I'm pregnant and my b/f dosnt want it?

Question

me and my b/f tryed to get pregnant for a while and now luc...well now i am i tried hinting to him but he said that now he wants to focus on school and everything and wants to wait what do i do how do i tell him now i dont think he want one anymore and if he leave i cant do this on my own help

Answer 1

No, abortion is not the answer. The baby is his responsibility too. Let him know. Ask God to change your boyfriends mind so he will want the baby. Get married and do things right. You cant go wrong doing things Gods way. Do the next right thing for the baby's sake. :)

Answer 2

If you knew he didn't want one now why didn't one of you use birth control. There is no reason for someone to get pregnant these days with all of the birth control choices. One of the other answers says "if you were mature enough to get pregnant" - that is a very strange thing to say. I don't think you were mature at all. I think it is stupid to get pregnant without a committed relationship and this one is far from that. I don't know how old you are but why would you want to try to get pregnant before he is out of school and settled down. Are you still in school? Do you have a job? How do you plan to support the child? How could he possibly? Have you heard of education, job, saving money, getting married, having a baby (in that order). You are going to have to tell him and then make a decision if he does not want the baby. You will have to carry to term and raise it yourself, give it up for adoption or have an abortion now. That is a very personal decision that only you can make.

Answer 3

He has a right to know if he is the father, whether or not he wants to have a child. It sounds like maybe he is discouraged that when y'all were actively trying, that it didn't immediately happen. Maybe he is shifting his focus towards school because he was disappointed that the pregnancy didn't happen when y'all were trying. It could also be that he has changed his mind and would prefer to wait. Either way, he needs to know. If he ends up leaving you because of the child, then maybe him being a father wouldn't have been such a good idea. Also, don't even think that you are alone if he ends up leaving you. There are plenty of options and help out there for you. Pregnancy centers have trained professionals that can assist you with the pregnancy, or other options if you decide that you do not want to raise the child as a single parent.

Answer 4

You can't play games with your boy friend's emotions, meaning this is not a game when you have give the right time to say or do anything. Their is living child inside of you. You been bless by God to give a new life in this world.

He already knows that you bare a child because according to your statement that you had hinted to him and he hinted his undesired to be the father of your child. Therefore, you must immediately inform him of your pregnancy, even if you have to show the results from the doctor.

If he is a good boy friend, he will joyous and celebrate. If he show any signs of disownment of the child, not only it would unfortunately for him, but very costly than normally if he refuse to take the responsibility of his child.

However,,,right now relax for the sake of you and your baby. Your child right now is relying on you to be peaceful as much as any concern and responsible prospective parent. When you child is born he or she would be more content especially at night when they are known to be fussy.

If the father don't want the child, keep a certain true aspect in mind, your child have You. It is best to get two love from the parents, but if that's not possible the one love from a parent will make a difference as well.

Don't stress,,,,no matter what happens! You have a child coming and be very thankful. Some woman at your age are unable to be birth mother! As long as you want the child that's the most importance in your world. If you are need of support, go to your parents, the father's parents, your trusted friends, the programs that your city offers, and mostly ask of God for his assistance.

As your child grows older, he or she will have your support and prayfully the father's as well. THE MOST IMPORTANT FACTOR
IS THAT YOU'RE HAVING A BABY.
...and you have my devoted prayers..God Bless.

Answer 5

Turn to your religion, family, and friends
You can either keep the child or put him or her up for adoption
If your boyfriend leaves you, painful as it may be, just at least know in your heart that he isn't worth it
If he does stay, then you two should be able to get through anything together...

Before you tell him, you should bring up the subject of marriage or children in the future and see what he says,
That way you can at least have an idea of what reaction to expect...

Try not to stress too much, your friends and family are there to help you...

Answer 6

You have to tell him. Then see where it goes from there. I think you are both crazy to try to get pregnant before you have finished school. Ultimately it will be up to you to look after the child. Be prepared he may stay for now and leave in one year or five years, whatever. Be prepared to do it alone, it happens to many many women.

Answer 7

There are too many people out there who want kids and can't have one. Find a resource center that helps people lcoate adoptive parents, and give this a shot. The only other alternative is one you will have to shoulder for the rest of your life. He won't help you raise the child, and he obviously won't help you shoulder the guilt of deciding for an abortion. Give the child a chance with a loving couple. I promise it won't be a msitake.

Answer 8

Hey, I just wanna let you know you have to let him know. Don't wait the last minute, talk to him. Maybe you think he doesn't it no more, but he might just still want it. You will never know what he really thinks, if you don't talk to him. And personally I don't see any reason for him to leave you after you tell him. If he wanted one before, it should still be the same. If he really loves you, as it sound he wanted a baby with you, he would'nt. Just don't be scared to talk to the one you love.

Take care, Good Luck

Answer 9

Ok no offense duhh....This is why you don't get pregnant before you are married. But in any case it is too late so I guess you have to decide what you are going to do about it. First thing you need to tell him and discuss your options. Consider adoption take it from a former fertitliy patient, when we hear stories like this it really makes us mad about what we had to go through to get our babies. Good luck do the right thing for the baby.

Answer 10

perhaps she is pregnant why dont you to bypass in to the docs workplace and get a pregnacy blood try? and stress isnt going to help the placement any so I propose which you're looking after her, and probably it must be that she is gaining weight and thanks to the stress and if she isn't pregnant and additionally you to are nonetheless TTC then attempt to not stress over it reason stressing over pregnacy does not enable one to grow to be pregnant my husband and that i've got been attempting for 3-4 months already so sturdy good fortune to the the two one human beings!!!!!!!!!!!a million

Answer 11

well....if you tryed to have one once and he was ok with it then..you should tell him...you never know he might be estatic if he doesn't want it but unless you want an abortion(which I personally don't think you should) what are you going to do just not tell him.....if you tryed to have a child once that means he does want some somtime.......he is just thinking about his future at the moment...so tell him now...the longer you wait the worse you will feel and then you will put it off longer....and you have to tell him somtime....and don't get an abortion without asking him.....he has a say in the matter to