind you are knowing that he is slowly dying and you don't care. because not to many girls would really be interested in a guy that is dying. thats a good quality for life that you have so don't lose it and good luck :)

Answer 2

Part of it could be he's kind of depressed and melancholy, and as a result he's being a little bit "dramatic".

Part (or all) of it could just be he wants you to know he appreciates that you'll spend time with him.

Since he has a serious medical issue there is the chance he's got some emotional "baggage" going along with having to work things out in his mind, so some of that message could be related to that type of thing. Because his life could end there's also the chance he believes he has to tell people he appreciates them while he's here.

Answer 3

Wow sorry to hear about his illness. But in any case it can mean two things: 1. basically means he's not into you or 2. he does not want to enter this relationship with you because he feel as if you're too nice of a person to end up with a guy who is going to not be around for you long enough.

But usually its a man's way of saying "Not into you." I am not trying to sound harsh but that's what it basically means. If you were "too good" for him why would he want you to be with someone else? Wouldn't he want you to be his woman instead of some other dudes? Doesn't make sense to me. I think thats his excuse of not wanting to enter a relationship with you.

Ask him this, "What do you mean by too good, don't you think you're worth a woman as myself...don't you want a good woman!?" If he answers "yes but you're just too good for me" forget him because its plain to see he's fooling you with his "too good" crap.

But if you really have feelings for this guy, express your feelings and ask him how he feels about you and if he's still feeding you those lines, move on. Good luck!

Answer 4

Well, I know alot of people think it's a way of him telling you he's not interested, but I know I tell that to guys because it's actually how I feel. But I think this guy might not want to hurt you because of his heart problem. Tell him how you feel about him, how you really feel, and that no matter what, you really want to be with him and help him to cope with what he has to go through. I think he's just scared. Not just scared of hurting you, but the pain it's gunna cause him if he gets attatched to you and then hasta leave you. It's a hard spot for him too if he likes you, too you know.

Answer 5

I've had this thought myself on a few occasions, and the reason behind it, I've come to realize, is an unreasonable view of romantic idealism. Often, it is difficult for men to view women beyond their looks, and see them as simply a person with strengths and weaknesses like the rest of us. Or, he feels that he would have to do or be something greater than he is because of a poor image of himself.

Answer 6

Usually when a guy says this he has low self esteem..

However, since he has health issues.. I think he doesn't understand why you would want to invest any time into him since he doesn't have long to live. He may have giving up on life and happyness.

Kick him in the as* and straighten him out. tell him how you feel and why you're with him.

Answer 7

well someone who is this close to death has surely gone through (if he isn't still going through) the different levels of acceptance of death. One of them is depression and usually people think that nothing is worth it anymore since they know they will die. I suppose that in his case that's what he means. Continue being the sweet girl you are to him and hopefully eventually he will see that you are just right for him (whether he is dying or not).

Answer 8

Not a good thing. My three older brothers called me "ding dong" for years. It's like saying someone is a ditz or airhead.

Answer 9

If it is true that this guy is truly dying, then I think he is just trying to save you the heartache of losing him. SOunds to me like he wants someone, but he doesn't want to be a burden to anyone, and cause them pain when he dies. If you truly care for him then you should stick with it,

Good Luck and sorry to hear your friend is so sick.

Answer 10

Because they feel they don't deserve to be treated nice by someone like you who cares. They just have very low self esteem issues and that may be the case with his heart.