I can't read him?

Question

I really get the feeling that he is in to me but. he is flirting and being playful with me. making me like him more.

but he also acts kinda like this to these other girls.

I have been his friend for the last 3 years and it bugs me when he talks and kids with other girls .

is this just how he is a big flirt.
and he has gotten more popular this last year at school and he is getting to know the school. But i was his freind before all of this.

He is a great friend and i would like to keep him but he keeps making me want him and he finds new ways to make me laugh. but he is a really funny person

some days are really great we talk about goofy stuff and people. he looks me in the eyes and pokes me. I can read that like he likes me. but... I don't know he is really friendly.


Oh and if he is into me what could i do to let him know its ok to ask me out. or should I?( risk the friend ship?)

Answer 1

he sounds like a big flirt to me esp. you mentioned he flirts with other girls. if i were you, i would just be a good friend. he may be interested in you but you may not like him as a big flirt going out with him though. .....think about it...

Answer 2

It sounds like you have 2 problems: 1. Should you risk the friendship to get something you want (a deeper relationship with him) and 2. There is a little jealousy that you want him to change his personality to stop flirting with other girls and focus on you.

Hmm, first of all, I would recommend the book "The Rules" because it definitely has ways to escalate the guys attraction in you rather than vice versa. You would have to be careful not to show too much interest because guys like the challenge of a hunt (thousands of years of evolution), so it would be subtle methods to use to get him to "think" he is pursuing you. I can recall girls I liked because they were a challenge, but then they got to know me a little better and started pursuing me (the thrill and level of attraction was lost). Plus this method would keep you at the friendship level with him escalating it (if he takes the bait).
The second problem sounds like a classic woman fixing the man predicament. However, what you are describing is a personality trait that made you attracted to him in the first place. Don't try to change him (you won't like the results, and he won't like the control). It's a competition girl, strut your stuff. Highlight your best qualities and he'll notice (every girl has them). Good Luck!

Answer 3

Well first of all, I would advise you to not turn into a "fan" of his. He sounds like a guy that loves attention from the girls. Also, if you have been friends for this long and he hasn't asked you out by now, then I would assume he enjoys your friendship only. If you go goo-goo around him all the time, you are placing him on a pedastal and catering to his ego.
You want his attention, then stop giving him so much of yours. Try to be seen "out" with someone else in his presence and see what he does.

Answer 4

If you want to change your status to "more than friends" then yes, when you are not in school, tell him face to face that you would like to try a kiss or something more intimate. It may seem silly to call your hanging out "dates", so I don't suggest that but do tell him you are interested. He's definitely into you, but you won't know how much unless you both talk about it in private! And give it a shot!

Answer 5

I have the same problem. Me and my crush have really good conversations sometimes and one day he asked me who I liked and I said I don't really know but he really wanted to know but I never actually said who (because its him!) I think he knows I like him & he just wanted me to say it. So I asked him who he liked but he said I don't really like anyone right now but I find that hard to believe because he's such a huge flirt. He flirts with other girls right in front of me just to make me jealous. But if you like him that much then just wait around until its your turn to have him. If he really likes u and cares about u then he'll realize that you don't wanna share him with anyone else & maybe he'll get the hint.

Answer 6

all you can do is ask him about what going on. if you want more'then you need be honest with him. that the only thing
you can do. if you being friends for 3 years, then the friendship
will survial. other wise you were not friends at all. he may feel
the same way that you do.

Answer 7

while talking to him simple ask him if he likes you

Answer 8

why not you just ask him ,jokingly, whether he likes you or not?