my ex loved to chat with other girls on myspace and facebook and he even gave him his number and they talked on the phone all the time. He claims that they were 'just friends' and that they were just talking. I just couldn't believe it. I read some of their messages (he showed me) and he was telling the truth but I mean whenever I told him that I had a problem with it he would just tell me I was crazy. I'm sure it is possible to "just talk" but the girls would leave really flirty messages on his wall. I was so bothered by it.. He just didn't want to stop. Am I crazy? we had the worst fights over this... was it fair for me to tell him to stop talking to them. ever since i had erased both my profiles from the sites because i get sickened at the thought that i am contributing to something that hurt me so much.... what do you think?
2007-01-24 17:01:55 · 12 answers · asked by magnumlaude 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it depends on the guy... it is possible to not form a romantic relationship online. i have a few online friends that are just friends
2007-01-24 17:11:59 · answer #1 · answered by Dont get Infected 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has never happened to me, and I have for the most part had female "best friends" through my life (I'm 66). It turned complicated several times and I lost one whom I really loved, and when I finally told her, she pretty much sounded shocked - and then she laughed, which wasn't pretty either and that was it. Rather sad, because I thought we would have been really good together - oh well. I didn't lose out at all, as I'm married to my best friend ever, going on 28+ years. But it didn't start as a friendship - I saw her and before we even talked, I knew that was it - and it was, big time. If you haven't seen "When Harry met Sally" you should. It is dealing with your question in a really fun way - great movie. Also, read my blog-post about RELATIONSHIPS (link below). To negate involving romantic (sex) feelings and "urges" is near impossible. And the fine line is that even if you THINK she has the same feelings, you might be terribly wrong. Another thing is that the "edge" feelings that might be going on, can actually spruce up the relationship without acting on it physically. So be careful if you don't want to rock the boat out of the water, okay? Cheers, Peter
2016-05-24 06:37:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, of course it's possible. Not all relationships (even between people of the opposite sex) need to be romantic ones. In fact everyone should have ordinary friends of both sexes.
I can understand your feeling insecure about it though - but remember, they are far away, so you have the advantage!
2007-01-24 18:15:58 · answer #3 · answered by Martin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope! I chat all the time and I have no intention of flirting. I have got to know a lot of interesting people on here. I openly say I am happily (sometimes lol) married and they say they ae married also and we talk of general things. What can happen anyway if someone is thousands of miles away?
2007-01-24 17:10:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Highly UNlikely that they were "just friends" I'm 40, single, and have tried to just find a friend to "chat" with online about everyday life. Nearly IMPOSSIBLE! The conversations ALWAYS lead to sex, sex and more sex. It's fun and exciting for these men to get that little extra attention online. They just can't help themselves.
2007-01-24 17:07:12 · answer #5 · answered by NYEVE43 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, your jealousy was out of proportion (and the insecurity was about the wrong thing), but on the other hand, if he was committed to you he'd have stopped trying to be close friends with so many other girls after you told him it bothered you.
2007-01-24 17:08:55 · answer #6 · answered by John D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds pretty shady to me.
Why don't you get some of those digits off the Caller ID and give them a jingle?
2007-01-24 17:06:07 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have lots of friends which i have met on line and i have had no romantic links with them, i am gregarious and enjoy meeting people and having a laugh. i can understand your concern but he has been very open with you, don't let this ruin your relationship
2007-01-24 20:00:03 · answer #8 · answered by Fallen Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, totally possible. Highly unlikely, unless of course they're ugly.
2007-01-24 17:47:15 · answer #9 · answered by Dynamite D 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you did overreact. I chat with girls all the time in a platonic way so its perfectly fine. Oh and don't spy please. That's really lame.
2007-01-24 17:10:05 · answer #10 · answered by Sammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋