My married man has affiars b4 me and everything... my married man has problems....
2007-01-24 15:03:28 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
i am in the middle of their marriage and my married man tells me things i can not tell his wife and his wife tells me things i can not tell no body else.... my married man plans on leaving his wife...
2007-01-24 15:04:49 · update #1
Just remember...he cheated on her to be with you...so he will cheat on you to be with someone else. I'm sure she is in denial. She has given him 22 years of her life...how would you feel ?
2007-01-24 15:08:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
For the being in denial part...simple psychology.
Many people can't emotionally handle this sort of information. "Love" can do some funny things. Or, her self image may simply not allow her to believe it.
As for the rest of it...Take half of what he tells you, and toss it out completely. Of the remaining half, take it with a grain of salt. Do some research, almsot every married man cheating on his wife uses the old stand-bys to make himself sound sympathetic to the woman he's dallying with... "She doesn't understand me" is the most common.
Since you're "involved" with the wife as well, things are becoming tricky. I would advise you distance yourself from both and seek some professional assistance to heal the emotional scars that will develop over this.
Incidentally, if he has a history as a cheater, he can't be trusted, and you'd be a fool to trust him at all. If you're his "first," he may not do it again, but if he's had several gullible women, he WILL do it again. Oh...he's probably already bedding your replacement.
2007-01-24 15:40:52 · answer #2 · answered by jcurrieii 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your first name Tammy? You should have given this some thought before you started an affair with a married man. You put yourself in the middle of their marriage...your married man isn't the only one with problems? If he's been with her for 22 yrs and you're not the first person he cheated with...the man certainly has problems...but me thinks yo do too. Get a grip! He doesn't belong to you...step away from the married man.
2007-01-25 11:27:36 · answer #3 · answered by Suzan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he says "he plans on leaving his wife" it means he DOESN'T plan on it. Guys like that are only having affairs for sexual pleasure and the pleasure of the fact that he is being a "player". Women should stick together and I think the wife should leave him and you shouldn't have anything to do with him either. He's not "your married man", your his "sex buddy". He may tell you he loves you but if he had affairs before you he probably told all of them the same thing. If you don't want to get heartbroken, leave him now. If not your just as bad as him, your having an affair with a married man who have had other affairs and that is very distasteful.
2007-01-24 15:08:53 · answer #4 · answered by beth3988 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This has no longer some thing to do with this guy. This has each and everything to do with you! Did your mom no longer inform you to no longer have sex in the previous marriage? Gee - why is that? because once you do extremely stupid crap like you do, then you genuinely only tutor to the guy that you have not got any morals, no ethics, no no longer some thing except a perfect SELFISHNESS to get only what you go with out of him! you probably did precisely what this guy did to you and also you attempt to push the blame onto him on your human being lack of understanding and stupidity? ok - he's trash. yet he already knew that about himself. You did not demonstrate some thing new right here. What you probably did demonstrate is that you're a skank and ought to take a guy to mattress for what? there became no promise, no vow, no no longer some thing of a few thing to base any form of relationship on. you only had to have sex with this guy. What a miracle! you purchased precisely what you needed out of that. And now you're pissed? Why are you pissed? because you could't settle for the actual incontrovertible actuality that you're this incompetent over your human being personality progression? For you observe, in case you should withold sex until eventually marriage, you'll have discovered out the actuality. yet you do not care to verify the actuality because you stay your life as a lie. boost UP !
2016-10-16 01:54:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he having an affair now with you? If so, break it off. He'll do the same thing to you.
She may be in denial, or she may be really teed off. Nobody can predict the reaction to that kind of situation.
If indeed as it sounds, you are pretending to be her friend while sleeping with her husband, you need to remove yourself from the situation, because you are only causing harm.
If the question is just worded badly, and you are a mutual friend of these two who put you in the middle, refuse to speak to either of them about their relationship until they speak to each other. It's not your job to be a marriage counselor for your friends.
2007-01-24 15:10:00 · answer #6 · answered by Emmy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He does not! Get it in your head, by your spelling I can tell you are naive. even if he maries you (which he is not) he is going to cheat on you and do the same thing he is doing to his wife along with you.
2007-01-24 15:08:16 · answer #7 · answered by Poseidon 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Honey skip that brother from another mother and get yourself a real man.
2007-01-24 16:35:08 · answer #8 · answered by Serinity4u2find 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry , BUT go find yourself a man without baggage .( not that his wife is baggage ) ...
AND if you REALLY believe he;s gunna leave her for you ... after all the others affairs and after 22 years .. THEN I HAVE A BRIDGE TO SELL YOU.
2007-01-24 16:56:38 · answer #9 · answered by ll_jenny_ll here AND I'M BAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't bet on it honey. He's just using you, otherwise he wouldn't be married. And he's not your married man, he's his wife's married man.
2007-01-24 15:13:39 · answer #10 · answered by GoodGuy53 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋