Need Advice I Cant Stop Thinking About My Ex?

Question

I have recently been thinking about my ex Gf and it has been almost a year since i left her without saying goodbye or giving her a chance to explain why she was cheating on me after she promised she would not cheat if i would take her back previously. I mean I loved this girl so much i would have layed my life down and died to make sure she had the last breath and then i discovered she had been cheating on me off and on for over 5 years.. Do yall think i should caall her up and see how she is or what i mean i cant stop thinking about her and it is killing me.... Please Advise me thnx i am so confused.... i do not want to be hurt like i was and dont thinnk i could handle the pain anymore.....

Answer 1

It does not hurt to call her and say hi. You have unfinished business with her and I think you will not be able to let this go until you at least talk to her.

Answer 2

So basically what your saying is you only loved your ex for the passion and you only love your current husband for "certain other qualities"....my guess is you should have never married either, you obviously aren't happy with out one or the other qualities you are looking for in a man. You settled for either, or. Marriage is a very serious commitment when your where about to get married didn't any of these thoughts occur to you? You need to stop dwelling on the past. And if you feel that sex is much more important to you and you wont be able to stop comparing your current husband to your ex then I suggest you seek counseling.

Answer 3

The love of my life cheated on me. I was crushed beyond belief. Never had I felt pain that just cut right through my heart. If you call her your more than likely going to confess that you still love her and could be set up for another painful experience. On the other hand if you love her that much, you might be willing to put yourself through that hell. I personally took that chance and after some time realized that I no longer loved her. So getting in contact with her was actually a benefitting thing for me because I was able to get over her quicker. Don't get me wrong, its still hurt like hell and sometimes its just not worth the heart ache. That's a decision you have to make. But good advice to you and me is that if someone cheats on you, your better off writen them off because that complete trust will never be there again! Never! You can gain some of it back, but it will never be like it used to be and thats hard to chew on sometimes! Good Luck and I hope my advice helps in your decision.

Answer 4

Hell NOOOOO, don't call her. She cheated on you for 5 YEARS, you know what, she probably doesn't think about you anymore, what if she is really happy with someone and you walce in to her life and she says I don't want aything to do with you, ask yourself how that would make you feel. You have been so brave for nearly a year just wait a little longer and your heart won't feel so broken without her. There are so many wonderful girls out there who will not cheat give them a go and you will see there is someone better for you. you did the right thing by leaving her trust me. Good luck and be brave.

Answer 5

Unresolved relationship questions can tear you up, emotionally. If you ended things with more clarity, you might not be pining away for her now. Love is hard to find, but real love doesn't allow room for cheating, in my opinion. If she really regretted what she did, she should have stopped at nothing win you back. Unless this was the case, I would say allow yourself more time to heal and find someone who will be faithful no matter what temptation comes her way. I hope you feel better soon!

Answer 6

If you love someone after all this time, you should call them. Love is hard to find. But be cautious, as old habits die hard. She may still be a cheater. A lot of times, cheating is caused by low self esteem and the need for attention and reaffirmation from others. So be careful, but definitely you should give her a call.

Answer 7

You should do like the rest of us do when our EXs cheat on us and we find out. You already left her. That's the first step. Second step is to Shag her after you've been tested clean of the STDs she could have given you. Then tell her to f-off because she'd do it all over again to you if she had the chance. Of course after you "shagg" her the last time get retested and remember the pain and don't go there again!

Answer 8

don't waste your time on someone who won't waste their time on you. if she really loved you, she wouldn't have cheated on you. she doesn't respect you, and treats you like garbage. if she loved you, she wouldn't have done that. so don't waste your time on her. she's not worth it. why would you want to be with someone who cheated on you? once a cheater, always a cheater. don't worry about her. you can find a new true love who will love you back just as much. trust me on that one. forget about the tramp. you obviously didn't mean that much to her. i'm sorry for being so straight-forward, but anger really helps you get over an ex. just think about how she hurt you and lied to you and cheated on you(that's humiliating) and use that to get over her. don't worry mate. you'll find another girl who will be so perfect you'll wonder how you ever lived without her:)

Answer 9

never leave things unsolved because then you might have regrets that you'll never get over. i'd say give her a call, and just ask what happened and that you never wanted it to end like it did. tell her you've been thinking about her a lot and you need closure. don't lead her on because she might think you want back in again, and that might not be the best idea. it's always good to get things off your chest .. trust me i've had things built up with my ex also that i always wish i said/asked. best of luck <3

Answer 10

One year is passed and she has never tried to meet you again.She never wanted to clear your doubts.It tells all story that she does not like you.She never bothered about you.Forget her and start new life.Life is precious.Do not waste your important time on such things.The car of your life is running ahead.Dont look behind.Back light is sufficient to remind you of your mistakes.God must have made a good lover for you.Concentrate on your carrier.Good carrier and balanced behaviour attract girls towards you.All the best for new life.