Why is it that most women can get a man, but don't know how to KEEP one?

Question

It's like they want the man to continue doing all the things he did to sweep them off their feet. (occasionally get flowers, rub her feet, go out to get her favorite midnight snack, EVEN watch lifetime with her,etc.) But then they stop keeping up their appearance (wears the rattiest pajamas, non-matching under garment EVERYDAY; where before she wore sexy pajamas and lingerie.), won't cook but once a week ( where before it's like 3 -4 times a week) , Stops looking out for her man ( Example: going to the grocery store, but won't offer to pick you up anything at the grocery store), her nurturing ability (affection) is cut way down along with the "Special Attention"!

Women say they want a great man, but don't know how to treat a great man because they are used to junk-minded men!

Ladies ladies... I continue to do what I started out doing...and to the one that asked about pregnancy...I think that is when a woman is most beautiful!!!.... I would buy her nice sexy pajamas and she mix-match her her nighties....just seems she doesn't cherish what I do for her.

Answer 1

My observations about women who catch a man. Feel the woman has her man and doesn't need to do the things she did to catch a man. Feels that catching a fish once caught no need to do the things that caught the man in the first place.

Answer 2

I think you are looking at this in the wrong way. In the beginning of a new relationship it is natural for a man or woman to "impress" the person they care for and/or love. Later down the road, partners generally become very comfortable with each other almost to a fault sometimes. Most of us are guilty of those "rattiest pajamas" syndrome. I think the fact that she does the shopping that she is probably thinking she is getting you what is needed. Perhaps you need to let her know of specific things you would like from the market, or hey, go with her every now and then. The dating, dining and mind playing is tiring when it is new.
I do agree that most of us must remember to perform and address the "special" things we need from out partners from time to time.

Answer 3

Did you for one minute think that the guy did all this stuff to get the girl, are you sure the girl didn't do the same thing? Think about it! No man should ever think that his woman has to been down to his every need, what has he done for her lately? Does this great man know how to treat a great woman? Really? If you are the guy asking then you might just want to ask yourself that question! Another thought is that people just get comfortable around each other and think the other doesn't care what they wear, thinks that he'll do the cooking, or he'll just say get me this at the store! Don't put all the blame on the woman! So, now ask yourself how do men get a great woman and can't keep her!

Answer 4

I hate to say this, but it's probably man's fault in a sense. Women have been taught that a man will only respond to a woman who is sexy, beautiful etc. Unfortunately, when she gets comfortable with you she hopes that you actually like her for who she is not how she looks. Don't get me wrong...I don't think anyone, male or female should completely let themselves go. It's not a sign of good self esteem. However, just being yourself often doesn't work because guys overlook the plain gal in favor of the one with the sexiest look etc. It sounds to me as if you are just a tad shallow in your expectations. Does it really matter if her underware matches? Does that somehow make her a better or more loving person. Same thing goes for guys. Just be yourself. If she can't love you for who you are, then she isn't good enough for you.

Answer 5

Are you really asking a question here? Sounds like your mind is already made up.

For one thing, if you think occasionally getting a girl flowers is some kind of outrageous chore -- you need to get yourself a new woman. If you were into your girl, you would want to do those types of things just to see her smile, not because you hope to get something out of it.

And if you think "non-matching" underwear and old pjs are a big deal --- what are you going to do when your girlfriend or wife gets pregnant and huge or gets cancer and loses her hair from the treatments? That sounds kind of shallow to me.

I think you'll find that when you find someone who you are really in love with, who really loves you, you will each do special things for each other, for unselfish reasons.

And, seriously, if you want your lady to pick you up something from the store -- ask her! If you want to see her in something sexy, buy her some new panties. Tell her what you want, boy! And bring her flowers for when you do it. I am sure she will appreciate honesty just as much as the gesture.

Answer 6

I definitely agree. One thing in there is lack of communication in what you both expect for the relationship. Its common to get relaxed in a relationship, but you both must work to at least do some of the things to put an extra smile on your partners face. Dont blame it on the women, both sexes do it. Maybe if you rubbed her feet you would be on her mind all the way to the grocery store..... (hmmm....something to think about on your part, huh?)

Answer 7

What does the man do to keep her wanting to do those things all the time? Why is it that when a man gets a good woman he treats her like dirt and cheats and is abusive?
We could go on like this for days and you will never be happy with the responses. That's life!

Answer 8

Jackie f... agreed with you!

Sometimes both people of any relationship needs to put the same amount of effort in!

Answer 9

Maybe you have a hard time attracting and getting with good women. You sound kind of self centered. This would make it likely that the women you partner with would be similarly self centered. Like attracts like! :-)

Answer 10

they get too content, which then leads them to being boring. not all women are this way but alot of them seem to be.