How can I overcome my shyness and talk to a particular guy? I dont want to look desperate or obvious but causal.
2007-01-24 14:33:12 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Carry a firearm. An mp5 with silencer will give you all the confidence in the world. Seriously though, start with a joke. That breaks the ice. Don't talk about the weather, unless he does. (makes you look really dull.) Ask him what kind of music he likes. That tells alot about a person. Act confident, even if you aren't. The best way to do that is to talk to homeless people in your free time. They are very interesting. If this guy you like is a nice person, he'll continue a conversation with you. Try to be honest with him... so he knows exactly what he may be getting in to. If he's a douche-bag and won't continue a conversation... then why do you like him? Sometimes you have bite the bullet. If all else fails, men appericate a woman with a big gun.... so go with the firearm idea.
2007-01-24 14:55:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you are in the wrong section. But i will try to help. Shyness stems from insecurity, low self esteem and low confidence. You have been socially conditioned to be shy, maybe because you were picked on, or did not have enough positive reinforcement as a child... unfortunately this has effected you as an adult (you are an adult arent you?) What i suggest is this. First. Realize most people are shy to some degree. Everyone has reservations when dealing with other people to some extent, everybody doubts themselves and has insecurities. You are not alone in the way you feel. Secondly, to deal with shyness you are going to have to be persistent, it is going to take time and practice. Start off with some very small things you could do. smile to a check out clerk and ask how there day is. build up from small to large. Analyze the way you think. Google "distorted thinking" and read up you may be surprised what you find, and eliminate any negative thinking patterns. Third. Be kind to yourself..and respect yourself. No one is going to do that for you. Do not put yourself down. Try not to dwell on things. What has happened has happened and look towards the future for improvement. ignore insults. Remember compliments. If you cant talk to people in real life, find a forum online for people who suffer from shyness. Read up on things you can do. You can escape if you really want to.
2016-03-14 23:33:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn what his interests are and ask him questions about his involvement in his interests. If he plays a sport, go to watch him in competition. Read about his hobbies and ask intelligent questions. FOCUS on him or the other person when talking; this is the best way to start getting over being shy. Being shy is feeling and focusing on you own discomfort. Your own discomfort goes away alot when you are genuinely interested in what the other person is saying and doing. When you get him talking, you don't have to!
2007-01-24 14:44:53 · answer #3 · answered by shari w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that I was incredibly shy, I could hardly meet anyone! Then I joined up with theater...
So coming from a person who used to be shy, get the support of friends, take a deep breath, and dive in!!!!
as we say in theater BREAK A LEG!!!!!
2007-01-24 14:41:30 · answer #4 · answered by sunny12rms 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard.. Im shy too but i am planning on going to a speech class neext year just to be comfortable with myself I am fine around people I dont know but with people that I like ai act like an idiot. My advice to you is to just do it and get it over with so the feeling is gone inside of you, if he or she doesnt like you for who you are than its not worth doing
2007-01-24 14:42:12 · answer #5 · answered by Mimi B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see how you can be considered desperate if you just talk to him about everyday stuff. Talk about things you have in common things like that. If you're going up to the guy and begging him to take you out that might be considered desperate.
2007-01-24 14:39:59 · answer #6 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its pretty hard, especially when you have feelings for him. Just try with 'hi' or smile or something first? It depends if you have mutual friends or have just seen him off the street I guess.
2007-01-24 14:38:44 · answer #7 · answered by Affirmation 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try practicing how you are going to talk to him and what you are going to say with a girlfriend first. Do roll playing and see how that goes...then, grit your teeth and go for it.
2007-01-24 14:39:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
alcohol
2007-01-24 14:39:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋