someone i know wants to ask someone to prom, but i already know they dont like him...?

Question

Someone i know wants to ask someone to prom, but that person already told me that they wont go....what should i do without hurting his feeelings(dont wan thim to get rejeted)

i meant that the person said that they wont go with him...

Answer 1

OK, we are avoiding gender pronouns here. So it's hard to follow. Tell the guy who is making the attempt to invite a girl (?) who does not like him that "I'm sorry to hurt you, and you can ask her if you want, but she already told me she would not go with you." You will, of course, have to explain how you know: why you were talking to her about this issue. But it is kinder to tell him yourself than to have him ask and she replies, "Why do you ask? I told your friend I wouldn't go with you. Didn't he tell you?"

Now, if the reason you have been avoiding gender pronouns is that the person your friend wants to invite is a boy, I can't help you there. When I was young enough to go to a prom (only ever went to the junior high prom; dropped out in 10th grade), there was no thought of out-of-closet gays. I do not know protocol on such invitations, but I would assume, judging from the gays friends who talk about such things, that it is necessary to limit your invitations to guys you already know are gay, and be prepared for rejection even then, especially if he's in the closet.

Actually, I believe in closets, myself. I figure it's totally your own business who is in your bedroom, let alone in your heart. And once you tell people, you can't go back to privacy. Something as big as a prom would be "coming out" in a very big way. Maybe the guy isn't ready for that.