i've been with this guy for over 15 months and he still hasn't said he loves me. i guess i'm old fashioned but i don't want to be the one who says it. everything is pretty great otherwise but i just feel like it should've been said by now. i don't really queston that he does. i just want to hear it form him. are we both too scared? are we both feeling the same about who says it? i know this question issubjective but it really is time. what are your opinions?
2007-01-24 15:50:47 · 9 answers · asked by suzy lee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Actions speak louder than words.....does he act like he loves you? If yes, the words will follow when the time is right.
It's not a contest..... if you feel it, you may as well say it.....what have you got to lose?
2007-01-24 15:59:51 · answer #1 · answered by jarad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that it is really time, then just say it first! Maybe he is scared or thinks that maybe he is afraid of the "L" word! There are a ton of reasons why he hasn't said it, but unless you ask him why then you won't know the true reason why. Some people don't like to throw around the words I Love You as if they don't mean anything, if this is his reason for not saying it, then respect that because he has respect enough for you not to say it and not be 100 percent sure that he does love you. Good luck and I hope you get what you're looking for!
2007-01-24 15:58:41 · answer #2 · answered by lil' miss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, in fifteen months he hasn't said it -- but neither have you. Do you love him? THEN SAY IT. Gz. This isn't a game, you know, and there aren't any rules. If you love the guy, tell him, and if you don't, don't. He might turn out not to love you, but gee, wouldn't you like to know so that you can move on? Or he might be having the exact same thoughts as you, and he also doesn't want to be the first to say it.
If you trust him, and you love him, tell him -- and if you don't trust him, you shouldn't love him, and you should end it.
2007-01-24 16:04:03 · answer #3 · answered by daveowenville 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly i'm 21 now yet at 15 i became on your shoes and that i desperate 2 months wasn't a protracted adequate dedication for me to make that determination even although we enjoyed one yet another and the two cared even although i think of it became Christmas for us he had to. It did no longer mean it became the appropriate time yet. i desperate we'd wait a minimum of 6 months and that i nevertheless think of it became a solid determination. It gave us greater time to fall in love and our relationship to truly improve made it greater particular. I even have saved that rule ever considering the fact that 6 months so i comprehend whether its love or lust because of the fact lust sizzles interior of 6 months a large style of the time. continuously at 15 is a huge style of artwork yet that 1st guy and that i made it 3yrs and because I waited i do no longer remorseful approximately it and we don't hate one yet another. I say use the 6 month rule! solid success
2016-11-01 05:31:05 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am actually in the same boat. I have been with my boyfriend 16 months and he has a difficult time saying he loves me. I have told him that i love him, and he has said it back to me in a muffled response. He has never been able to tell me that he loves me without being prompted. I have asked him why it is so difficult for him and he explained that he does not believe that one should have to say the words but rather show their feelings through actions. I admit, he does a lot for me to show me he cares. He listens to when I am going through tough times, he cooks, gives massages and calls me day and night. We also stay intimate. The fact is, women like to hear it also. I have told him that he should be able to say it if he feels that way about me. He feels that it means less in words. We have two different backgrounds though. Perhaps it comes from different upbringings. I am not sure. I just tell myself to trust in him and love him and accept the fact that he has a different way of showing his love for me. I hope sharing my experience helps.
2007-01-26 15:04:21 · answer #5 · answered by olympia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's the type of guy that when he says i love you. he acctually has thought about it and really does love you... im not saying that he doesnt love you but he probably hasent really thought about it. those type of guys when they say i hate you they MEAN i hate you... i know alot of girls who say i love you or i hate you all the time and switch back and forth all the time and dont really mean any of it... some guys... the good guys they acctually know they love you when they say they love you... the bad guys will just say it to get you in bed... what you got is a good guy... stick with him and dont get upset because he hasent thrown around the word Love all the time
2007-01-24 15:59:15 · answer #6 · answered by Dont get Infected 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's like you said, you guys are both too nervous to say it and want the other one to say it first.
2007-01-24 15:54:08 · answer #7 · answered by Ariella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm.... well yea he should have said he loves you by now... but you could get into one of those "do you love me?" kind of conversations, and stop the conversation if its leading to break up or something
2007-01-24 15:56:11 · answer #8 · answered by george 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont force him cos he probably wont mean it anyway.
matter of fact probably over 90% dont really mean it or there wouldnt be so much chopping and changing of b/f and g/f.
2007-01-24 15:57:56 · answer #9 · answered by dirtyoldman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋