one of my best friends is becoming depressed (now he's getting a cold too!) and stressed out because his girlfriend refuses to see him (she says she needs space to deal with her issues). i am becoming increasingly worried for the poor guy. i don't know what advice to give him anymore. they've dated for over 2 yrs and she complains to me (she's also one of my roommates) that he never wants to see her because he's busy with school (he's not cheating) and extra-curricular stuff. she has moodswings and he tells me that she brings him down. he also told me that she's too clingy and sometimes he has to ask her to leave. they used to be so good together! she told me that she's not sure whether they love eachother. from what he tells me, she's pressuring him to marry her. my guy-friend also tells me how he thinks other girls (our mutual friends) are cute. should they continue this relationship? i suggested couples' counseling, but... i'm out of advice for them and confused too.
ADVICE please?
2007-01-24 16:39:16 · 17 answers · asked by emrees 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell them to solve their own issues and not use you as the complaint department.
2007-01-24 16:43:25 · answer #1 · answered by Tiger by the Tail 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They both are dysfunction;That being said, couples counseling would be appropriate. However, since she won't see him how come her is suddenly looking around at other females. Seems that this is a able message.
Perhaps, under a good couples counselor, they can break down communications. However, if I were a betting man, she is sabotaging the relationship and he has played games with her and been evasive and unavailable.
Not a good match, despite hot sex, perhaps.
2007-01-24 16:48:57 · answer #2 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree he should break up with her, how dare she sit there and say she don't trust him when shes the one cheating on him. At least hes trying to do something with his life, if she can't be supportive of him and be faithful the f@ck her. There are lots of good girls out there, looking for a guy who won't cheat on her. I bet you part of him wants to break up with her but theres something holding him back. Have you asked him if he likes being cheated on and being treated like that? You may just need to be straight up with him, tell him that you are tired of him asking you for advice and then not doing anything with it. I know men don't get all mushy but tell him that your his buddy and you don't like seeing him unhappy. He deserves better!
2016-05-24 06:34:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was the middle woman for two friends in a similar situation. When they made up, they both got mad at me for the personal advice I gave each of them. I learned from that mistake to stay out of it. Be neutral and listen to them complain but SAY NOTHING.
2007-01-24 16:45:36 · answer #4 · answered by kamsmom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know its hard when 2 people that you like and care about confide in you about each other. tell them you have no skills in helping them with their relationship and that you cannot pick either persons side in this matter.
they really should be focusing on their education, this is not time that any of you will be able to get back in the same way ever again.
2007-01-24 16:56:50 · answer #5 · answered by Cymbaline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they may be your friends, but you need to tell both of them that you dont want to be in the middle any longer..that they need to resolve their issues together..when they come to you with a complaint, say your sorry, but you cant help them and walk away..its too bad for you..if your guy friend is looking at other girls, then they need to break it off..it'll be a rough time for everyone, but let them resolve it..
2007-01-24 16:49:07 · answer #6 · answered by Nikkib 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no....i'd say they're pretty much done. you're out of advice, and it sounds like the guy is ready to be done, so i would just step out of it and let the two of them deal with the remnants of their relationship. if they ask you for advice, tell them you don't know what more yo ucan say that you haven't said already, and if they're so unhappy then why don't they just break up.
2007-01-24 16:44:46 · answer #7 · answered by mighty_power7 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say best friend's feelings before roommate's feelings. You need to consider moving out, especially if they keep bringing this home to you.
2007-01-24 16:52:54 · answer #8 · answered by tooqerq 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave them alone and don't get involved in any way, shape or form! It will only come back to bite you regardless of the outcome!
2007-01-24 16:45:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the perfect solution, tell them to get together, i mean tell one they have to do something and the the other they have to do something but make it at the same place and MAKE THEM TALk.
2007-01-24 16:45:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋