I'm pretty sure I have depression but my mom doesnt believe i need help.. what should I do?

Question

i am pretty sure no I KNOW i have depressing i dread waking up i sleep more than i ever did im afraid to go near certaint people when people pick on me i sulk i eat less and less i DREAD going to school ive lost my wit ive cried more than ive ever cried in my life i have seriously been thinking of seeing my school conselor but i dont want to give him names and be snitch i want to confront my mom and i have but she doesnt take it serioisly what should i do?

im 15 and fully grown in all ummm ways

Answer 1

From what your saying it sounds like you have two problems. Bullies at school and depression.

From what your describing it is probable that the bullying your dealing with is causing the depression. Depression is a what happens when ways our minds have of coping with stress get out of control and take over our lives.

You are right that you need help. It is likely that until you get help to deal with the bullying, whether to put a stsop to it, or to learn ways to deal with it treating the depression will change little, on the other hand if even if you end the bullying the depression may have become a habit and not go away.

For the depression, I'd definitely talk with either your school counsellor or a teacher you trust. Let them talk with your mother and convince her that this is not a strage you are going through and you need help to deal with the depression. I would suggest avoiding taking medication until after the bullying has been dealt with. If you are getting counselling for the depression and it still hasn't gone away two months after the bullies are no longer a problem, then it might be time to consider medication.

There are two basic ways to deal with the bullies, the first, talking to someone in authority, you've already said you don't want to take. That may be for the best, sometimes bullies get worse if you repor tthem. Or you may be better off telling the counsellor, maybe if the bullies see that this is being taken seriously they'll back down. The other way to deal with the situation is to take steps to increase your self-confidence so you can stand up to them yourself. If you decide to take this route, tell your school counsellor that you are looking for ways to build yourself confidence, he'll probably have some suggestions.

From dealing with my mom, I'd suggest you keep in mind the difference between confronting her and convincing her. If I tried to confront my mom with a problem, she took the confrontation as a sign that I was 'to immature' to understand the proper way to handle a problem, and therefore was overreacting and letting my 'overactive imagination' and emotions create problems that didn't exist. Beating your mom over the head with the truth until she admits that you're right sounds great in theory,but will probably only alienate her. If she really won't listen to you, then get someone else to talk to her, best bet is probably a school counsellor or teacher, like I suggested before. And if she still won't listen, your school counsellor can help you with the depression whether or not your mom approves.

Good luck.

Answer 2

You have made a huge first step!! You know that something is wrong.
Its very hard when others you think you can trust and go to when you need help dismiss your feelings.
I would recommend having a hard think about who in your life you feel safe talking to, your school counsellor is a good idea. You don't need to talk about other people just yourself, number 1 YOU is the only person you need to think about.

A family member not quite as close as your mum may also be a good idea.
I would really like for you to see a doctor, when you know there is a problem its often the best time as you can explain all your feelings even the ones you think are silly.
I wish you the best of luck and hope you can get the help you need before this goes on for to long and you feelings get worse. Its very scary I've had depression since i was a teenager and no one believed me.
When people have not had depression they don't understand how sad it makes you feel.
Take care of you and don't stop asking for help until you feel better :)

Answer 3

I suggest your reading the following, & that you consider sharing those marked, "<* " , with your mom:

How Can I Cope When Tragedy Strikes?
- Why Bad Things Happen
- Practical Ways to Cope
http://watchtower.org/e/20030622/article_01.htm

Why Does God Let Us Suffer?
- Facing Unpleasant Realities
- Is God to Blame?
- Why God Permits Evil
- Not Alone !
http://watchtower.org/library/g/2004/3/22/article_01.htm

What Hope for Today's Youths? :
- The Tragedy of Youthful Deaths
- Suicide--A Scourge of young People <*
- When Hope and Love Vanish
- When They Return
- Motivations for Suicide
- Some Indicators of Suicide <*
http://www.watchtower.org/library/g/1998/9/8/article_01.htm

Helping Teens in Trouble : <*
- Youths in Crisis
- The Pressures Facing Youths
- Help for Todays Youths
http://watchtower.org/library/g/2005/4/8/article_01.htm

Hope---Where You Can Find It!
http://watchtower.org/e/20040422/article_01.htm

If you would like answers to more questions --or would merely like to observe-- where you can find us, and what you can expect on a visit-- is here: http://jw-media.org/people/worship.htm .

(NOTE : 3 of those^ URLs will likely be modified soon. After that, each title can be entered in the Advanced Search engine at : http://watchtower.org/search/search_e.htm , which will give you a link with that one's new URL.)

Answer 4

Sadly thats how it always happends. I know you might have a hard time telling someone but you need to take the first steps in recovery. Ask a counselor or take a good friend with you. Try more with your mom and try to bring out what makes you feel this way. Maybe get a brother or sister or another older family member to help you talk to her. I hope you feel better.

Answer 5

I think talking to your school counselor is a great idea. First of all, be proud of yourself that you are acknowledging these feelings. I don't know how old you are, but I know that school can bring a lot of pressure and stress along with it, no matter whether you are in middle school or high school. School counselors are specially trained to help you with issues at school, so don't be afraid to talk to them. You aren't required to give names, you can still talk about what's happening and only disclose as much as you want to.

As for your mom, also try talking to her again (in addition to your counselor). Sometimes parents have a hard time accepting that their kids need help or are having problems. Be respectful of her, but stand up for yourself and tell her how you feel.

Good luck and hang in there.

Answer 6

Try the school counselor. You don't have to name names - no snitching...it's just a chance to get your feelings out. You'll feel better talking to SOMEBODY .

If your mom doesn't take you seriously, maybe you have a relative or family friend you could talk to. It's important to let your feelings out, whether you cry, throw rocks in a field or talk it out with someone.

Hang in there - it WILL get better.

Answer 7

i'm 16 and i honestly don't think school counselors do very much. you can talk to them and everything..mentioning other girls will deff. make things worse with them..but there is nothing a counselor can do other then call your parents.
like mine, your parents will probably believe things coming from an adult [someone at school or a doctor]
so i would recommend going to your regular doctor complaining of headaches or something..and ask to talk alone and tell your doctor how you are feeling..he/she can explain to your mom or whoever and they will obviously take the doctor's advice seriously

good luck

Answer 8

I would ask your mom to make you a doctor appointment because you don't feel good. When you get there ask her to let you talk to your doctor alone. Then talk to your doctor about what is going on. If your doctor concludes that you have depression they might be the best person to talk to your mom and explain what is going on.
Your mom may not believe that depression is a disease, not just a frame of mind. I would research it and then give her the information. But, definatly see your doctor.

Answer 9

Honey, go see your school counselor. You don't have to give names. Just say some people have picked on you. Maybe your counselor can help you deal with the bullying and give you some suggestions that will help you handle things.
Best wishes to you, dear!

Answer 10

Tell your mom that one day she may regret the mistake she is making and ANY depression comments that you say to her regrading getting help should be taken very seriously and quickly