How can I get my privaledges back?

Question

Well, I started playing online games. But they affected school so my mom took them away. I've started doing better in school and am more organized how do I regain trust and the right to play the games?

Answer 1

By having a proven track record of keeping your grades up for the time period that YOUR MOTHER has determined is appropriate. That is the key here ... HONOR your mother and listen to her concerns (After all, she loves and cares for you enough to Say "NO MORE VIDEO GAMES" at this time).

Answer 2

Show her that you can and will respect bounderies and that you can disapline yourself to play games in moderation.

How I would do this is by

1. Don't mention anything about the games which will show her you can go without them and are not addicted. If you are, a few weeks to a month will help you break the habit. Expect this method to take a few weeks to a month.

2. In other duties or chores, be responsible enough in doing them, that your mom won't have to ask you or remind you about them even once.
This will show her that you are not only organizing yourself enough to remember about them, but also are developing self-disapline to the degree that you are a self starter even in the un-fun tasks and responsabilities. (A mature and adult like character trait).

3. After you have done the above for about 2 weeks, calmly go to her and tell her that you
**Understand why she was worried about you and your time
**Agree with her that you were spending an unreasonable amount of time (since you were as evidenced by your grades before)
**Would appreciate her "considering" a time in the future when you might be able to earn your privledges back.

If you approach her in a mature and non arguing way (listen and agree alot) she will start to see you in a new way.

If she gets mad and says she doesn't want to talk about it yet, whatever you do, DO NOT get angry back! Remember, mature adults don't respond that way. The key is to VERY calmly, tell her that you can understand why she feels that way and that you know she is wanting the best for you. Tell her you would appreciate her help in helping you learn self disapline and how to incorporate the fun things (like games) into your schedule in a way that would not jeapordize your study time.

Even after a negative response, she will most likely want to work with you if you are totally calm and non combative. Why? Because I think she wants you to succeed but also be able to enjoy life and learn to juggle the necessary work with some play.

Good luck!

Answer 3

First, you keep improving, and stay organized. Then, when she notices and says something positive to you about it, ask when you can have your privileges back. Don't be surprised if she says no, however.

Here's the thing: those games are a HUGE time-suck, and if you play them you will go back to poor school performance -- trust me on this. For your own well-being (never mind your parents), once you have the privileges again you should restrict yourself to a specific period of time on specific days. This will (a) keep you from backsliding and losing the privileges again, and (b) make you more like an adult, which your parents will notice -- and they'll probably get more lenient with other stuff. That's how it works with parents.

Answer 4

You should set your mom down & talk with her. Point out that you are doing better in school & more organized. Ask her when she thinks you have earned the right to play them again.

Answer 5

Talk to your mom. Point out your improvements and bring up a plan of how you will limit and control your game playing to be more responsible and balanced with studies.

Answer 6

Make a bet with her, say that you'll clean this and this and that ever day for a week or month or that she see's the 2nd report good that if she can give you the game back...be fair

Answer 7

Only she knows when.I say ask her a date when you can play.

Answer 8

show her that you're pulling yourself back together.