I'm in my mid 40's and live alone in a mid sized (3/2/2) home (my son is off at school). My mother is in her late 60's and lives in the same town in another mid sized home (3/2/2). For the $$ we pay on both homes - we could sell & buy one newer, nicer house with plenty of room for kids/visitors. We get along GREAT. Would you do it?
2007-01-24 14:26:27 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Actually, she's the wild one and I'm the tame one. It's a weird relationship; but it works.
I already do all her "honey-dos" and home improvement on her house and she does most the cooking for both of us. We are always at one house or the other; so it kind of makes sense to me.
2007-01-24 14:52:36 · update #1
It makes sense that you could live more economically if you shared a home. However, no matter how well you get along, there is always a need for privacy so try to find a house that has the space and a layout that would allow for each of you to have a private area where you can be alone! And make certain the paperwork deals with survivorship issues. As your mother ages, she will probably need some degree of caregiving and I'm sure you will want to take care of her. This would be an ideal way to have her stay in " her own home" while you're in "your own home". It's nice to hear of a mother daughter relationship that is a happy one. Luckily I have a daughter and son-in-law I'm that close to also. It's a great blessing.
2007-01-25 02:00:04 · answer #1 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a huge decision for you. Even the best of relationships...parent/child...comes along with some conflicts. If the house is big enough for you to have your privacy and she has that as well..and, if like you said you have a better than average relationship then half the battle is won. Just do a lot of talking ahead of time...talk about the little things like decorating, visitors/men and anything you can think of that may become an issue after it is to late. Once everything is all talked out and you have understandings...well sure why not save money.
2007-01-24 14:45:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only question I would have is what would happen if and when you dated or wanted to bring a man home, whether she would be okay with that, and when she goes pass away, as we all must do, what happens? Does her interest in the house go to you, and probably other questions of that legal nature. if you can discuss these things and come up with answers you both can live with, go for it!!
2007-01-24 14:35:42 · answer #3 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends,if you don't care about privacy or think you'll meet someone else,and want them to leave with You,it shouldn't matter.Also make sure you to agree on stuff and are similar b.c it can be really complicated living w/someone other that your spouse.You guys may not agree on how things are done around the house
2007-01-24 14:36:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, but be sure you don't get into such an expensive house that'd be a burden if one of you passed away or was unable to pay their portion of the bills.
2007-01-24 15:03:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a good idea, but make sure you talk about all the implications with ur mom----and on your own make a list of the pro's and con's------relationships can sometimes change when ppl live together-----and sometimes not for the better. good luck
2007-01-24 14:35:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds great, I have a lot of friends in that situation, and every things working out fine. They are like room mates.
2007-01-24 15:19:02 · answer #7 · answered by LucyBoop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the terrific thank you to ascertain it is to touch a real property legal expert that bargains in real property purely. don't get one that asserts they do each and every thing. purely seek for a large regulation company and tell them you like an real property legal expert. it could value you somewhat greater interior the long-term yet you get what you pay for. in case you're no longer happy with what they advise, seek for yet another. greater powerful to be risk-free than sorry later.
2016-11-01 05:23:22 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have my mom with me now. shes 93 years old. and Its the best thing i have ever done in my life, is taking care of her. I look at it this way she took care of me when I was little and now its my turn. good luck there is nothing wrong with having your mother live with you. this way you only have one home to pay for. and it will be alot cheaper too. good luck.
2007-01-24 14:32:07 · answer #9 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would. However, since my days of widowhood are upon me, I would say that it is very possible that I could not accept such a gift from such a wonderful person as you seem to be.
2007-01-24 14:31:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋