she calls for every little problem about thier son sam,can talk to my husband for 20 mins on the phone about what she fed sam,now sam is 7yrs old and is old enough to tell his dad things. but his ex still feels she needs to be the one to "share things with my husband" like what she and sam did on vacation together(now thats a 1hr long phone call between her and my husband)my husband told me he hates to talk to her but just listens to her to keep piece with her but this drives me nuts as she is as nasty as she can be to me.
2007-01-24 13:34:06 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why don't people just stop getting married. It never works.
2007-01-24 13:37:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, since he has a son with her... she will forever be a part of your life. Your husband needs to find a balance between having a civil relationship with her for their son's benefit, and allowing her to intrude on your marriage, which is what she is doing now. Without a whole lot of info to go on, it sounds like she's still holding on to him. He needs to let her know that he will ALWAYS be there for his son, but as far as the relationship between her and him, he has moved on. He can start by reducing the number of calls... decide on how frequent is acceptable, and what's ridiculous. Let's say he speaks to his son once a day. Assuming there are no real emergencies, there should be no need for him to speak to her more than once or twice a week. Then he's got to start reducing the amount of time each phone call takes. An update on how his son is doing shouldn't take more than a few minutes. If a problem comes up, that will take longer. Remember, there will always be exceptions. Of course, (depending on the relationship) you could always answer the phone and sweetly say he's napping, or washing the car, and then ask how their son is doing. Just be careful with that... you don't want her to feel that you're trying to come between your husband and his son.
2007-01-24 13:44:55 · answer #2 · answered by ~StepfordWife~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, u just be as sweet as pie to her, that'll really get her goat! On the other hand, he has to stay in touch with her to stay involved with his son. He may hate to talk to her, but he's doing the right thing, & if u try to come between them, u'll be the loser. Be the bigger woman here & don't let her get to u. As long as she knows she's getting to u, she's not going to give up, she's going to keep calling about any & every little thing that comes up. I know this is very hard for u, but don't let her get to u. Just be ur sweet self, especially around her. Good Luck!!
2007-01-24 14:04:16 · answer #3 · answered by louise b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u dont deal with her at all...tell her that it aint cha fault that things dient work out for her but that this is the new rules. n set them. be firm be mean be what eva u need to be but get the point across. tell her that her time with her son is between her n her son and the time that her son spends with his father n her are ur times. that the phone calls will be limited to important things only unless its his son calling to talk to his father but the calls from her are done as of now. let him know that this is how it will be too.
2007-01-24 13:39:45 · answer #4 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry to say this but when you marry a man that has a child thats what you have to look forward to the rest of your life. it doesnt stop when he turns 18 either. there will be graduations weddings grandchildren etc. so just get used to it now.
2007-01-24 13:42:50 · answer #5 · answered by pooh 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Arrange with your husband that if she calls, after five minutes or so, that you ring the doorbell, and he has to hang up to see who it is at the door. Of course he has to tell her that he is alone. You can also invent other excuses, like he is going out, and she just caught him, or he is expecting another call, and can't talk.
2007-01-24 13:40:40 · answer #6 · answered by Beau R 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not up to you. It's up to your new husband. Too bad your new husband hasn't found his balls yet . . . I hope he finds them so he can deal with this. And the fact that she is nasty with you ought to give him more reason to find them. He needs to take care of this ...not you!
2007-01-24 13:39:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your husband ask him if you should put a harrasment order on her because that is harrasment. But it also depends how frequent she calls.
2007-01-24 13:39:04 · answer #8 · answered by Kenster102.5 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he needs to be the one to stop her...
if he really doesn't want her to call him, he'll stop her from doing so. maybe he wants to still talk to her so sam will see that mommy and daddy still love each other, they are just incompatible.
2007-01-24 13:56:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he care about his Son, even if he hates his x wife if its aboutthe son he should listen regardless
2007-01-24 13:38:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋