I am divorced and been going out with a married man... he has children...How do I stop? I haven't been able to meet anyone else... I never wanted to go out with him,,,but he was so persistent trying to ask me out for months... one day I gave in... and now I can't stop/// What would you do?
2007-01-24 14:22:40 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Seems to me that you're in love and in denial of it. Ask yourself if there really is a future with him, if there isn't then why waste your time? Look, you've been married and went through a divorce so you know what heartbreak feels like. Don't be afraid and cut it off boldly!
2007-01-24 14:29:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do people commit? They know it's a possibility the partner might not always be up for sex so why not just stay single if regular sex is the most important thing to them? I can't speak for those individual women but there are lots of reasons why sex tails off into a relationship (and not just that way round). The first guy made himself sound really dumb. "It got less regular when she got pregnant! After our daughter came, it just dropped off totally." Yeah he really has no common sense or empathy if he doesn't have a clue why sex might decrease during pregnancy and disappear after a baby. But everyday in the baby section on this site I say women say they were having sex again after a month so this is not a normal situation, however considering what people go through with babies it's perfectly understandable. Maybe the sex never came back up again because that woman figured out her husband was ignorant and insensitive and didn't want to do it with him any more. And cheating is just so wrong, creating a whole new set of problems and not fixing anything. I'd leave if I wasn't getting any. It's also possible some of those men are lying about not having sex, to try and excuse their cheating. Women having affairs with married men always seem to think they're in a sexless marriage and don't understand why the wife keeps getting pregnant. Many people cheat even with a good sex life. Harriet
2016-03-29 01:13:06 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, focus on how his wife and kids would feel if you and him get caught. Next, imagine yourself after 1, 2, 5, 10 or more years waiting for him to leave his wife and kids. Don't laugh, I am watching a friend go through the same thing, and she has been waiting for 5 yrs. Stop talking to him. If he continues, threaten him that you will have a talk with his wife. It is time to run and don't look back. You deserve better, and you need to behave better.
2007-01-24 14:44:59 · answer #3 · answered by A friend of Bill W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a truly sad and complicated lifestyle. You have to be able to say ok I was addicted but now I can stop just like with anything that is bad. You will never find your true man if you continue on like this.
IIt is very much a huge mental stress to live like that and yes you have a choice to do or not to do.
Stop now!
Just say No!
Just do it!
2007-01-24 14:29:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he must hav pointed a gun on ur forehead and threathen you to start accepting his invitation out and to continue seeing him right?
what do you mean by you never wanted to go out with him but gave in and you cant stop now?
have you been sparing thoughts for your diginity, conscious, his wife and kids?
you are just giving yourself excuses and trying to tell yourself... it is because he is just so persistent... not your fault. u made it sound like u have been cheated (bcoz of his persistence) into this relationship...
if i were you, i would give him a good thrashing and asking him to remember he is a married man blah blah blah... then walked him out of my life.
i wouldnt want to be with someone of that kind of grade... it is degrading myself. i wouldnt be happy.
2007-01-24 15:51:23 · answer #5 · answered by alibaba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
helloooo!!!! you have a backbone somewhere in you, woman, and you gotta use it NOW... summon all your courage and dignity that's left in you and just cut all ties with this man... it's not worth it and it will hurt not only you and that man, but his wife too because he's being disloyal... you'ld hate it if you were the wife of an unfaithful husband, right? please have some feelings and act on what you already know is right--a clean, clear cut from this guy. and ASAP...
2007-01-24 14:41:20 · answer #6 · answered by wat_more_can_i_say? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him an ultamatum. If he wants you then he has to leave his wife. You see the problem here is this...You're in love with him but the feeling isnt mutual. If he loved you then he wouldnt be going to bed with his wife. He's getting his cake and eating it too. You deserve better than this.
2007-01-24 14:28:49 · answer #7 · answered by Darktania 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a filthy *****. How can anyone go out with someone that's married? Male or female someone should put you all in jail.
2007-01-24 14:29:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm afraid this man is using you,in the long run your the one that will be hurt and he will be back with his wife.move on for your own sake
2007-01-24 14:28:51 · answer #9 · answered by TOM 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all a matter of character. You know the right answer, you knew the right answer before you started dating him. Either you show your character and end it or remain the "other woman".
2007-01-24 14:28:40 · answer #10 · answered by snvffy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋