okay well i like this guy but my friend also like him she saw him first so i backed away...but now like im really starting to like him and i think he might like me. The reason why i think this is because he always says that i look really pretty and that he wants to hang out and stuff. Also becuase he asked me wat i look for in a guy and who i like and stuff. My friend likes him so much and i really dont wanna hurt her. But i really like him too.
what should i do? and do you think he likes me?
2007-01-24 13:37:35 · 24 answers · asked by sweety_pie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Prioritize. What's more important to you? The guy or your friend?
Yes.
~LoveSick
2007-01-28 08:39:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you respect your friend, you will either A. leave the guy alone, or B. you will go to her and explain that you have feelings for this boy and would like to pursue it.
She may be hurt, she may say go for it. What ever she does, it is her right to feel however she wants to. Don't tell her she's stupid for getting angry, or silly for being hurt.
Liking someone is a funny thing. You get a crush on someone, you start wondering how things could be, and you get very territorial. Just take it easy, and play it cool. Make sure things will be okay between you and your Friend, because it if doesn't work out with the guy you will not only be out a boyfriend, but also a good girlfriend.
Good Luck!
2007-01-24 21:44:14 · answer #2 · answered by tonythelizard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Complicated situation either way.
Do you know your friend likes him because she has told you so? If not, then maybe you should tell her you really like the guy and see how she responds.
If your friend has told you she likes the guy, wait for him to make the move. When/if he asks you out, tell him you will get back to him. The go to your friend and be honest with her. Hopefully she will realize the guy likes you and not her and she won't make a fuss about it.
If they guy does ask you out and your friend has a problem with it then you're in a very bad situation. You can go out with the guy but you might lose the friend. You can say no to the guy but then you aren't being fair to him or yourself. If you say no to the guy and tell him it's because your friend likes him and would get upset then you put him in a very awkward position. I really don't know what would be the best thing to do in this situation. Hopefully if the guy asks you out, your friend would be ok with it.
The main thing is to be honest all the way around about what you intend to do. If the guy asks you out and you decide to go with him even if your friend objects, make sure you let her know that you respect her feelings but you still want to go with the guy. If you tell her you won't see him and then go behind her back it would just make the situation worse.
2007-01-24 21:50:34 · answer #3 · answered by Justin H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who is more important in your life, this guy or your friend. Sisters ( friends ) should stick together. I know that you may have feelings for this person however you need to choose who is more important.
Be honest if he is acting like that he wont be with her long, he will move on. Sounds to me he is a player and he is going to eventually hurt her or you in the process.
If I were you I would leave it alone. Find someone that has the same interest that you do. You will be happier in the end when you have your Friend to turn to when things get rough with your life.
Blaze..
2007-01-24 21:44:05 · answer #4 · answered by B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. Okay - he likes you - that's for sure!
How long are you going to back down? If you back away now, you'll always land up being used - "Good old Sweetie - she'll back down...she's a pushover..." Is this what you want to be? Second best? If he likes you, he likes YOU and not your friend. If she really IS a friend, she'll understand and should be wise enough to realise you van't FORCE love - it's something you choose to do...and looks like the guys actually chooses you...
Be a winner, my sweet friend - no one else is going to back away...so if u really like the guy, go 4 it - life is way to short to always "back off"!!! If you keep on doing that, life will cheat you and you'll lose out on opportunities in a big way!
Good luck, babes.
2007-01-24 21:55:50 · answer #5 · answered by weskusmafia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me start of by saying that growing up I had the same problem with my friends. It sounds like he likes you, your friend might not like you, and be jealous at the fact that he likes you. What can you do if you like him, she would probably go for it if it were the other way around, after all he doesn't belong to your friend. Just see what happens, just be honest with her. I regret not going for half the guys that didn't like my friends and liked me, so I would back off because of the respect I had for my friends. They don't even exist in my life anymore, and they were little snakes behind my back, friends, yeah right blah blah blah. All they were was just acquaintances and I called that a friend.
2007-01-24 22:05:06 · answer #6 · answered by HOPE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how good of a friend is she? chances are, even if you come to some kind of verbal agreement, she'll still resent you, deep down. think about the consequenses and see if they're worth it. i'm going to assume that you're still in school. do you expect to still be friends with her next semester or next year or once you graduate? here are a few worst-case scenarios:
if you do go for the guy, are you willing to deal with rumors or a total lack of girl friends for rest of your time at the school? even tho no one's dating him, she does have dibs. and... if you do go for him, and end up dating for a total of three weeks before you realize that you're just not really a match, are you willing to have no girl friends and no boyfriend? on the other hand, i think there's a pretty good chance that he does like you. so, if you don't go for him, are you willing to deal with the idea that he could be the one that got away?
you could wait it out... hope that they don't work out and then get permission once it's over. but, then there's a chance that they end up happily ever after, and you never get to see if you would have been better together.
you're just gonna have to decide what's worth it to you.
2007-01-24 22:03:42 · answer #7 · answered by hunting wabbit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do yourself a favor and back off, because if your friend like him first then let it go. If the guy ready like you don't you think he would've already ask you out? Maybe he ask these question because there might be another guy that likes you and don't know if you like him so he having his friend to find out for him in a around about way.
2007-01-24 21:46:05 · answer #8 · answered by rma2ks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he does like you. Like you, I would also have the same dilemma if I felt my friend would be hurt. Yet, time will tell all 3 of you who belongs with who.
The right thing would be for your friend to be ok with who this guy picked and if it were you, she'd be happy for you. It's not your fault he likes you and you like him even if she saw him first. It's not going to work with them if he's into you and not her.
Give it a little bit of time...
Yes, I do think he likes you from what you've written...
Make sure he's a nice guy...
Maybe your friend will decide to like someone else soon...
It's a hard situation. Thanks for being thoughtful towards your friend.
2007-01-24 21:44:21 · answer #9 · answered by mickeymouse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you might wanna back off for awhile unless you want to lose a friend. Just wait until she starts being intrested in another guy, and then pounce.
2007-01-24 21:44:11 · answer #10 · answered by Ellen the Estonian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because your friend saw this guy first doesn't mean she owns him. If you two get along and he is interested in you then go for it. You know the guy DOES get a voice who whom HE shows an interest in.
2007-01-24 21:43:34 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋