I'm sure that my girlfriend wants to wait till we are married but is there a way to talk more about it without any offense to any of us?
2007-01-24 16:15:45 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just be open about your feelings, without pressuring her. you better hold on to that one....not to many girls value that practice that anymore! lol
2007-01-24 16:18:49 · answer #1 · answered by angie20k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, there is a way to talk about it with no offense especially if you already made a commitment and have a date set to get married. You can tell her that you can't wait to marry her so you two can share your love and maybe start a family sometime. I think she will feel the same way.
Just don't go too far, you need to respect her wishes if she wants to wait until you two are married. Do what is right for the both of you. (smile)
2007-01-25 00:23:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a subject very basic to your relationship and one that should be discussed openly if there are to be healthy feelings on both sides.
Just tell her that you know sex will one day be a part of your lives even if it isn't now. Tell her you want to know her feelings, her desires, her concerns.
It shouldn't be offensive when asked in the context of love and caring. If you have to beat around the bush or walk on eggshells you may have problems later. Just come out with it. Doesn't have to be "offensive". It's your love life, not an insult.
2007-01-25 00:23:00 · answer #3 · answered by Ande 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you're absolutely certain you'll marry her and not just dupe her into having sex, you can explain that to her, tell her how much you love her and how attracted you are by her, and explain that sex is just part of a healthy relationship and it won't harm her in any way... Making love is just another way to express the feelings you have for one another and it's a beautiful thing. Maybe it's a little corny, but it's all true.
2007-01-25 00:21:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her. It's important that you talk about these things. There should be nothing offensive about a frank and open discussion about sex.
2007-01-25 00:20:31 · answer #5 · answered by SA Writer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you two been dating? I know that my boyfriend and I discussed this after a few dates or so. We just went over our value system and what each of us were open to. And after people have been in a relationship, some things change. Good luck!
2007-01-25 00:20:34 · answer #6 · answered by pngstar06@sbcglobal.net 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Say like 'Hey, Just wondering by any chance if u wanna have sex, if not thats cool and everything, I can understand if u wanna wait, just wonderin' if there was a chance of that event taking place'
2007-01-25 00:20:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to talk about sex. It is responsible to talk about it. Know what she wants and what you want. Respect her if she really isn't ready. It is never good to manipulate or force another person into a sexual act.
2007-01-25 00:19:27 · answer #8 · answered by Monkey Lips 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring it up after watching a movie with her that had a sexual theme. Laugh about sex, joke about sex and let it naturally lead into a discussion.
2007-01-25 00:19:43 · answer #9 · answered by caffine_loady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't really ask someone to have sex; that just makes an awkward moment. Just start making out, make some advances, and see if she accepts or rejects them.
2007-01-25 00:22:44 · answer #10 · answered by Mr. Reality 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing to talk about it. Just show her how hard it is to hold, or i say she will experience that if you do the whole foreplay junk for hours. She might be begging you for sex at that point. You need to know how to love her during foreplay though. Some people dont kno WTF it is....unfortunately.
2007-01-25 00:22:15 · answer #11 · answered by BK thang 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋