How to deal with temper tatrums from a 7 year old?

Answer 1

Your child has tantrums because he/she wants your attention. It doesn't matter if the attention is positive or negative. He/she just want 100 percent of it. He/she wants you to stop your life and give them 100 percent of your attention. So if you lose your cool and yell, or have a tantrum yourself, you've given them what they want.

The best and more reasonable way to deal with a tantrum is TIME OUT

During a timeout, the child has to sit someplace boring for a set length of time. Usually, the punishment lasts one minute for each year of the child's age. After a while, kids will even volunteer that they need a timeout and will go sit in their chair. Never lock a child in a room for a timeout.

If the child is too upset to sit still, you can say, "You're in timeout and, as far as I'm concerned, you're invisible to me." You pretend that you don't even see the child, but you can still assure his or her safety. Up until the age of 5, magic is real to children. So if you say they're invisible to you, they'll believe it.

If a 6-year-old or 7-year-old is still having tantrums, and timeouts aren't working, something else may be going on. It's time to see a doctor.

Good Luck

-Mother of 1-

Answer 2

First of all know that I know how you feel and that my son had some serious tantrum problems, what I am going to say will sound extreme but you will gain peace, and you will be able to lighten up after a bit.

It does not matter how you discipline just know that you have to be consistant. Make the rules and then expect that your child will follow them.

If you have watched the super nanny, her technigues do work, I have put them through the test and I have added some of my on punishments and rewards to suite our household.

You need to reward good behavior and punish bad. Then when punishment is over the child says I am sorry the parents forgive and you don't mention it again.

Timeout- If your child does something non exceptable, shouts no, hits, screams, does not clean room what ever it is, put them in time out. If they come out put them back. The time starts again and they stay there until they have stayed the alloted time you gave them. If they are kicking screaming shouting running they have to stay, but if they calm down and are good during time out, then you can let them stay there alloted time and let them get out. Say I am sorry, and then they may go. You have to do this each and everytime they misbehave for a while, but it does get better. Eventually they will be doing well.

Make sure that when they do something asked of them that you give them small rewards sometimes not all the time just some times.

The key thing is to stay at it. good luck

Answer 3

Watch the video "1-2-3 Magic...dealing with difficult behavior in children 2-12"by Thomas Phalen Ph. D. Often available at your local library or buy it at parentmagic.com. As a family therapist I canNOT speak more highly of it. Parents I have and do work with have found it extremely helpful and it has won a lot of awards.

Answer 4

In our home, tantrums over the age of 4 or 5 result in a spanking, after the child has cooled off in time out.

Answer 5

Walk away. When the child realizes that there is no one to hear the tantrum, he/she will stop soon thereafter. It won't take long before the child realizes that the tantrum gets them nowhere and will devise new ways of getting the desired attention. This is where you can step in and give positive reenforcement. Do this, it works.

Answer 6

MINE DAUGHTER IS 7 , SHE HAS LITTLE TEMPE TATRUMS ,,,,HER TIME OUT IS TOO GO IN HER ROOOM AND WATCH TV ....THAT HELP HER COOL DOWN ,THEN SHE COME OUT AND TALK TO ME AND TELL ME WHAT SHE WAS THOUGHING A TEPER TATRMS WAS ALL ABOUT . SORRY OF MINE SPELLING MINE KEYBORD KEEP LOCKING UP ON ME , /

Answer 7

DEAR HERE IS HOW YOU CAN DEAL WITH IT THERE ARE (3) WAYS IF YOU MY HELP (1) PUT HIM IN CONNER ON HIS KNEES WITH HIS NOSE TO THE WALL SET A TIMER BUT DO NOT LET HIM KNOW YOU DONE IT (15) MINUTES SHOULD DO IT. (2) PUT HIM IN YOUR ROOM WITH THE DOOR OPEN AND NO TOYS FOR HIM TO PLAY WITH PUT HIM ON YOUR BED FOR (15) MINUTES AS A TIME OUT. AND LAST IS A SPANKING PUT HIM OVER YOUR LAP ON YOUR BED AND GIVE IT TO HIM IF THE OTHER 2 DOES NOT WORK OK. WITH THE SOUND OF YOUR VOICE AND ABOUT 3 LICKS HE WILL CRY IF YOU POP HARD ENOUGH OK. GOOD LUCK

Answer 8

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Ignoring the negative behavior and praising the positive.

You have to give positive or they will take what they can get. And no positive leaves negative. Negative attention from you is better than no attention.

Spend time with the kid doing things that interests him/her.

Teaching him/her what behavior you will work with and acknowledge is the best prevention.

And if worse comes to worse, spare the rod, spoil the child. But try all other avenues first. be sure to separate the fact that he/she is a child. Don't spend TOO much time trying to understand them. He/she is a child. Certain behavior is unacceptable from children as well as adults. It's up to you to teach them, not learn to understand them as to how to deal with them.

This is not a negotiation. You wouldn't accept this from a friend. Your boss. Your mom. So don't undermine your boundaries by accepting it from him/her.

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Answer 9

My son is seven. If he were to throw a tamtrum i would swat him on the backside put him in his room and dont go back untill he is quiet, then tell him off good and proper!!! tell him this is what will happen EVERY time he does it.And then stick to it , he'll get the picture eventually!

Answer 10

Simply ignore it. Tantrums are just an attempt to get attention.