I and my GF are no longer in good terms but we both are committed to somebody else now. My problem arises when I started to have hard times seeing my son because my GF's new BF does not want my presence inside their house. What should I do? Anyone?!!!
2007-01-24 14:48:02 · 16 answers · asked by Bully Charmer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ask her for joint custody. You don't have to be in her house. You can ask her to bring him to you or go pick him up yourself without going inside. If she disagrees then get a lawyer involved.
2007-01-24 14:53:23 · answer #1 · answered by Inamra 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get it legal!!!! Speak to a lawyer!!! You have rights!! As long as you don't have anything negative against you. Listen to what your saying. "You can't see your child because you gf's bf doesn't wany you in the house?" That almost says that he has more right than you. If you're not paying child support then it may be hard because if you try and get something legal about it then you'll have to pay. If you have nothing going against you then there shouldn't be a problem. If this man is interfering with the realationship of your child that should be brought up. Bring up everything, even if it leaves you and your ex on bad terms. if you want to be a great father and not miss anything or not someones else fathering your child that going to be childish like that then you need to do something. I don't know the whole story on why this guy doesn't want you there unless you did something or if it's jealousy, but why can't you pick the chld up and then bring him back. I just became a father about 10 months and his mom and I have had problems but we're still together. I would kill anyone that would stand in the way of me and my child whether it be another person, judge, or ex. I dont care. Child support is expensive but if that the only way then you've got to do it!
2007-01-24 14:58:44 · answer #2 · answered by Deadboy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am assuming you have some legal rights and obligations- such as child support- that give you a right to see your son. If you have given up these rights, then the question is already dead.
You don't want to cause trouble (I hope!), but your presence is tough on the new BF who is trying to get along with the boy.
I'd meet with my old GF somewhere neutral. Explain what you are looking for here- how much time, doing what, and why. Ask her for her side- does she agree, does she think you want too much, etc. Try to come to a mutual solution.
As for where- why stress everyone out by going there? Go to your place or other places. Give the boy some new sights and horizons to enjoy!
2007-01-24 14:59:16 · answer #3 · answered by Madkins007 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first thing I would do is take your ex out to coffee and see if it can be settled out of court, as the biological father you have rights to, if it can't be settled get a lawyer and see what he suggests but fight for your son, your ex's new boyfriend should not have a say in your parenting of your child and legally he can not stop you from going to see your son. Please fight for your son and make sure you follow every legal step there is don't take short cuts, you don't want any thing that could come back to haunt you later...
2007-01-25 10:41:31 · answer #4 · answered by Rusty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, your ex gfs bf shouldnt have a say in what you do with your son. Can you not take your son to your house or take him out for the day to spend father/son time? You should say to her your not being told to do with your son by her new bf, as anything to do with your son is between you and her, she may not like it, but she chose to have a baby with you!!! And your the father!!
2007-01-25 00:12:55 · answer #5 · answered by pip 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are his biological father, and there are no custody rights (like he's solely in her custody) then you have parental rights to see and spend time with him. It's not her boyfriends right to tell you when you can or cannot see your own son. If he doesn't want you in their house, talk to you ex about takin your son out for a "daddy and me" type day or take him to stay with you for the weekend or something. However, if she denys you any contact with him, you can take her to court over it. Best of Luck and I hope everything works out!
2007-01-24 14:56:31 · answer #6 · answered by *His Princess* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i could ask and with a bit of luck she would be in a position of agree that her son's well being is worth her chipping in. yet interior the tip if she says no then tell her what approximately final month once you asked for the money for daycare. different than which you need to checklist it to the courtroom if she is faulting in her end of the deal. yet as a techniques because of the fact the dental is going if she doesnt agree no longer lots you're able to do. except you opt to bypass to courtroom all over again.
2016-11-27 00:25:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have scheduled visitations- where you do not go in the house- unless he is too little to leave or is breastfed or has health problems- or you could make it legal w specific times and a court order-D
2007-01-24 14:53:50 · answer #8 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ring your former gf or even her new boyfriend and explain to them that you love your son and want to play a part in his life...not to mention you do have the right to see him considering that he is your son.
Good Luck. ash
2007-01-24 14:55:26 · answer #9 · answered by Bootsy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer. If it can be proven that you are the father, then you have a right to see your son, regardless of what her new boyfriend thinks.
2007-01-24 14:52:27 · answer #10 · answered by wnk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋