will i be single forever. Im sad and lonely.
2007-01-24 13:21:11 · 25 answers · asked by super_softwaresweetie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I believe that this is my mothers question also, and my mom has been divorced for 10 years now, she has a deaf son too. Many people do not know how it feels to have a disabled brother or son for that matter. When you go into a store or anywhere people stair at my brother like hes an animal or somthing of the sort. Its not right at all he is just as smart and brite and beautyful as any other child on this earth.
Most of the time men cant see past there dick lol!!! oppss! but their are some guys out there that are willing to step up to the plate and be a man. I have no worrries that you will find him. Most of the time you find him when your not even looking for him at all. The men that you dated were just stepping stones to the man of your dreams.
Take Care, Best wishes, Your Daughter Chelsey : )
2007-01-24 15:19:19 · answer #1 · answered by chelsey2you 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As any decent person knows, it shouldn't matter that your son is deaf or has special needs.
However, the next time a man is interested in you, tell him first. That way he isn't at a loss, quite literally, for words.
I mean, it might just be overwhelming. Even if they know you have a son, but don't know he's deaf, how does he say, "Hi," or how does he get through all the "small talk" you do with kids in these situations. They might feel ambushed if you haven't told them ahead of meeting your kid. They might even feel bad for feeling that way, but by then, the date mood is killed and another one bites the dust.
You will not be single forever, but you do need to be brutally candid the next time you consider dating. Just teaching a man to say "Hi, how are ya," in ASL could be make all the difference.
2007-01-24 21:37:44 · answer #2 · answered by trekkiebear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your son sign? If so, why not look for a man that knows ASL as well. A deaf world can be pretty small, it would be nice if you could expand it just a little within your home. If my child were deaf, any potential partner would HAVE to be able to communicate with him. I hope with all my heart that if your son knows ASL, you do also. I hate to find deaf children whose parent don't take the time necessary to speak with them in their language, after all, hearing children learn our language. I am not deaf, but I know the language and have many deaf friends. I have some hearing friends married to deaf men and a deaf woman married to a hearing man. It's just another language, not a disability!
2007-01-25 11:27:08 · answer #3 · answered by professor grey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with Prof. Grey. As one of Jehovah's Witnesses who also speaks the American Sign Language we have Kingdom Halls that are built just to accomodate the deaf community. We have assemblies where thousands of deaf and hearing people who know sign language gather together. What a joy it is to be part of that group. If you have an opportunity to bring your son to one of our Kingdom Halls for the deaf, you'll not only be amazed and overjoyed by the things you'll learn, but you'll also be surrounded by real friends who speak the language of the deaf community. Incidently, I read a few comments where the language was described as an "extra" talent, or as a "disability", it is neither, it is a beautiful language.
2007-01-25 11:37:26 · answer #4 · answered by professor grey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...that totally sucks. But at least you find out early on that they are jerks. So in a way it is a blessing. I know you are sad and lonely now...but just think how wonderful it will be when the right man does come along. And maybe you should be taking more time to getting to know people before you start dating them. Just concentrate on you and your son for now....I am sure he is a wonderful boy and just as deserving of a wonderful man in his life as you are! I wish you the best...and am confident that you will find someone who will love you and son! *Hugs* Cheer up!
2007-01-24 21:28:28 · answer #5 · answered by silentscreamer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not a speacialist on deaf people but maybe they leave u bc there ignore there self
dont be sad or lonely theres someone out there that will accept u and ur son for who u all really are
good luck to u but if u ever need to chat just give me a shout
2007-01-24 21:27:43 · answer #6 · answered by Angie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any good man would not consider leaving you because of that - if anything it shows you to be a strong, wonderful mom with a wonderful son. He's out there - don't settle and don't worry! Be proud that your son has the extra talent to know sign language and the strength to deal with hearing loss. The man in your life will be proud too. (The right one). Sorry you met such jerks so far...
2007-01-24 22:17:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There will b a better guy who will come along. Mayb te time is not ripe yet. B4 then, go out with frenz, take up courses n etc. Enjoy your life with ur son. At least u still have a 'small man' with u. U wont b lonely. Let nature take its course. Enjoy n take care!
2007-01-24 21:30:58 · answer #8 · answered by Joy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll find someone in time. If they all leave, readjust your perceptions of a potential mate. The person you think the least of is most often the one that will stick around.
2007-01-24 21:26:21 · answer #9 · answered by dead_end_lies 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. You have just found men who are scared. You have no trouble getting the dates which is great, it's just finding a man that is sincere and one who cares.
2007-01-24 21:24:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋