I've been with my first boyfriend for a month. I've known him for about 3 months. I'm 18, he's 21. We were resting on his couch/bed thing yesterday and started making out. He felt me up big time. I'm embarrassed to write this. He put his hands under my bra and started rubbing my you know what. Then he put his hand down the front of my pants and tried to finger-bang me. It's that time of the month for me so I stopped him. We did a few other things but I don't want to write anymore about this. I'm a virgin and I know he's not. This morning my Mom had my cell phone and he left a couple messages early this morning. He said "I'm really sorry about yesterday" in both messages and in the second one he thought I didn't want to talk to him. He acted like it was normal what we did afterward but said he didn't plan it and apologized twice this morning, sounded dissapointed when he did. I just wanted to know if all guys do this, or if it's common and or normal? What do you think? Thanks!
2007-01-24 14:31:09 · 12 answers · asked by ♀♥♂☮Trippy Hippie☮♂♥♀ 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he's truly understanding then he'll wait.
As far as him saying that he didn't plan it? HA! Guys always plan it. He calculated the moment and moved in. However, don't blame him for having urges. He is a guy and we think about sex. That is just what we do.
You need to explain the situation to him. If you guys are truly in a relationship then you need to have communication. Tell him what happened and discuss it. You'll probably laugh about it afterwards.
All in all... I believe that he is truly sorry. He probably learned his lesson. You still need to have the conversation, though. Do not forget that.
2007-01-24 14:34:40 · answer #1 · answered by BrewMan 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Girl one piece of advice STAY A VIRGIN TILL YOU GET MARRIED. This is common and everyone has done it once in their lives, but it leads to sex. Alot of guys say they don't plan on it and some don't.
I know me and my man didn't lol it just happened. Well after 2 months of making out, we had sex and got me pregnant. We are happily married and been married for 4 years but I was 22 at the time and was too young.
I would stop making out right then and there. Kissing and hugging is fine, holding hands is fine but if he starts to pull up your shirt or something stop him.
If he really loves you, he will understand.
2007-01-24 22:40:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
How did you feel about what happened? And how do you feel about it now? Even if you have different answers to these questions it's YOU that gets to decide whats normal behavior for you. What you're comfortable with is going to change as your relationship progresses so just know that with the right person there is always enough time and space to be perfectly okay with every moment that you end up sharing together.
2007-01-24 22:50:22 · answer #3 · answered by but_like_a_refugee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is normal he is not sure if you liked it or not. Be very careful. You are treading on dangerous ground. He sounds to me like if you let him have it he will take it but both of you are to young. Me' I wouldn't let him do it again. If you do you will finally get to the point of no return. You sound like you are not ready. He's not either. He might think he is' he's not. I can tell by how you speak of him he is immature and unsure of himself. Neither of you are ready' slow down before you make a mistake.
2007-01-24 22:51:52 · answer #4 · answered by Sarcastic Sid 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you two did happens between two people who are together. It is normal for those things to happen. Now if u were uncomfortable with what happened you need to tell him you want to wait before doing those things again. If this guy really likes you he will wait til you are ready to do those things again. Dont feel what happened is not normal, it is and the only thing to worry about is if you liked and and want more.
2007-01-24 22:39:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys will often let their hormones rule them, honey. They will go as far as you let them.
Be aware that sometimes guys use affection to buy sex and girls will use sex to buy affection.
Neither of you are ready for any of this. I can tell by your post, by his reaction.
Talk to your guy. Discuss how you feel. Agree on what will be acceptable and what will not be. Talking about sex is a must. If you can't discuss it, you aren't ready to even consider it.
2007-01-24 22:38:25 · answer #6 · answered by Ande 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We act like normal because we don't want you to get worried about us...
I try to stay open with my gf and she tries to stay open with me, if its that time of month, then let it be that time of month... patients is what we guys give, when we love the other person...
2007-01-24 22:39:21 · answer #7 · answered by calv83luc 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all you are still a virgin at 18,, well done you should be applauded, for being able to say that!! hooray,good for you!! if you are gonna go further please protect yourself , and sad to say yes most guy`s are like that, they want what ever they can get!! dont ever do what you are not ready for!! if he respects you he will wait till you are ready..respect yourself and protect your self at all times!!best of luck
2007-01-24 22:49:21 · answer #8 · answered by harold 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HIS apology actually sounds sincere. he's probably scared that if he pushes you to far, he'll lose you
as for acting normal, all guys do it. especially if theyre not virgins cuz its not a big deal to them
2007-01-24 22:38:09 · answer #9 · answered by lulu 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he said sorry??? hey not many guys around that would actually,you might have a good guy there,but don't rush into anything or be forced,you'll know when your ready
2007-01-24 22:36:11 · answer #10 · answered by TOM 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋