Why does God hate me? Seriously....?

Question

This is a weird situation but I will try to make a long story short. I am happily married and I have one child. Me and my husband work very hard for every penny we have but we constantly always have trouble. We have cars always breaking down, running out of money, we're out to lose our house, its just one thing after another. I work two jobs and hardly ever get to see my son and my husband works 60 hrs a week but heres the whole thing I don't understand... we are good friends with another couple and they NEVER have anything going wrong in their life, they bought a super nice house for cheap, the wife whom hardly has any skills in her area - got a really good job and I dont know how, they're always winning stuff, they have a free babysitter.. when we always pay for ours... I know i'm comaring us to them, but its just like how can someone who works so hard have the worst luck ever?? They aren't religous, I would say we are more religious than they are. I just want to cry.. really.

Answer 1

God hates you about as much as the tooth fairy, easter bunny, santa claus, and all the other creatures of mythology. It's not worth any thought. Relax, take a deep breath and take care of yourself.

Answer 2

It doesn't seem to make much sense does it? Sometimes however people who have everything just come to them and they never appear to struggle, end up with a situation eventually that is really hard on them and then suddenly they have no clue how to cope.

We were the type that things didn't really come easy but they weren't all that much of a struggle either until two situations came at the same time which threw us into a severe situation which took us over 3 years to get out of. It was during that time that my faith was denounced simply because I'd spent years believing and yet struggles continued to be a part of the game. It was always 2 steps ahead, 5 steps back kind of thing.

Since denouncing my faith however, struggles have been very, very few ... so much so as to be non existant. Things have simply gone incredibly well including 'luck' wise. I think we live in cycles -- we have really good ones and we have hard ones. It's these that makes us who we are in the end. If we don't learn a lesson from a struggle, then we have to repeat it until we get it. Once the lesson is learned then we are off to another series of good and bad things.

Perhaps there are lessons you need to achieve before you can move ahead...try to assess things and discover what areas you should be learning things from (i.e. better budgeting, less yearning for what others have, too much dependence on material items, etc) Once you get the lesson watch how soon your life improves and remember to always keep the lesson you've learned, in practice so you never have to go back and repeat it again (which equals a setback or reversion to a tough part of your life again).

Don't become frustrated to the point that you can't see what you already have accomplished, earned and gained. Accept these things as gifts of abundance and don't expect to jump ahead too quickly. It will all come about and you will find happiness, contentment, abundance and joy. Really!

Answer 3

For one thing, alot of people aren't as happy as they may seem behind closed doors. Get through this and it will make you stronger. It says in the bible that God will never give you a situation that you can't handle. If you guys are working so much, where is the money going? Try focusing on the good in your life instead of the bad. Financial security is not everything. Be thankful for your health and your safety. Just because the people next door are set financially doesn't mean they are always happy at times that you can't see. We ALL have our problems, its how they are handled that matters. When we start wanting what others have is when we stop focusing on what we do have.

Answer 4

I see your hurting and frustrated and I'm sorry. God does not hate.

I think you need to look at the positive, you're happily married and your have a child. Not everyone has these wonderful gifts.

There is nothing wrong with a good cry! I say go for it.

When your done maybe some frustration with have subsided.

If I may, look to your friends as your friends not as somebody who has more than you. Who is to say they have not had a hard time before. Enjoy the fact that they are doing well.

You saying more religious worries me. We are saved through our faith not our works. Please be careful there.

my very best to you and think about the good things in your life. They will help care you and give you comfort.

Answer 5

God would not hate you, he basically has an truly nasty experience of humour. you haven't any longer truly have been given something to ***** approximately, he might properly be lots nastier than that. so which you had appendicitis and your appendix became bumped off. some people have been given swept away in Tsunamis and died! some had their palms and legs blown off in explosions. you're fortunate, a minor operation, you probably did no longer die and you're able to stroll approximately. so which you had some rigidity problems, yet no longer something truly to have rigidity approximately. your loved ones are not death of loss of nutrition and water. You did no longer all get thrown into detention center and tortured. Now you have GERD. no longer effective, yet no longer destructive. you will see, you will pay attention, you nonetheless have a cushty and shelter existence. think of what god ought to do to you if he truly had to. you're an truly fortunate and privileged individual. Thank your fortunate stars.

Answer 6

God does not hate you. this is not an easy question to answer. there are many factors seen, and unseen that have an affect on this issue. my parents had the exact same problem when they started their marriage. they, literally, had to fish for their dinner.

perhaps you need to rethink your finances. my mother says they lived by the 70/10/10 rule. live on 70%, save 10%, and give 10% to charities/God. perhaps God is preparing you for future situations. It essentially could be anything. I suggest do what my mom did. Be super strict on the budget. My family never owned a house until i was around 15 (and i am the 3rd born son!).

Answer 7

#1 are you tithing? The Bible is clear about the curse of not tithing. Your neighbor is probably ignorant to it and sort of excempt for the moment.

#2 Even though the situation looks impossible, thats when you walk by faith. You are broke, GIVE! Tithe! I have experience with this. THis is a demonstration of FAITH. You trust G-d's word, not the circumstances. If it looks like it gets worse, you STILL trust His word.

#3 You will never have what you cannot be happy for....If you resent your neighbors stuff, G-d will not give you any more stuff. You must be happy for those who are blessed or you will not be blessed.

May not be what you want to hear, but its the Bible truth.

Answer 8

Satan does not have to persecute those who already follow his directions. Anyone who is trying to follow God will suffer because Satan is in control here right now. All the governments are in his pocket, the commercial system is greedy and immoral, the false religions abound and flourish. Why do you seem so puzzled?? Read your Bible and lean not on your own understanding.

Answer 9

OK, the way I understand it there are three laws that govern all. God's law, man's law, and natural law. God's laws are in the Holy Bible, man's law are all governmental laws, and natural law is things natural that happen of themselves. You are not under any unlucky star or all of that mambo jumbo. You were given divine talents, gifts, skills etc. Inventory your life, resources, employment etc. Search your environment, workplace, research before purchasing. Remember that if your neighbor has his day as every dog does, yours will be upcoming. Count your blessings. If you believe things are really bad, seek professional counseling or talk to your minister. Seek therapy in friends, family, mom, dad, and very TRUSTED peers. Observe others very carefully, they could have problems worse than yours that you have no inkling of. Hang in there is that advise that has gotten me through consecutive bad times. Adversity will never win. Above all say your prayers and ask God for help through His son Jesus Christ. Take care and God bless

Answer 10

God didn't give them their good fortune. To say 'They have fortune because God was gracious' is not an arguement, but an explanation. An ad hoc fallacy. An explanation often dressed up as an arguement:

If we assume that God treats all people equally, then the following is an ad hoc explanation:

"I was healed from cancer."

"Praise the Lord, then. He is your healer."

"So, will He heal others who have cancer?"

"Er... The ways of God are mysterious."

We make our own luck and our own misery. Don't put it in someone elses hands because its our own fortune or misfortune. Life's not fair and the hands we are dealt are not always fair.

"Everyone has the right to believe and accept what he or she wants, but reality doesn't discriminate. Reality is not different for different people. Not once has reality excused anyone for good intentions ignorance or stubbornness. Reality shows no mercy, accepts no excuses, and issues no pardons. Reality does not "turn the other cheek." This does not mean that reality is cruel, it just means that reality is."

Answer 11

U should read "Ayub" in the bible. U should still believe in Him. I am sure that he has a very good and perfect plan for each person. U should read the bible and go to the church. I am sure ur soul will be well. you will know how much God loves you.