My daughter is almost 4. Her father wasn't in her life for the first year. I was living with my mom and grandma for about a year total. My daughter had been living there since birth. He is going to try to get custody because she wasn't living with me. Do you think he will get custody?
2007-01-24 15:40:48 · 6 answers · asked by shorty832004 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My daughter is almost 4. I was young when I had her and her father wasn't there for the first year of her life. He signed over his rights but I never got the paper notarized. My daughter lived with my mother and grandmother for most of her life. She is now living with me and my fiance and her sister. My question is now he wants to get custody of her bc he is married and his wife can't have children. Do you think he can get custody?
2007-01-24 16:05:02 · update #1
He might. This is tough. For a child of her age, the court should take into account the importance of continuity. However, if you are living with your daughter RIGHT NOW (regardless of whether it's with your mother and grandmother, but I'm assuming it is), his claim would not be superior to yours.
Consult a lawyer, or call your local bar association if you can't afford one, they sometimes do pro bono work for people in reduced circumstances. Instinctively, however, I would say living with your daughter, wherever she is, is the best way to protect her from having to live with him (and making dramatic change, not a good thing at her age if she's happy and well adjusted now).
It's been 18 years since I could call my life my own, I have 5 more to do. Raising kids as a single parent when the other parent's judgment is questionable severely limits your personal choices in life, but we do what we have to do to protect the kids as best we can.
2007-01-24 15:52:06 · answer #1 · answered by Singinganddancing 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the grandmother has been waiting to declare new child help, she then does have courtroom custody of the youngster. there's a time shrink that if the two determine has no longer had touch with the youngster for a volume of time, this is seen as non activity and custody granted with out them recent, so he may even observe that it have been via the courts. If the father needs custody or a minimum of visitation rights, he needs to hire a family contributors regulation legal expert and function them report a quick for that purpose. and don't tell me he can not arise with the money for one, how lots is he keen to offer as much as be waiting to realize this?
2016-11-01 05:30:28 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, because you didn't get the papers notorized. It will probably be a messy ordeal too. you say that he wasn't in her life for her first year, right? But then you said that she was living with your mother and grandmother, you didn't say whether or not you were there with her the whole time that she was with them, if you weren't, he could use that against you. Parents have equal rights over their biological children. If you don't want this big mess, you all can try and compromise a joint custody and work it out that way. good luck.
2007-01-24 16:48:38 · answer #3 · answered by Confused & Young 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait a minute....You were living with your mom and grandma for a year but your daughter was there for four years? Where were you? Without more info I can't help you. If he can prove you an unfit mother he just might be able to. Why wasn't he in her life for the first year and has he been for the past three years? Need a lot more info about the two of you.
2007-01-24 15:52:36 · answer #4 · answered by Santa's Elf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think it depends on your background if you can prove you had a good reason for leaving your child with her grandparents. Don't worry just wait till he announces the court date. This will let you know when to take action. When he does or if he does make sure you have your stuff ready to support your reasons for not having your child full time. I dought that he will try to get her knowing how hard it is to take a child form there mother and how expensive it will be for a attorney. My brother tryed to get custody of his children, the cheapest attorney he could find started out at 20,000. dollars here in the states. Good luck and I will pray for you I'm a mother of three I can imagine what you must be feeling. your friend
2007-01-24 16:04:36 · answer #5 · answered by super_softwaresweetie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all why isnt the child living with you? You are her mother and you should have taken responsibility for her. He can get custody of her if he has a job and is a decent guy. It is still is his child and maybe he has grown up now and wants to do the right thing. This situation is very sad for the child who is now getting treated like a yo-you when she should have been with you in the first place. I think he will and should get custody...sorry.
2007-01-24 15:57:25 · answer #6 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋