she calls for every little problem about thier son sam,can talk to my husband for 20 mins on the phone about what she fed sam,now sam is 7yrs old and is old enough to tell his dad things. but his ex still feels she needs to be the one to "share things with my husband" like what she and sam did on vacation together(now thats a 1hr long phone call between her and my husband)my husband told me he hates to talk to her but just listens to her to keep piece with her but this drives me nuts as she is as nasty as she can be to me.
2007-01-24 13:33:24 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Number one, I would put an end to that sh**** quick. She has no business calling your husband to tell him stuff about their son unless its an emergency. Like you said he is old enough to tell his dad whatever he wants. She keeps doing this because she knows you hate it and she thinks she's got it like that. Curse her *** out and tell your husband to stop sitting on the phone with her for hours talking about nothing or better yet he can take his *** back to her and they can live happily ever after since now that they are no longer together they have so much to say to each other. Sounds like they get along better now than they did when they were together. That means trouble for you, and if the shoe was on the other foot your husband would be hating life.
2007-01-27 09:58:12 · answer #1 · answered by frigginhilarious 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your husbands point of view...but she knows exactly what she is doing. I think that you should talk to him about how it makes you feel.
It is possible for him to keep their conversations short and to the point. Sam is old enough to tell you both what they have been doing...maybe he just needs to tell her that he would rather hear it from their son. Although it may rock the boat with her for a little while, he needs to make you more of a priority than his ex wife!
Good luck!
2007-01-24 14:01:17 · answer #2 · answered by daisy31 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, my. This is complex and difficult but not unusual in second marriages where young kids are involved. Did you not observe this while you were dating your husband? At any rate, that doesn't matter now, the situation is what it is. Your job is to be gracious and kind and set a good example for your stepson. Never give anyone a reason to perceive you as the shrewish new wife. Always be cordial and polite -- it will pay off in the end. Good luck, and God bless!
2007-01-24 13:39:42 · answer #3 · answered by meatpiemum 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
regrettably, because of the fact that he has a son together with her... she would be in a position of perpetually be a factor of your existence. Your husband needs to discover a stability between having a civil dating together with her for their son's benefit, and allowing her to intervene on your marriage, that's what she is doing now. without various information to bypass on, it sounds like she's nonetheless preserving directly to him. He needs to enable her comprehend that he will constantly be there for his son, yet as a techniques because of the fact the dating between her and him, he has moved on. He can initiate by skill of lowering the style of calls... elect on how usual is acceptable, and what's ridiculous. enable's say he speaks to his son as quickly as an afternoon. Assuming there are no genuine emergencies, there must be no want for him to communicate to her greater desirable than once or twice a week. Then he's have been given to start lowering the quantity of time each telephone call takes. An replace on how his son is doing shouldn't take a extensive style minutes. If a difficulty comes up, which will take longer. bear in mind, there'll constantly be exceptions. of course, (watching the dating) you need to constantly answer the telephone and sweetly say he's drowsing, or washing the vehicle, and then ask how their son is doing. basically be careful with that... you do no longer want her to experience which you're attempting to come again between your husband and his son.
2016-11-27 00:17:20 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's still attached to your husband and he doesn't seem to be able to set limits with her.
It's not your place to do it.
You and your husband need to have a serious talk about this and what he needs to do to solve it.
She's going to talk to him about Sam for the rest of their lives but within reason....but you knew that when you married Sam's Dad.
2007-01-24 14:37:26 · answer #5 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋