Is this justified, or am I just being a priss?

Question

I have this project due tomorrow, and I got to work in a group, one girl promised to do the technical stuff, in exchange for slightly less typing work. Unfortunately, I ended up doing all the technical work and some of her typing work as well. We gave our professor a paper to show who gets credit for what and I'm debating changing the paper to give myself credit, I know it sounds bad to do that and I don't even know how I'd tell her, is this just being mean? I don't want her grade reduced but I don't want her getting credit, and possibly even a higher grade then me because of MY efforts.

Answer 1

Lala Lola; What you say [that yo are wanting] -right at the end
of your very descriptive relaying of what REALLY eventuated:
I [can only] say:
"YOU are perfectly, RIGHT.. -and,
in NO way could be [construed]
as being rather mean.

Frankly: you are pure -in this instant; not 'Mean': no way!
You did (almost) ALL of the work: SHE IS a competitor -one who is [also looking]..
for an 'easy ride' -all the way to the winning-post .-at your expense!

Answer 2

Obviously this is a question which ultimately, only you can decide. However, what I think it boils down to, is, which is more important: your friendships or your grades. On the surface, it doesn't look to me as though this girl is a very good friend, letting you do so much of her work, and then happy to sit back and take the credit.

You say the work was in a group. Now, I don't know if there were others in the group, or if it was just the 2 of you, or if there were more, what the group dynamics were. If the group was larger, I would present the unfairness of the work distribution to the whole group, and if they are good people, they should take your side.

If it was just the 2 of you, I would still probably lean in favour of telling the girl how you feel, and how unfair it would be for her to take credit for your work. But then, you are the one who knows her, so you do know your situation better than you have laid down here.

Personally, I would always try to avoid allowing others to take credit for your work, however hard the peer pressure may be. You risk having yourself seen as a doormat, and used for others' work in the future. Any friend worth their salt will respect you for standing up for yourself.

Answer 3

Sometimes it's necessary to fudge the truth but this is not one of them. I'm no advocate for lying but I know there is a time that the absolute truth is unnecessary.

Think about how telling the truth may effect you socially. Is getting all the credit worth being possibly ostracized from you peers? Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying you shouldn't tell the truth but you should be ready for the possible ramifications of you choice.

Is this person a friend or just an acquaintance through this assignment? These are just a few things to think about as you make your decision.

I know I haven't directly answered your question but I hope I have helped you think of a few things that would lead you to a wise decision.

Good Luck,
Quequegs

Answer 4

The paper that explains who did what was written by the group? Don't change the paper, but talk to your professor and explain to her what happened. These things happen all the time, and if your professor is having you turn in a paper that explains who did what, she's aware of it. Make sure that you are seeing the professor with concerns about your own grade, not your groupmate's. Focusing on her getting a bad grade seems petty.

Answer 5

Your not being a priss. You must confront the girl, but be wary of doing this BEFORE you turn in the paper, as she might try to make you feel bad for her and whether you want to or not, you might end up doing the wrong thing(as in giving her undue credit). Take all the credit for what you did, nothing more and nothing less.

Answer 6

I would give credit where credit is due. She obviously didn't care too much about you when she didn't carry out her side of the deal, did she? And she will continue to sponge off people like this until she stops getting away with it. So you are not doing her any real favor if you give her the credit. You will actually help her in the long run if you DONT let her have the credit for this, because she will eventually find herself in the situation where she either learns it for herself or, she flunks out. (Like everyone else!)

Answer 7

Believe it or not, there is a very easy answer to this question.

Talk to your prof. Explain the situation and ask his advice. He will end up giving you the marks, plus he will like you because of your openness and honesty. Don't worry about this girl...it isn't your fault she didn't do the work required of her. She was the one who let your group down. It's nice to be nice...but not at the expense of your grades, especially (if I'm correct in assuming you are post-secondary) when you are PAYING for an education.

As an afterthought, it also isn't helping her any if you let her just slide by. Letting her get good grades for work she didn't do just reinforces her irresponsible behaviour. Letting her get caught not doing any work will help her realize she needs to live up to her responsibilities if she wants to succeed.

Answer 8

I would take the credit. Or talk to the professor in private and explain what happen. Next time if paired with her again don't do her work unless you take all the credit.

Answer 9

Take credit for the work you have done and let her get the credit for the work she has done. She knows the truth and if she gets angry, maybe the next group you have to participate in will not include her.

Answer 10

Changing the paper credits now might be all that good. Discuss the circumstance with the Prof. privately.