it may be her body... but it takes two to tango. unless a woman can prove that the father is a danger and she isnt with him, or that he wants nothing to do with her, why doesnt the dad have the right to make the decision on wether or not to abort too? my brother's wife aborted her baby against his will, then 3 months later got prego again and kept it. he was heartbroken and it makes no sense that 3 months later she was suddenly "ok" with having a baby, when she had just killed her last one (there were no complications) WHY WHY WHY isnt this an issue?!
2007-01-24 13:23:33 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
and they were TRYING to have a baby both times, then she "got scared" the first time, so she says. who cares that the woman is the one who carries it, thats just the way it is. the child is the flesh and blood of both the father and the mother, and why should one parent have the right to kill their child and the other has no say in it?
2007-01-24 13:30:26 · update #1
I believe that there should be laws put in place to protect the father's rights, too. If he wants the baby and is willing to take on full responsibility. he should be able to do so. Just as we demand men taking responsibility for children they create, if the baby is wanted, the mother should be forced to go full term. She did participate in creating the baby and should be held accountable.
2007-01-24 13:36:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
This is a good question I am a father to a beautiful little girl and would never consider abortion. But some guys don't want to be fathers or are not ready to be and in some cases woman are not ready to be mothers either whatever the case but if the woman decides to have the baby and he doesnt want one he is stuck paying child support for the next 18 years but if the woman don't want a child she can just get an abortion so the man basically has no say. I am not saying abortion is right just saying the issue really needs to be rethought....
2007-01-24 21:45:54 · answer #2 · answered by jimmy_g01 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Holy Crow you're god awful ignorant! "it MAY be her body" there is no MAYBE about it. It is 100% her body you cave man!
If your wife told you were going to do 9 months heavy labour while being sick for much of it, then undergo a LONG painful process, and it didn't matter what you said "it MAY be your body" but she didn't care, this is what she wanted... Don't you think you might feel a LITTLE bit entitled to a say in the matter. Your question is for your sister-in-law and no one else. Only she can answer your nagging "why why why"... no one else.
Don't air out your families dirty laundry here.
However, if two people are happily married, and the wife decides to have an abortion without consulting her husband or letting him be a part of the decision making there is a problem with the marriage.
Don't crap on another human for their reactions to their bodies and their live, it's none of your business. Butt out!
I am 17 weeks pregnant, I am on restricted activity, so I can't even walk my dog or clean my house, I can not lift my cat nor change his litter box, I have been put off work by CSST (workers comp), I have to watch my diet, be in and out of doctors offices, I can't drink, and I have constant migraines which I can take little medication for... and there is another 5 months or so to go. I accept this loving because I choose to keep the baby though it was not planned or wanted prior to conception. You honestly think that any man should legally have the right to FORCE that upon any woman. Some women have a harder time, some have no problems... no way to tell in advance.
2007-01-24 22:24:38 · answer #3 · answered by Noota Oolah 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think both parents should have say.
If she says abort and he says he wants it they should draw up papers saying as soon as its born he will take it. If they are married they need to sit down and decide together what to do.
I think its Bull when a woman gets preg, aborts it and the dad has no clue about any of it.
yes she has to be careful for 9 months and yes she has to give birth and she might get fat but she had sex knowing she could get preg. Its his baby too he should have say.
If the mother cant find the father or can prove the father is abusive then the choice she be left up to her. But there are a lot of men who will never know there child was aborted. there are men who don't find out until after the fact when they would have been happy to have the baby.
2007-01-24 21:56:15 · answer #4 · answered by monkeyeatbutt@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Rightfully, both parties should be involved in all aspects of their child's life from conception (they guy should take care of her incl. all the ice cream and pickle runs) to adulthood. That is just pro-abortion propaganda to say it is only the woman's body. His cells and genetic material is alive and growing in there too. Especially, a married couple. They are supposed to be as one. His body is hers and hers is his. And the life debate is insane. A rose by any other name is still a rose. A zygote, fetus, baby it is all the same! That is like saying a child is not a human because it is not an adult or because they can not take care of themselves yet. I think people can rationalize anything if it is convenient for them.
2007-01-28 21:10:22 · answer #5 · answered by silentstorm025 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok well what if the child was born and older. And at some point that child needs a kidney transplant and the mom was a match. Does the dad have the right to force the mom to undergo surgery for the benefit of another?
I agree in this particular case it is awful, and that woman clearly needs help. However we can't make laws based on strange exceptions. We shouldn't take away the rights of all for the stupidity of a few.
2007-01-24 21:40:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like your brother married an idiot....
I agree it takes two to tango and it should take two to make a decision like that....laws need to be changed.....you can't have a man paying child support for a child he did not want...than deny another one the right to have a child they want....it is unjust..and unfair....
It the women's body..but if they realize they might not have total say when it comes to pregnancy and to carry or not...they might use a little more caution and protection not get into this situation to begin with........
2007-01-24 21:52:08 · answer #7 · answered by LeftField360 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if it were that way then a man could make a woman have an abortion. You can't force a woman to do anyting with her body just like you cant force anyone to have trreatment for a disease if they don't want it. Besides she could deny the fac that it was even his. WHta if the mother was afraid for her own heath would you still be able to put her at risk becuase every woman is at risk when they get pregnant
2007-01-24 21:42:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I guess it is because, legally, a fetus is viewed as a part of a woman's body until it is born. Yes, it takes two to tango, but it does not take two to nourish and carry it for nine months. Women have the honor and incredible responsibility to carry a child. Men do not. If men could carry a pregnancy, they would have the choice to prevent abortion, but they don't. I am very sorry for your brother, but it sounds like he needs to find a woman who shares his values instead of starting a family with somone who feels so differently from him. And I am sorry that you lost the niece or nephew you would have loved.
2007-01-24 21:38:32 · answer #9 · answered by MissM 6 · 4⤊ 3⤋
I agree with you. If the father is willing to take care of the baby then the woman should have to carry it until delivery and sign over her parental rights. That is my opinion. Good luck getting anyone to listen though.
2007-01-24 21:32:49 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋