While dating my last girlfriend we were going thru a difficult time that we eventually fixed and moved forward with, but during this time she told me she was interested in another guy that she played volleyball with every Thursday at the local rec department. She found out that he was married and nothing ever became of it. We worked out our problems and moved forward.. But now we are broken up after 2 1/2 years. She continued to play volleyball with this guy (and a group of others). Should she have stopped playing with this group when she persued another while dating me, after we worked out our other problems? She said she had no interest in him after we worked out our issues, but I find it selfish that she would continue to have me have to deal with her seeing him every week. Am I just being silly or should she have thought of my feelings and found another group to play volleyball with??? Sorry for the rambling question..
2007-01-24 13:33:02 · 11 answers · asked by Vindicatedfather 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thats a difficult question to answer because we dont know about the "other issues". If you were asking about jealousy because she liked someone else when she was with you. i would answer..you had every right to be and you guys needed to re evaluate your relationship. If a person made a mistake, however, admitted to their partner they were having feelings for someone esle and wanted forgiveness..then by all means that person should make every effort to not be around that person any more. She sounds selfish and inconsiderate of your feelings.
2007-01-24 13:39:16 · answer #1 · answered by justme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're broken up, then you have nothing to feel jealous about. Now, I understand where you're coming from since I (and probably most people) have gone through the same or a similar thing. I think what hurts you the most is that she can move on and (seemingly) have a good happy life. You have to move on or you'll be miserable for a long time. Let her go and look for another girl. Try making female friends without romantic involvement until you're sure that you are past this breakup.
2007-01-24 13:38:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, you really should not pick her friends. However, she should have thought more about your feelings, especially if she is saying there is no interest in him anymore.
But now that you are broken up. It is time to move on hun. She has chosen her life now and you need to choose yours.
Sometimes the decisions that we choose to make end up hurting the ones that we care about but if you grow from the experiance you will be better off in the long run and know how to deal with it when it comes up again.
GL.. but most of all be true to yourself.
Blaze
2007-01-24 13:40:09 · answer #3 · answered by B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did say that the other guy is married, and puls you guys wern't together at the time when she told you she was interested in the Vollyball guy. So nothing will obviously come of it. I don't think there is anything to worry about and she should continue to play what ever team she wants. And anyway she wasn't dating the guy she liked him till she found out he was married. Just chill out , worser things could have happend.
2007-01-24 13:42:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dwell on what if or what should be done, since you are broken up take your time to mourne the loss learn from the experience and when you start seeing someone else and I am sure you will. forget what happened in the past with the Ex and concentrate on the new one and remember NO TRUST your relationsship is doomed.
Ex's are Ex's fpr a reason
2007-01-24 13:50:25 · answer #5 · answered by sierre_alpha_victor_echo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she wants her cake and eat it too. I suggest the best thing for you is to go on with your life. She tends to be going on with hers by still playing with there group. She must still have a crush on him. She does sound a bit selfish. Good luck in your decision!
2007-01-24 13:40:26 · answer #6 · answered by Humming Bird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are going to be all kinds of people we are attracted to. If we avoided them all we would probably have to hide in our rooms.
Trust and maturity would take care of any problem you have about this. I think she should be allowed to continue to play ball with the guy. Do you trust her?
2007-01-24 13:40:05 · answer #7 · answered by Ande 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should've thought about how you felt and your relationship if she wanted to work things out. She was insensitive.
2007-01-24 13:37:24 · answer #8 · answered by ♦♥maybelle♦♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if she's your ex then you have no right deciding who she sees and who she's with. she should have thought about you and switched classes after you told her how you felt, but what can you do? just forget about it and move on.
2007-01-24 13:39:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you have every right to feel a little jealous but she is not with him right.... just remember that and try not to keep her from doing the things that she loves
2007-01-24 13:38:17 · answer #10 · answered by ~annie~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋