i met this guy in school and he invited me to his friends party so i went that friday night....we werent really dancing because we were outside the party ....after that he used to call me evryday and talk to me and look for me during school used to come over an dgive rides. i made friends with hid friends. and then i started to like him alot! he told he had a girlfriend but she didnt go to the same school . he used to flirt with me alot and now he doesnt talk to me that much i really dont know what happened and its really sad to love someone that you cannot have....1day i told that we wed meet up at the mall he said it was cool the next hour he texted me saying he couldnt cuz he was at his ladies house an dhe said "leave us alone *****"..dont get it ..so y the **** he made fallinlove with him i dont get guys! they changed fast
2007-01-24 15:28:58 · 25 answers · asked by katherineesquivel_nasa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
find another who wants your love!
2007-01-24 15:34:52 · answer #1 · answered by none 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie you are young . He is just using you as a toy when she is not around . This is one of those lessons you learn from the school of hard knocks. Yes a guy and a girl can love 2 people at the same time . I have done it but shame on the person who plays the 2 others. Hearts are nothing to mess with. You can love them both but there is always the one you love more than the other.Don't let him play you and more than that don't let yourself be played.
2016-05-24 06:27:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, eventually that guy is going to do something that gets either himself or someone that he does actually care about hurt.
then he will wise up. maybe he did with you. but you are still very very young. experiencing these things for the first time. you learn your manners and etiquette to avoid such confusion in the future.
it wouldnt hurt to let him know how you feel. but also be careful because hes just a dumb kid too. If you are discipllined in your stance and telling him off then he will learn a valuable lesson. Trust me, a guy his age needs it and the sooner the better.
That is the most love you can give him. Not to indulge. And grow a bit. It doesnt have to be all negative.
A guy that age would fall in love with a knot hole in a fence.
2007-01-24 15:38:03 · answer #3 · answered by jorluke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he had told you he had a girlfriend right off the bat then you only have yourself to blame. NEVER go after someone who is involved...Karma has a way of comin back and biting you in the butt. Now...if he didn't tll you at first then I wouldn't want to be with a guy like that. That's called wanting the best of both worlds...and in the real world there is no such thing. You need to move on. He's not worth it.
2007-01-24 15:35:51 · answer #4 · answered by littleredd1003 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, you were not in love with this guy. Second, he isn't in love with this other girl. Third, there is so much more to life than who you think you love, and he loves, and they love! Get a grip on your irrational emotions and do some growing up. I'm not talking until you're a senior either. Give yourself time to grow up and enjoy being a young woman. Save some money and go on a roadtrip with a friend,(male or female), you will learn things about yourself that you never knew you had. Go to college, or get a job. Educate yourself, that doesn't mean book smart, I mean knowing how to take care of yourself emotionally,socially, financially. Good luck in your journey...................
2007-01-24 15:42:25 · answer #5 · answered by fisherwoman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In your case I can't say that he loves you if he texted you that kind of message! Just know if a guy really likes you he will try to in some way show you in these five ways!: 1. Love 2. Honor 3. Cherish 4. Trust 5. Strong Communication. Like in my five biblical principles for finding your soul mate:
1. Does he love you for who you are (inside first than out)? The Bible says: *“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-6
2. Does he honor you? Will he do things just to make you happy? Will he try some of the things you are interested in or maybe shares some of the same interests and hobbies? The Bible says:
* “Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves.” Romans 12:10
3. Cherishes your body, mind and soul? Doesn't go to far on these things until your ready? The Bible says: * “Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet Spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.” 1 Peter 3:3-4
4. You trust him to the fullest? He is your best friend and you are his? The Bible Says: * “ Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes always perseveres.” 1 Corinthians 13:7
5. You communicate well? He understands you like he could be your twin? The Bible says: * “ Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful, that it may benefit those who listen.” Ephesians 4:29
To Sum it up: Stick to 1. Love 2. Honor 3. Cherish 4. Trust 5. Communication and I promise if your relationship is based on these things you will know what its like to find true love! And Yes! I have used my principles myself and I am convinced I have found my soul mate! But to find her I also used these same principles to weed out my soul mate from the relationships that just didn't work. In addition, letting God and Jesus Christ lead your heart, mind, body and soul also aid in the weeding process.God Bless!
2007-01-24 15:37:22 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys doesn;t like to loose. that's y he's assuming u as his spare tyre, just in case he broke up with his current gf.
once he broke up, he can have u already.this means he never be single for even one day. they way he treated u now is because he had made commitment to his current gf. believe i was once like that guy u were mentioning about. i made the girl fall for me and then i realize that if this goes on, she and my gf will be hurt. and i cant stand seeing my gf being hurt coz of me. so i call off the relationship. she felt how u feeling right now. but after few months later, she's cheerful again!
2007-01-24 15:48:19 · answer #7 · answered by ah_kin19 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it is possible for a guy to fall in love with another girl, but I don't believe in love in high school. I thought that I was in love with this guy, but I later learned that no matter how you feel in high school it probally isn't love and you are probally wasting your time. I don't mean to discourage you, but it is fact. And just like you I don't get guys!!!!:(
2007-01-24 15:35:39 · answer #8 · answered by Ash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He said that to you?? OH girl, I would punch the snot out of him!!
How awful, I know it hurts, but you can't love or even like a guy who said that to you. You deserve better and he shouldn't have led you on.
Good luck girl! : )
2007-01-24 15:33:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is possible.
But why do you want to be with a guy that has a girlfriend aren't you asking for trouble?
2007-01-24 15:32:55 · answer #10 · answered by Troy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes we do.
but maybe he wasn't trying to make you fall in love with him. maybe he was just being friendly.
i constantly flirt and talk to all of the girls i know. not because i like them but because they're my friends and we have that bond. i guess
2007-01-24 15:33:53 · answer #11 · answered by broken_monkey08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋