My sister is getting married in a few months and it is my responsibility to plan the shower. I got excited and had a few ideas (my parents house, renting out the clubhouse at my condo...catering and designing to fit some particular theme). My sister seems to be set on the idea of going out somewhere (that's a lot of people to buy lunch for!) Should a bridal shower really be "all out"? Does a bride have a right to be picky about the party that is being thrown for her solely to inherit gifts? Would love to hear your opinions!
2007-01-24 17:05:25 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
None, where I am from the shower is always a surprise, she gets no say.
However, bridal showers are almost always held at some sort of restaraunt where I am from too. I've only been to 1 that was at someones house and I am glad that I was young when I went because I had to sit on the floor as did many other ladies. If I went to this shower now and had to sit in the floor I would be annoyed. You know as MOH you dont foot the bill alone right? The shower costs are split equally by all the bridesmaids, its a responsibility they accept when they accept an invitation to be in the wedding.
But no, leave her out of it, this is the one part of her wedding where she gets NO say. She'll just have to suck it up and let you guys throw the party for her.
2007-01-25 00:10:48 · answer #1 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the bride should be allowed some input, but ultimately you are footing the bill. I could see her having an opinion as to the favor, or what kind of cake she likes, but it's up to you to decide what your budget allows. Sometimes these bridal shower guest lists total balloon, and that is a LOT of lunches to buy! So, my opinion is no, she shouldn't be too picky and very happy for whatever you throw for her.
2007-01-25 02:00:20 · answer #2 · answered by MelB 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I honestly can't see there would be much difference in cost between catering a lunch and going out to lunch somewhere. Logistically speaking, it would probably be easier to have something catered, simply because if you take say 30 people to lunch somewhere, most restaurants aren't going to be prepared for that many people just showing up. You'd have to have it in a separate room, and they'd probably even want you to stick to a particular menu...so what's the difference?
On if the bride should have input..I'd say yes, with reservations. She doesn't get the call all the shots here, after all, it's basically YOUR party so she can get more gifts. You're footing the bill here, right? I always say the person who is footing the bill, has the most say, in ANYTHING. But, considering this is your sister, you're going to have to take her wishes into consideration. Look into private rooms at restaurants, it may not be as much as you're thinking it will be. But I would definitely bring up the logistical issue with her, she just may not have thought of the mechanics of taking 30 or so people to lunch.
Good luck, and congrats to your sister.
2007-01-25 01:29:31 · answer #3 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You know she's going to love whatever you do for her...it's the thought that counts afterall. Half the fun is being surprised. I would pay little attention to what the bride wants---she's the guest of honour, not the hostess. However, if there was anything the bride DIDN'T WANT, I would respect that.
Lastly, no, bridal parties don't have to be "all out" - that what the wedding is for.
2007-01-25 02:06:20 · answer #4 · answered by Shorty 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a bride whose is going to soon have a bridal shower soon, the only thing I think we brides should have imput on is what type of atmosphere we want the shower to be. for example, couples shower, ladies only, lingere, ect. I am also provinding a list of guest along with dates that I will not be availible.
2007-01-25 12:46:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope a bride has no say so in the bridal party she can register places and ask who she wants to go you might not know all her friends an there addresses but no she does not say where it is or what not you do it as much or as little as you can afford to do it even if its cake an cookies an punch or a sit down meal pot luck what ever you choose if i was you id plan it throw a surprise an tell her to build a bridge an get over it if she didn't like it. BTW are you the maid of Honor if not id say forget it an let her do it
2007-01-25 01:14:52 · answer #6 · answered by rodeogirl 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
May i suggest that you might want to have the party like you say then after eating and opening the gifts then you all can go out and have a few drinks. Don't be afraid to talk to your sister and tell her that it will be to expensive to pay for so much people and if you do it this way then at the end everyone can pay for their own drinks. What do you think? I think your sister will understand or she should? Hope this helps
2007-01-25 01:16:16 · answer #7 · answered by LittleDaisy. 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
None, really - usually someone else is planning the shower. I think it's best just to have a bridal shower at someone's home, where everyone can get comfy and it's informal, you can just have snackies and fun!
2007-01-25 10:09:10 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as etiquette goes, she should let you do everything. But she is your sister and you will have to interact with her forever, so I suggest taking input.
Going out to lunch doesn't have to be that expensive, have a set menu and don't chose an expensive place. But you can also do something different. It is up to you, but keep in mind what she would want.
2007-01-25 01:17:16 · answer #9 · answered by emp04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are hosting, it should fit your budget. Typically the only thing the bride has any say in is the guest list.
2007-01-25 01:46:04 · answer #10 · answered by Cinnamon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋