How many people are tired of people asking what should they do now that they had a baby out of wedlock and boyfriend doesn't want it anymore?
2007-01-24 16:17:59 · 19 answers · asked by mom of twins 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Yes. Especially since my tax dollars go to support the kids of these people.
I do not buy into the "We didn't know sex could lead to pregnancy" excuse. I feel that people know exactly what they are doing when they have sex. :)
If some people exercised better self control they wouldn't have that problem.
2007-01-24 16:37:38 · answer #1 · answered by daryavaush 5 · 2⤊ 11⤋
I have two beautiful children (with the same man) that were not born in wedlock. If anything were to happen, and he were to leave, I know that my girls would still be well taken care of by me. Also, I am lucky enough to have a strong non-judgemental support group of family and friends that love me and my girls no matter what. I don't think people should be baby making machines, but I also don't think that it is anyone else's place to make judgements against people with children born out of wedlock. Perhaps someone is looking for a little bit of advice, or some encouragement...you don't need to shoot them down.
2007-01-25 00:53:06 · answer #2 · answered by Angie K 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You know you DONT need to be married to have a child. Some people dont believe in getting married. Some dont see why they should rush out and get married because they find out they are pregnant, some people dont need a little piece of paper telling them that they truly love someone. Its 2007 not 1960. People are not going to do something they dont want to because other people think they should. Why should someone rush out and get married when they dont know if they want to be with that person for the rest of their life, or what if they fight all the time and are not happy. Are they supposed to get married to make people like you happy?
2007-01-25 02:01:14 · answer #3 · answered by angel01182 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think that people like you shouldn't be so judgemental but I also think that if people are not ready for kids then they should use protection. With me being 18 and wanting a baby I dont see anything wrong with having a baby out of wedlock if the person wants it and is fully ready and prepared to care for it.
2007-01-25 00:34:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 2⤋
having a baby out of wedlock is not what contributes to men not wanting their babies. if ur man doesnt want the baby regardless if he's ur husband or ur boyfriend just makes him a scumbag jerk. stop being ignorant.
what should anyone in that situation do married or not? STOP HAVING KIDS WITH LOSERS!!
2007-01-25 02:31:37 · answer #5 · answered by bella212 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
The asker of the question was not saying anything about a husband leaving his wife and they already had a child. The asker said "....a baby out of wedlock and BOYFRIEND doesn't want it anymore?" There is a distinct difference between a marriage which unfortunately went sour in comparison to two unwed people having sex irresponsibly and creating unwanted children. A child should be wanted by BOTH the mother and the father. Personally I do not think people should have kids out of wedlock. Things don't "just happen". Yes, birth control can fail, but if you BOTH use something, the odds of that happening are pretty small.
And yes I also agree with the respondent who was pissed at our taxpayer money going to people who have kids they can't then afford because the other parent ducks the responsibility of supporting them. I also agree with the other respondent who said that nowadays morals are non-existent. It's sad. It's disgusting and if the Maury show and the Jerry Springer show are any indication of what our misdirected youth are heading towards in the future, the world should really end tomorrow.
Last but not least, children NEED both parents and need to know that they were WANTED by both parents. That's why you have all these violent teenage boys who feel unloved (hurt feelings turned into aggression) and all these teenage girls wanting babies when they themselves are babies (girls who didn't receive adequate love growing up want a child to have someone to love and love them in return).
Everyone has the right to do what they want and opine as they want, but personally I believe a child deserves a happy home, both parents and stability. I also believe that the ideal environment and situation to have a child in this way is within the relationship of marriage. If you think about it, if a guy isn't ready to be your husband, most likely he won't be ready to be a father either.
2007-01-25 01:13:27 · answer #6 · answered by Answersme123 2 · 1⤊ 7⤋
I'm just wondering why it matters to you. Relationships go bad, things happen. Do you think people should get married just because they have/are about to have a child? Marriages like that usually don't work. Perhaps you should look past your own judgemental views and offer some advice on how to raise the child or how to help that person if they ask you for advice. Or maybe you could ask your question on yahoo answers and then get mad because people are commenting on the judgemental nature of said question (see, that was me beign judgemental. it's not fun, is it?)
2007-01-25 00:26:56 · answer #7 · answered by imhalf_the_sourgirl_iused_tobe 5 · 9⤊ 2⤋
having babies and not being married is not the issue
having babies and not wanting to raise and love them,or not being able too because of lacking finance-- is the point
people should only have babies when they can afford them and want them .Mariage is irrelevant,although it helps the baby in later life if it is not a baste+d,because of all the judgemental people around
nudge
2007-01-25 00:29:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋
mom of twins huh? hope ur marriage is loooooooong and lasting. things change and sh*t happens i just hope it wont happen to you cuz the bigger they are the harder they fall and right now ur on a high pedestal. why should u care what someone elses situation is as long as yours is working out...
2007-01-25 01:13:59 · answer #9 · answered by charli_red1218 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason why women should be married to have kids. That is just some silly moral judgement put on them by people with similar attitudes to you.
Stuff happens - be polite and tolerant to others and don't judge them by your standards.
2007-01-25 00:27:29 · answer #10 · answered by darklydrawl 4 · 9⤊ 2⤋
I'm sure you took the bone a time or two before you got married. What if you got knocked up? It would sound a little different to you, wouldn't it??
2007-01-25 00:27:20 · answer #11 · answered by wildraft1 6 · 10⤊ 2⤋