My daughter is 13 years old and is constantly talking about sexual abuse. She looks for online informations about it and she asks questions. She watches movies about it. She even writes about it. I have asked her several times if someone has abused her or anyone she knows and she denies it every time. She says it's just a subject she's interested in. She often cries and says she 'hates those bastards' who hurt kids. I don't know what to so anymore. I have asked her many times and always the same answer. What should I do?
2007-01-24 16:41:45 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Ya, take her to a therapist. I might kind of buy it if she just had some perverse fascination with it (kind of, although not really) but the the saying she "hates those bastards" and crying, I don't believe her. You're not trained to handle this. I'm sure she will thank you later for getting her help. You don't have to say its for her being a victim of abuse, but because you can see she is upset and she needs someone to talk to. You can tell the therapist that you suspect abuse but say you dont want to say that's the reason you're taking her there, since she obviously doesnt want to tell you about it, if that's actually the case (because, still, there's a chance it may not be)
2007-01-25 00:12:34 · answer #1 · answered by curious george 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you are a wise and prudent parent to be very concerned.
I nor anyone with this amount of information can do anything but speculate, but it definitely is a sign--a very prominant one that keeps repeating itself.
Because abused children often don't want to tell who it was that hurt them because they know them or they are a family member who they love despite the abuse they are afraid of re-experiencing. Those that have been repeatedly abused often feel powerless in stopping abuse that has gone on for so long. They lose all hope and channel their anger and hatred to all abusers in general.
Therefore, I would cover my bases, and her future, by getting her several sessions with a counselor who can establish a rapor and trust with her to explore the reasons she seems to be fixated on the subject.
Don't wait. Do it Now! She will thank you for your concern and being her advocate by the time she is older.
2007-01-24 21:00:12 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could truly just be that she is very interested in the subject. She may have a friend that was abused or that she suspects is being abused rather than it be her. It could be that they talked about it in school and it piqued her interest. She may be considering a career field in bringing these people to justice if she gets really gung-ho on it. If she had been abused as a child she probably would shy away from the subject rather than dive in head first like she is doing. You could try asking her if someone she knows was abused or is being abused now and tell her that if there is someone you would like to help them too.
2007-01-24 19:30:32 · answer #3 · answered by A W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like either she is abused or someone close to her has been. My best friend was bulimic and I was really curious about that. I looked at everything online, asked questions, etc, and my parents thought I had an eating disorder.
I suggest taking her to a therapist. Don't share that it is because of your suspicions, just tell her it is so that she can have someone to talk to about what is on her mind. The therapist has, most likely, dealt with abused children and will be able to tell you.
2007-01-24 23:37:13 · answer #4 · answered by bpbjess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like she has been abused in some way. What I would do is tell her that you are there for her to talk to when she is ready and then drop the subject. Keep an eye out for odd behaviors and to see if there is someone who is abusive in her life. If this abuse seems to be overwhelming to her and interfering with her life you can also have her go talk to a school counselor. In fact I would call the school and talk to the counselor yourself and set up a time where she goes in and meets with the counselor
2007-01-24 21:38:42 · answer #5 · answered by Serinity4u2find 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your daughter was abused? Ask her again why she is so interested in abused children. Maybe someone she knows was abused, and is trying to understand the reasons why. You may need to take her to counseling. Ask her does she know someone who was or is abused? Her interest had to stem from somewhere.
2007-01-24 19:27:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok right here it is going:it is for emotional abuse which then finally ends up in actual abuse: a million) first that individual(we could call him/her abuser) and the different ( the sufferer) 2)the abuser provides too many random presents for the sufferer, to teach that he /she loves the sufferer. 3) the abuser will start up asking straightforward questions, like what did you do right this moment and ask for greater info, then after some days this is going to become like a recurring the place the abuser needs to renowned each and every thing concerning the sufferer, occasion: what did you do right this moment in school/artwork? who did you meet? what did they are announcing?" and so on 4) abuser gets indignant once you discuss with the different gender/intercourse. 5) abuser will start up announcing undesirable issues to the sufferer which contain " you're valueless, no physique loves you purely me " and so on and at same time be dazzling to your freinds/family contributors ( whomever the sufferer introduces the abuser to). 6) the sufferer will experience helpless and do his/her terrific to make the abuser happy yet this makes it worse because of the fact the abuser will start up exhibiting the sufferer their blunders working example " you're incorrect...you're meant to call me right this moment , you in many circumstances call me at 5 om, what made you no longer call me right this moment? " and so on and needs to renowned right info of the sufferer, the place the sufferer became at a certai time and so on. 7) abuser says greater verbal thigns to the sufferer...sufferer feels hopeless now, feels ineffective 8) now and returned and in many circumstances the abuser will start up actual abuse which contain hitting or slapping the sufferer in inner maximum or publicly and likewise at same time exhibiting every person around the sufferer that he/she is the nagel and that the sufferer is erroneous. Abuse worsens for the time of time if the sufferer keeps to be with the abuser, the ealier the signs and indications , the greater powerful the sufferer leaves the abuser. it is particularly difficult to pass away the abuser if the sufferer keeps to be with him/her for a protracted time.
2016-11-01 05:34:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not particularly abuse. It could be that she is just sensetive when it comes to this subject. Some kids are sensetive about certain subjects during puberty. Some get agitated when it comes to animal cruelty. Other's get ticked at disresepect. I would stop badgering her. Let HER come to you if there is a problem.
2007-01-25 19:02:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps she is not that close to you to confide things!! why dont you get ur companion or a lady friend to talk to her?? I think she needs help dont let close into herself!
2007-01-24 19:27:24 · answer #9 · answered by Jennifer Jane B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is time to get the psychologist involved
2007-01-24 20:36:18 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋