I met this guy 3 years ago and I knew the moment I met him, He was my soulmate. My husband and I are splitting up, and I have no clue where to begin. Please help!!
2007-01-24 16:18:19 · 12 answers · asked by greeneyes31968 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wow...back to the dating market. is he available? call him up and ask to talk to him...so you can mention about your split to him as a friend and find out whether he's available. then call to follow up naturally. you can eventually ask him whether he would go for a coffee with him I guess. then that become more obvious...he will eventually get the hint.
2007-01-24 16:24:57 · answer #1 · answered by xyz 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know you think that this guy is your soulmate and he might very well be, but the first thing you need to do is make sure that you are ready to move into another major relationship. If the answer is yes, you should start making the effort to spend time with this man. Find things that you guys have in common and invite him along to do them with you. Don't think of this initial "hang-out" as an official date. Think of it as a "getting to know you". The more you guys hang out casually, the more comfortable you will feel around each other, and ultimately the easier it will be to express your true feelings. It will also give this man time to realize whether or not he has the same feelings about you. Just remember: don't come on too strong too soon. It could send the message that you are desperate and crazy! Most importantly have fun and don't stress over the situation. Good Luck!
2007-01-25 00:26:34 · answer #2 · answered by shallybles 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I suggest you ask him out for lunch, it's a very good startpoint, a lot better than dinner or drinks if you say you need some time to get those dating skills rolling again. then see how he responds and if you have a good time and if so, go ahead, tell him you had a good time, you should do this again, maybe dinner, "oh, there's this movie i reallty want to see", find some sort of 'event' or something going to give you a reason to meet again. Don't be afraid to show him you like him, you're both adults and not 12 year olds anymore and it's fine to like boys now. Best of luck!
2007-01-25 00:26:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Give yourself at least six months before you even think about getting involved with anyone again unless you are simply looking for a roll in the hay. And I would advise against that also. If in six months you are still interested, simply call him and say. I know this may sound a bit forward but would you like to go out for lunch with me some time? Day dates are less threatening.
2007-01-25 00:24:45 · answer #4 · answered by Poohcat1 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow congrats! There is nothing to worry about. Just relax and be yourself. Take it slow and confident. 12 years or 12 month, big deal...you are back to dating and you have an eye on somebody and thats all you need to get it done. Just follow you intuition on everything. Let dating be your key signiture,....special.
2007-01-25 00:24:55 · answer #5 · answered by BK thang 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well the first thing to do is talk to him. If you have known him for 3 years you should feel comfortable enough to open up to him especially if you are convinced he is your soul mate. Pick up the telephone, dial his phone number, and talk to him. Does that help?
2007-01-25 00:23:36 · answer #6 · answered by sweetnfoxychick 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Don't go hitting on a guy until after your divorce is final. You need time for yourself to work out how you feel. Never go for a guy on a rebound.
2007-01-25 00:22:36 · answer #7 · answered by Monkey Lips 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Call him, tell him you are getting a divorce, tell him you always
felt close to him and would he like to spend some time with you
because you need someone to talk to...
2007-01-25 00:23:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
well now days ladies do ask the men out so go up to him and ask him if he would like to go to dinner or a drink sometime
2007-01-25 00:22:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i would just be honest. if you havent dated in 12 years, you are old enough to be mature and tell him how you feel.
2007-01-25 00:23:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋