is he thinking about breaking up with me?

Question

I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 2 years now and most of it has been long distance, as it is right now. Last night he told me that he wasnt coming to visit me like he had planned on doing, so now we arent going to see eachother for two weeks. I am always visiting him, so this really upset me. I told him how much this hurt my feelings and after asking him to still come, he got mad, and hung up on me. he then shut his phone off and hasnt called me, or turned his phone back on yet. I really don't know what to do, nothing like this has ever happened in our relationship, and he has never done anything like this. Just some input would be nice. thanks!

Answer 1

Unless sometime in the near future you guys we planning on being in the same city you should move on. Long distance is fine but you should be working on moving to the same area while your apart for it to work.I its been mostly long distance for 2 years maybe its time to find someone closer.

Answer 2

Maybe not. Could be having a bad day, or more likely, something is on his mind. That something may not be breaking up with you. It might be something like work related or with his friends.

Did he tell you why he was cancelling?

In any case, after two years, people become more comfortable with eachother which means they can just be angry if they feel angry rather than holding it back and trying to be polite. Like family. Don't we take things out on our family when it has nothing to do with him?

I'd say, relax and don't worry about it cuz he knows how he acted and its in his hands. If he is thinking about break up with you, then anything you do other than relaxing will stress you out and not help the situation. If he's not thinking about it at all, he'll appreciate your patience and you'll know what things are all about soon enough.

Answer 3

Well, he might be going through something right now that he isn't willing to share with. perhaps he needs to work it out himself. i would not chase this man at this point. if there is something going on, he hasn't shown you the proper respect to warrant another call. if he is blowing you off, after 2 years, then as much as it hurts, you are better off. A real man would at least give you an explanation. It appears to me as if you have made all the effort in this relationship by YOU being the one to travel.
I would leave him a message stating that you are worried about him, but you do not appreciate the disrespect and that he is welcome to take all the time he needs to figure out what he is doing, but I would also make it clear that you will also be reevaluting your realtionship based on his behavior.

Then leave it be and in your heart and head, move on. Do not wait. If he loves you, he will be back and depending on the length of time it takes him, you may not want him by then.

Answer 4

such things happen in relationships.think positively.may be he is being stressed up by work or any thing.If not love has levels,so yours must be the 2nd level where a partner needs time alone to think and decide whether it's meant to be.
Or you are too far away from each other and you have no solution,so he decides to back off.the moment you give him space he will gather up and feel its ok with out you.
Or,she is seeing some one else,So dont push him,pretend nothing happened.when he is on line call him briefly and ask if he is alright.then hang on.
He will come back.

Answer 5

It's time to move on without him. You don't deserve to be treated this way, especially without a proper explanation. He's either leaving the relationship the only way he knows how (which isn't mature) or he needs space. Whichever one it is, he should just be honest about it. Don't beg, force or pressure him. I know it's very difficult for you right now, but you have to be strong and make the right decision for yourself. Ask him what the problem is and if you two can discuss it. If it's not worth it anymore, break it off and continue to live your life.

Answer 6

Break it off. It probably won't get any better. If he really loved you and wanted it to work, he would make the effort. Sounds like he might just be using you. The sooner you dump him, the sooner you can get over the whole situation, and the sooner you can move on and find a decent guy. I'm sure there are plenty of them that live near you.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

same things happened to me. i am in a love with a guy who lives in east coast nj where as i am in ca. we meet once every 2 months.it happens that he hangs up on me or doesnt reply for whole night, but it doesnt mean that he is not in love with u. he might be having some trouble. busy with something. try to talk with him callmly. did u called his home no? if that doesnt work call his frds if u have their info. next time to meet him or go out with him in his grp, get to know his frds, be cool with them, get their contact info so that can help u some day.
the guy who kept hanging up on me, is marrying me next yr. it is just the nature of boys. they change after a while. it will work out. be calm. everything is going to be fine. watever happens happens for good. we cannot change it.

so take a good nap. and good luck.

Answer 9

daer bab i think he fade up with u or may be some misunderstanding be done between u so pls go and meet with him and when meet him be strong because u are not wrong and u dont avoid him he avoid u so clear ask him what ishis problemand then clear the problemds so not need to worry this is small thing keep faith is god and love truly

Answer 10

long distance relaitonships are no good especially when men are involved.

He might just be frustrated that he can't come there for some reason hes ashamed of.

I wouldn't jump to conclusions. It all depends on how and why he told you hes not coming.