After meeting your soulmate, would you look back and regret having past relationships with "lesser" persons

Question

In everyday life it is natural to meet some very attractive people of the opposite sex & at times decide to have a fling or a long relationship with those attractive persons.

But suppose one day out of sheer luck you happen to meet a person who is sooo beautiful, so sweet-natured, so caring and so funny - this is the perfect person you have waited all your life for. And the best thing you could have imagined for, happens - you both agree to having a lifelong relationship with each other, wow! This special person is your soulmate (and trust me, there is only one, or if not extremely few, person(s) who would qualify for that status)

But my question for you is that when you have found your soulmate, then would you look back and think "Oh jeez, I should have waited this long instead of simply screwing other women just for fun at the time."?

And in the most unfortunate situation that you were to break up with your soulmate, would you think that your life is over?

Answer 1

When I met my soulmate I had no regrets about my past. You don't know if you are ever going to meet such a person. That is one of the exciting things about it when you finally do. But you can't sit around all the time and do nothing and not have fun and not enjoy yourself. My soulmate knew about my past and it didn't bother her, because she knew I was hers and only hers. I never had any problems settling down and being faithful. And yes when I became disabled, after many years she left, it's not uncommon by the way. I thought my life was over for a while, but life goes on. You pick up the pieces and get on with life. You have no other choice. There is life and happiness after your soulmate leaves. Yes there is a hole that she left but that is slowly being covered over by scar tissue. As I said life goes on, I have no other choice but to face each day.

Answer 2

There are some of us left that would rather wait for the life mate (though I've concluded it very rare). I could definitely say that I'm glad that for the ones that didn't work out, I didn't go all the way with them for a moments pleasure and I have no regrets to look back on.

Every experience leaves a memory that will re-emerge with similar stimula. Personally, when with a soul mate, I think its far better to have the most intimate experiences and memories shared with them, then to have similar memories of someone else coming to mind at that moment.

Also, I don't think its fair to use someone else when in your own heart, you feel they are not the one who completes you and you're looking for someone else.

The first time you are infatuated, you are likely to be too clingy and needy, and sometimes foolishly give your whole heart. As each experience with a new person happens, one often learns to be more logical and critical... but is there not a point that can be reached when you no longer are capable of being fully bonded and infatuated with the person you should be in love with because you're more detached and your heart has grown cold?

Being able to fully give your heart, unconditional love, and ability to completely bond with you soul mate and be able to share the most intimate part of yourself with them only is a priceless treasure. Unfortunately, its is becoming rare to find that in todays society.

Soul mates can often look past the other's history and realize that what matters most is who they are today and who they'll be in the future. Gold is gold... just because it gets dirty and beaten up, it still has its value. But when you look at yourself, wouldn't you rather be the highly polished treasure without all the dirt and marks?

And as for the last question... no, not think that life is over, but rather would have a hole or emptiness that perhaps would never feel as full with another person.

Answer 3

What good will regret bring you? The past is behind you, my friend. So long as you don't have an STD to show for it, you shouldn't dwell on things that make your soul mate worry about you. The fact that you are looking back on it just goes to show that you hold this person in such high regard.

If we were to separate for whatever reason, I would find her at all costs. If it was me that drove her away, I would push my pride aside and get her back. I'd slay any dragon, run any marathon, and break through any barriers to get to her.

Like you said, mate, you've only one soul mate. There are ones that will come close, but there's only one that's 100%. You should consider yourself one of the lucky ones, most people these days will settle for 50% (or because they got pregnant).

To quote Owen Wilson from Wedding Crashers;
"For longer than I care to remember, my business has been crashing weddings. I crashed weddings to meet girls. Business was good. I met a *lot* of girls. It was childish and it was juvenile... and pathetic. But you know what? It also led me to you, so it's hard for me to completely regret it."

Good luck, and may whatever deity you worship be with you.

Answer 4

Although you have done things in the past that you feel are bad decisions are make you lesser of a person when compared to your soul-mate, don't look at that situation as a totally bad thing. Everything happens for a reason. Your past is a part of you, and if she is truly your soulmate, she would be willing to accept your past because no one is perfect.
Well if you were to break up with your soul-mate, I think of it as losing a part of yourself. I feel that God put someone on this earth that fits perfectly with you. When that bond is broken, parts of you break away with that person, and although you might "move on in a way" you will never look at love in the same way again.

Answer 5

Yes, I might look back and regret having "fun" with other people instead of saving myself, but that is what you wanted in the moment, so you cannot go back and change it. And I would absolutely think my life was over (atleast for a while) if I broke up with my soulmate. What would you break up if they are your soulmate?...that sounds stupid to me! So you have a past, everyone does!

Answer 6

I don't think I'd think that, no, because I'd have learnt something from those relationships along the way and that would have helped make me become the person I am in my soulmate relationship. And in the most unfortunate situation that I were to break up witih my soulmate, I would be devestated. Life over? No, I don't think so.

Answer 7

First of all, I would never break up with my true God given soul mate.
Secondly, just sleeping around is so very worthless.
Thirdly, that soulmate usually just came to you when he/she wasn't even supposed to be there, and then just like magic you were in their presence for many chance encounters. Oh, that is the person you live with and love forever and ever. If you miss it because of fear, shame on you because most of the time the other person feels the same thing you do..only thing is..you aren't thinking that they do..The worst thing you can ever do is to just ignore it. .You snooze, you lose dear!

Answer 8

With out the past, we wouldn't be who we are, we would've never learnt to do the things that we know... So If I have waited for that day, would you be the same person? I don't think you would be...

It's the past that makes us who we are today... so thank the past and be grateful you had one, it is what makes us appreciate life, appreciate the people we meet, because we have gone through so much... we learn so much... and when the next person comes, we know what it is we are looking for.

Never regret and wish you've never done the things you've done, otherwise you wouldn't be who you are today. :)

Answer 9

i dont think that your past before your soulmate should matter. if your soul mate was the only person that you had been with you would prob still have the curiousity of sex with other people. so no i wouldnt feel any regret about past sexual experiances. if we broke up, it wouldnt be the end of the world. you might have to settle for whats second best.

Answer 10

Well first, i wouldn't look back at all the guys i have been out with, or in your case girls you have screwed. That's in the past, don't worry about. Nothing you can do now! And I would NEVER break-up with my soul mate. (if i new he was the one) But if i "accidentally" broke-up with him i would think my life is over. Then i would think of how to get him back.