Cheated. How to tell her we can't have sex (until after i get STD tested)?

Question

After 4 years together, I have cheated on my girlfriend. I love her so much and have an intense fear that she will break up with me if i tell her. I'm choosing to live with the guilt instead of living without her (i know my conscious may catch up with me later). How I am going to get out of having sex with her until after I get tested for STDs? What do i tell her? And BTW, if I do test positive, I'm obviously going to have to tell her what I terrible mistake I have made and see if she will forgive me. I feel terrible

Answer 1

You need to tell her now. Be as honest as you can. Let her be mad, cry, yell, whatever. It will hurt both of you. But you have to be honest now. If she finds out on her own that you are hiding something it will be worse. I don't condone the cheating, but I think you are being smart with the testing.

Answer 2

"be sure your sin will fine you out!"

hmm, just give her a valid reason why you can't have sex--maybe you are too tired the first time... then the next time you don't feel well... or how about just telling her you want to abstain from sex for awhile because you just feel you should wait until marriage... (use imagination and be realistic--there are many reasons you can give).

btw, go get checked for STDs immediately. and i hope you survive through your ordeal... honesty is the best way to deal with this, because keeping it within yourself will only blow-up worse if she ever finds out in the future... good luck...

Answer 3

if you stop having sex with her she's gonna start thinking your gettin some, somewhere else, BUT you also dont want to pass on any std's til you find out 100% for sure your safe, the longer you leave not telling her the harder its going to get. what happens if you got the other chick pregnant???

Answer 4

Tell her you have a UTI (Urinary Tract Infection). They are quite common and not necessarily acquired through sexual contact. She will appreciate your concern.